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You know it just struck me that you are completely correct. To put it bluntly that's why when asked most poly people will say almost automatically that this isn't for everyone. If you can't handle intimacy and being totally honest and open with one person it's bound to be a disaster if you add more to the mix! The truth is though, that the same skill sets are crucial for both monogamy and polyamory. If you practice honesty, the willingness to accept a no graciously and can compromise equitably then having a threesome probably won't change much but if you have problems then chances are any type of sexual play that isn't the norm for your relationship is going to cause problems.
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Elodie
"A threesome is ok when all three participants are saying a sober, enthusiastic, and 100% certain "OH YES!" It is ok when all three participants are clear about boundaries, and have discussed compromises. It's ok when all the
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"A threesome is ok when all three participants are saying a sober, enthusiastic, and 100% certain "OH YES!" It is ok when all three participants are clear about boundaries, and have discussed compromises. It's ok when all the participants are eager, relaxed and excited. It won't stop the fears and jealousies but if you are openly communicating it will lessen the impact of these negative feelings."
I believe that's true of all sex. 100% every time, be completely honest with yourself and your partner/s, be open, communicate, feel free to say "stop" at ANY point, etc. So many people have a hard time with this when there are just two people involved. less
I believe that's true of all sex. 100% every time, be completely honest with yourself and your partner/s, be open, communicate, feel free to say "stop" at ANY point, etc. So many people have a hard time with this when there are just two people involved. less
