Relationships - the best books. - Created by Dragon on Jan 10, 2009: EdenFantasys Forum

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Dragon

In my life I've read a lot of books about sex and a lot of books about relationships and improving communication. The two relationship books that stand out the most are both by John Gray.

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus and
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus in the bedroom.

I've even given the first one as a wedding present.

What are some of the relationship books that you've read that are outstanding?
What are the ones that you think truly suck?

(I think that Eden might actually expand their books and would love some guidance on the BEST books!)

01/10/2009

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Beautiful Dreamer

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Opening Up is a phenomenal book, IMO.

01/10/2009

Dragon

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Opening Up is a phenomenal book, IMO.

Yeah, I'm loving that one. But it doesn't talk about communication skills- at least as far as I've read. It talks a lot about what you need to know if you're going to have sex with other people and how people that do so "talk."

It assumes you know how to talk.

I'd like to see Eden take responsibility for books that promote and support a healthy relationship. Especially since they have books that support some wonderful sexuality, but beyond the traditional and known models.

01/10/2009

Dame Demi

I'd find ANY book more useful if I could actually get my husband to pay attention to it and take it seriously...

01/11/2009

Epiphora

I've never read the John Gray books, but I've heard that they reinforce gender roles/stereotypes way too much, which is not my style at all.

01/11/2009

Dragon

Epiphora- there are actually differences in gender that he explains well. I'm not sure that is reinforcing or not. My husband and I read that one about in our first or second year of marriage (after dating for several years.) Time and time again, I'd read something and think "No. That makes absolutely no sense at all. Men can not possibly be that much of an idiot. But wait.. If that really is the case, then this behavior would make sense." So I'd go ask my husband and he would find it a truly apt description and get excited and elaborate on why. I'd sit there with my head spinning while I tried to understand (remember my first thought was men couldn't be that much of an idiot!) He did the same thing to me.

I think the books gave both of us insights into the others that we were able to take away and move forward with understanding.

Dame Demi- I know where you are coming from. Hugs.

01/11/2009

Firemeup

Check out Passionate Marriage by Schnarch. It's about how relationships force us to grow and how we can break negative cycles, and how the relationship's sex life plays into that - Schnarch was actually the first one to combine relationship therapy with sex therapy, and the result is amazing. He mostly talks about married couples, but it's clearly for anyone in a long-term relationship.

I also found "You Just Don't Understand" by Deborah Tannen very interesting. It's not really a relationship book - it's about the differences between men and women, in how they see the world, in how they communicate, etc - but it's great as a starting point for discussion and communication.

01/29/2009

CSEA

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Great post and I love the ideas of communicating about the information in the books!

06/18/2011

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