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Does thinking about sex help you sleep?

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Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her awake.

In general, thinking about pleasant topics helps you to relax and subsequently drift off. But sex, for many, is also a very exciting topic and thinking about it can result in a person getting "in the mood," which might make sleeping harder.

If you were trying to sleep, would thinking about sex or fantasizing help or hinder you?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
It helps me get to sleep.
20
It keeps me awake.
46
It varies - sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't.
22
I've never tried it, but I think I would fall asleep.
I've never tried it, but it would probably keep me up
2
I've never even thought about it - I'm not sure.
4
Shiny objects are awesome! ("Other" option.)
10
Total votes: 104 (91 voters)
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
An orgasm helps me sleep - not thinking about it. Thinking about leads to an erection and that leads to...

Well you get the point...
02/09/2012
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her ... more
Just makes me horny, which makes it difficult to fall asleep
02/09/2012
Contributor: Gary A. Gary A.
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her ... more
It keeps me wide awake and horny.
02/09/2012
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
sometimes, it's definitely nice to play out a scene in my head to fall asleep to. it always translates its way into my dreams somehow too, so that's a plus!
02/09/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
Well there have been times when thinking about sexual things was the prelude to really nice dreams, but it's more likely to to leave me awake and sexually frustrated. Now great sex precedes wonderful sleep!
02/09/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by switzerland
sometimes, it's definitely nice to play out a scene in my head to fall asleep to. it always translates its way into my dreams somehow too, so that's a plus!
Ah, I'm envious! It's very rare for me to have sex dreams, and when I do they're usually... unpleasant.
02/09/2012
Contributor: sarahswallows sarahswallows
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her ... more
if i think about it i will want it
02/09/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
An orgasm helps me sleep - not thinking about it. Thinking about leads to an erection and that leads to...

Well you get the point...
Ha ha, you're absolutely right. Thinking about sex will only keep me awake, next thing I'll be doing is wake my husband up for some actual sex, after that I'm sure to fall asleep right away!
02/10/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by Darklyvan
Just makes me horny, which makes it difficult to fall asleep
Ditto, same for me. I try to think about anything ELSE if I want to go to sleep. lol A nice orgasm can help me fall asleep, but thinking about it and not getting it has quite the opposite effect.
02/10/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
It makes my mind wonder. But having an orgasm helps me sleep.
02/10/2012
Contributor: Destri Destri
Just thinking about it and not acting on it keeps me awake.
02/10/2012
Contributor: wdanas wdanas
Puts me to sleep, but that may be due to thinking of sex scenes in books or movies that were pleasant, rather than fantasizing myself in the act. If I start thinking of my husband and things we would do, I'd probably roll over and wake him up.
02/10/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her ... more
It doesn't help me sleep
02/10/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I'm a little surprised by the results so far, but it's pretty interesting all the same.

I think it works for me because just thinking about sex doesn't usually turn me on by itself. It's very pleasant, but I have to include some other element to really get going. I will agree with one thing, though: when all else fails, masturbating usually does the trick!
02/10/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Oddly enough, yes, it does. Maybe my fantasies are really boring?
02/10/2012
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her ... more
Quite frankly, if I am really tired, I just fall asleep. But if I can't sleep, just thinking about sex wouldn't do it (without external stimulation by another individual); I just read or watch TV until I dose off.
02/10/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
It just depends. Sometimes I can fall asleep and sometimes I just get really aroused and have to act on it.
02/10/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her ... more
keeps me awake.
02/10/2012
Contributor: Swish Swish
thinking about sex keeps me up
02/10/2012
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I can't sleep thinking about sex, I just become more wide awake and agitated. So, my toys are always available and then I will sleep like a rock. An orgasm does wonders for my sleep!
02/10/2012
Contributor: Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
If I'm not already ~in the mood~ and it's just fantasizing, then yeah, it does often help me get to sleep, if only because I'm focusing on something and my mind is fairly calm.
02/11/2012
Contributor: ddd masturbator(bye all!) ddd masturbator(bye all!)
I generally don't think about wild, crazy sex, but I will think about cuddling and some playful touches... caresses... no wild sex, though... I think that would keep me awake
02/11/2012
Contributor: nakedbear nakedbear
Mor elikely to keep me awake.
02/14/2012
Contributor: Teacookie Teacookie
SHINEY!!!!!!!!!!
02/14/2012
Contributor: ellejay ellejay
Defffinitely keeps me awake, haha.
02/14/2012
Contributor: bsgs bsgs
definitely keeps me awake...until i have an orgasm, then i fall asleep pretty damn fast
02/15/2012
Contributor: voenne voenne
It has the opposite effect on me. But I have trouble sleeping to begin with.
02/21/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day about what we do when we're having trouble falling asleep. I told her that, most of the time, thinking about sex is the most effective for me. She replied that doing the same would keep her ... more
No I can't think about it otherwise it keeps me awake.
05/22/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I love this post because it really does help me fall asleep! It's like counting sheep...but more fun
06/02/2012