Has your s/o fantasy ever freaked you out?

Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
Good friend Sofia calls me about two nights ago and says "My husband wants to have a four-way with two other women". Now, keep in mind, he had no specific women in mind and it was just a dream of his for a long time. To my friend, this is basically cheating. Their entire marriage was based around trust and she'd never dream of kissing or sleeping with another man/woman.

Him admitting this is making her re-think her whole relationship! My husband and I are out of town, and we don't know what to tell her. She's called the last two nights just crying. Her husband... Well, she got so upset that she made him leave and he's been sleeping at his brothers.

I know I can't make her decisions but I just don't know what to tell either of them. I know this is a common fantasy, but is it something "unfaithful"? I know in my relationship it would be considered unfaithful and probably something I would leave him over. But since this isn't happening to me I'm just speechless. I know she needs help and I was hoping someone on here had some good advice for her.
02/15/2012
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Contributor: Subbi Subbi
No I think I freak him out sometimes lol
02/15/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Is it a deal breaker to him that he can't act out his fantasy?

If it isn't, what's she freaking out about?

If it involves children or incest, I'd be concerned. Otherwise, it's just a fantasy.

However, if she feels that his thoughts have to be policed, then maybe they're not suited for each other.
02/15/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Is it a deal breaker to him that he can't act out his fantasy?

If it isn't, what's she freaking out about?

If it involves children or incest, I'd be concerned. Otherwise, it's just a fantasy.

However, if she ... more
This, more or less.
02/15/2012
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
Everyone should be able to have fantasies. And I think they should be able to share them with their partner without fear of rejection or criticism.
02/18/2012
Contributor: PrettiGirlRock PrettiGirlRock
Has he ever cheated before? If so, this could be why it was taken so badly.

Personally, I don't think I would leave my husband over a fantasy unless he did more than share his thoughts.
02/19/2012