The New Intimacy

Should I ask my man if it's okay to invite a male friend to join us?

Skip to last post
Set alerts
Updates
Forum search
Contributor: LambChop LambChop
My man is very open minded. We have been with other women in the past and both enjoyed it. I do prefer men to women and would love to bring in another man for a session. My old bf would probably be willing. This would be straight straight action on their part.

What do you think? Should I bring it up? Or just invite the old bf over?
05/31/2011
  • Treat Her! Gift Set For Women For $69.99 Only
  • Complete lovers gift set
  • Upgrade Your Hands-Free Play!
  • Long-distance pleasure set for couples
  • Save Extra 20% On Love Cushion And Toy Set!
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
If you've never had a male partner join you guys before I'd make sure to bring it up to your man first. He might be all for it, but he might be really against it and it's better to find out right up front before you're stuck dealing with the aftermath of just having your ex show up to join you two.
05/31/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
It's always better to ask in my opinion, especially if an old boyfriend is involved. From the little you've said, I don't think your guy would mind having a MFM threesome, but the identity of the other guy is always a good thing to discuss.
05/31/2011
Contributor: stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
I'd ask. If my girlfriend wanted it I'd do it. After all it is for her pleasure. It could get ugly if not asked. You may want to have it setup 1st. Notify the other male you have in mind that it is a possibility that it could happen in 30 minutes so he wouldn't change his mind.
06/04/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by LambChop
My man is very open minded. We have been with other women in the past and both enjoyed it. I do prefer men to women and would love to bring in another man for a session. My old bf would probably be willing. This would be straight straight action on ... more
I'd bring it up. Communication is really important.
06/04/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Ask for every thing you want and you might get half of it. Mention it and see how it goes.
06/04/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
Don't surprise him. Even more not with an ex. Ouch! Bring it up I think he'll choose someone else. But it's like the worst nightmare to me.
06/04/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Quote:
Originally posted by LambChop
My man is very open minded. We have been with other women in the past and both enjoyed it. I do prefer men to women and would love to bring in another man for a session. My old bf would probably be willing. This would be straight straight action on ... more
Definitely bring it up first... If it were any other guy, then it would probably go over better, but an ex boyfriend? I don't know, that would bother me if I were the guy, I think. xP

Mainly because--why did you two break up? Is the guy really an alright guy or an ass? I wouldn't want someone I love to have any involvement with someone who was a jerk, is all. If he's really on good terms with both of you it should go over smoothly, but still discuss it with him!
06/05/2011
Contributor: Gigi128 Gigi128
I would ask your boyfriend. & see what he says
06/05/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
It can't hurt to mention it, he might be really turned on by the thought and he might say no but nothing ventured nothing gained right?
06/05/2011
Contributor: Evercurious Evercurious
There is no harm in broaching the subject. Openness and honesty in communication are important and you never know, he may be up for it. That being said, choosing an ex-boyfriend may be a difficult hurdle. You may have better luck choosing someone you both know and trust rather than someone with whom you were in a relationship in the past. He may start to wonder what he's lacking or what your old boyfriend did better given that you want to bring him back into the picture.
06/05/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
Do not just invite another man over. That's an incredibly thoughtless breach of trust. You should spare a thought for your man's dignity and discuss it if you must. If he's as open minded as you say, then perhaps he'll consent. Otherwise, err on the side of respect.
06/06/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Howells
Don't surprise him. Even more not with an ex. Ouch! Bring it up I think he'll choose someone else. But it's like the worst nightmare to me.
agreed!
06/10/2011