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Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I once had a sort-of boyfriend who could not stop laughing when I confessed to him that I masturbated. He seemed to hold the opinion that this is something men do, and any woman who masturbates is a strange bird. Of course this pissed me off, because everyone knows that women are capable of having high sex drives too! Has anyone else had this happen to them?
(It encouraged me to see the poll about men saying that they like to see their partner bring themselves to orgasm, because I used to think that men were not turned on by this.)
04/18/2012
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Contributor: underHim underHim
Guy sounds like an idiot.
04/18/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
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Originally posted by underHim
Guy sounds like an idiot.
He was.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by underHim
Guy sounds like an idiot.
I feel sorry for whatever girl has the misfortune to end up his wife.
04/18/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Wow that is messed up and no this has not happened to me.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Teaser Teaser
That guy was a total idiot! I LOVE to see my wife please herself, and I will ask her to do that for me sometimes, and sometimes she will just offer. I was really glad that she DID masturbate, because she could show and direct me on how she liked to be pleasured.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Teaser Teaser
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Originally posted by vanilla&chocolate
I once had a sort-of boyfriend who could not stop laughing when I confessed to him that I masturbated. He seemed to hold the opinion that this is something men do, and any woman who masturbates is a strange bird. Of course this pissed me off, because ... more
I hope he didn't mess you up with his idiotic behavior!
04/18/2012
Contributor: CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
I loved knowing that my girlfriend masturbated. It was a huge turn on and gave me something to think about during the day This guy just didn't appreciate what he had apparently. Just keep doing what you do
04/18/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
My boyfriend thinks it's hot and so does any other guy I've told. That guy was a jerk. I wouldn't let him get to you.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I actually have meet "boys" that say this and even make fun of women who do. I call them boys because the ones I have met are not mature enough to be called men. The "men" I know all think it is super hot to watch a women masturbate.

I am very open about my masturabation and toy usage. And I have had comments like "what you can't get real dick?" I always comment back "I can do better for myself then anyone can. Plus not to mention most men love a women who knows how to please herself." They usually don't know what to say to me.
04/18/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
My husband doesn't completely understand my need to masturbate to finish myself off after he's already climaxed. With that being said, he has never laughed at me for doing it. He doesn't want me to get realistic toys because he's insecure.
04/18/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
My husband loves it when I masturbate!! He was after me for years to do it for him, of course once I did we were hooked. What a sexy and intimate thing to do with another person.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
My husband doesn't completely understand my need to masturbate to finish myself off after he's already climaxed. With that being said, he has never laughed at me for doing it. He doesn't want me to get realistic toys because he's insecure.
"My husband doesn't completely understand my need to masturbate to finish myself off after he's already climaxed."

Why not? Does he think it isn't important that you climax as well? WTF?
04/18/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I've never had a guy straight out say that it was weird but,I was with a guy who said that I do it too much.To think about it now he had no basis of thinking that it was "too much" it was just the fact that he saw that I had a vibrator.
After I showed him that I had a vibrator he asked constantly when was the last time I did it and when I said a few days he'd think I was lying.I think his thoughts was that any woman who has a vibrator most be "addicted" (yes he used that word) to masturbation on some level.
04/18/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
Thank you for the positive responses, everyone! Even at the time, I had an inkling that HE was the one who was off-base and that most guys probably would find even the thought of me masturbating to be very erotic. I'm glad I was right
04/18/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
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Originally posted by Love Obsessed
I've never had a guy straight out say that it was weird but,I was with a guy who said that I do it too much.To think about it now he had no basis of thinking that it was "too much" it was just the fact that he saw that I had a ... more
From my interpretation of this, I see that he was probably intimidated by your vibrator, and felt that you would "replace" him with it - I have heard of guys thinking this, no matter how erroneous it is.
04/18/2012
Contributor: pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
He sounds like an ass, no one should shame you for what you enjoy sexually.
04/19/2012
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
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Originally posted by underHim
Guy sounds like an idiot.
I agree
04/22/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
He sounds like dimwit. And really insecure and clueless. Gladly most men are not like that.
04/22/2012
Contributor: Bullfroggy and Rose Bullfroggy and Rose
Most men would love to see that.
04/22/2012
Contributor: Kat Shanahan Kat Shanahan
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I feel sorry for whatever girl has the misfortune to end up his wife.
Hopefully any woman he has a relationship with would find out he's a moron before they got to the marriage stage.

...Hopefully.
04/23/2012
Contributor: extrafun extrafun
I luv to watch my wife masterbate and make her self squirt, we will even masterbate for each other and when Im on the road we will send video of this to each other. I am more into my wife haveing pleasure than my self, even to the point that if she said she wanted another guy (sex only) I would be ok with it as long as I got to watch.
04/23/2012
Contributor: palindromic palindromic
Damn. He's not just an idiot, but he's a jerk - mocking someone for the harmless activities they do with their own body is pretty messed up. Glad you got away from that guy!
04/23/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
After being together for a while, my man now looks back on some of his exes and actually thinks they might have been kind of weird - because he doesn't remember them ever masturbating or owning toys of any kind. So he is totally fine with women masturbating, and actually thinks it's more normal to do it than to not do it.

I'm glad you aren't with that guy anymore!
04/23/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I think this guy is out of the norm cause MOST All men are turned on by it
04/23/2012
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
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Originally posted by vanilla&chocolate
I once had a sort-of boyfriend who could not stop laughing when I confessed to him that I masturbated. He seemed to hold the opinion that this is something men do, and any woman who masturbates is a strange bird. Of course this pissed me off, because ... more
That's just crazy! Someone was taught all the wrong things about woman and sexuality obviously. I'm not ashamed to say that I do it and that my Husband loves to see me do it...and honestly I love to watch him do it to!
04/23/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
Wow if a guy did that to me I definitely would not see him again. What a loser. There are plenty of guys who appreciate women who embrace their sexuality.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
My boyfriend likes knowing that I get myself off. It's not a problem for us, but I've had former partners laugh. I never saw me again.
04/23/2012
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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Originally posted by vanilla&chocolate
I once had a sort-of boyfriend who could not stop laughing when I confessed to him that I masturbated. He seemed to hold the opinion that this is something men do, and any woman who masturbates is a strange bird. Of course this pissed me off, because ... more
What an ignorant ass! I bet he was also inmature and didnt no alot about sex either huh? There is nothing wrong with it..its just as natural as it is for a man,and most men like to see a woman masterbate because it shows your comfortable with yourself and no your body well!...Unless he finds a woman with just as less knowledge as him he more than likely will be going through alot of gfs..for his ignorance.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I feel sorry for whatever girl has the misfortune to end up his wife.
Actually, I kind of hope that every single woman he's been with since then has told him they masturbate. It'll either give him a wake-up call or drive him insane. Either outcome is fine by me.

As for me, if a guy was genuinely confused by my masturbation, I'd do my best to be polite in explaining it. Ignorance on the matter is annoying, but forgivable so long as he isn't rude. However, if he laughed at me for masturbating, I would turn right around and laugh at him. In his face. And then I'd tell him that he obviously doesn't know anything about us ladies.
05/06/2012