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Contributor: Goodkittygnbad Goodkittygnbad
I suppose this is where this will belong, it's the closest fitting area I could find.

For years, I've watched, read, and researched Pony Play. I first saw Pony Play on a brief clip of Real Sex when I was a teenager. Since then, I've wanted to be trained, but due to my rural area and lack of trainers, that has never happened. My husband knows of this fantasy, but it's just not 'up his creek' and he doesn't believe he would be able to pull it off. He's told me more than once, that if I can find a Mistress to train me, that he'd be more than happy for me to fulfill this desire.

Most of the websites that I've visited seem to be against outsiders wanting to learn, you have people that aren't experienced saying they want to train you, or just the occasional creepy reply that you can tell all they want is a sexual experience.

For those of you with more...experience on the dominant side, how do prefer that possible subs/ponies approach you? I don't want to seem over enthusiastic, but then, I don't want it to seem like just a passing phase.

And, for those on either side, how do you find others in your area that share your interest? I wouldn't mind driving an hour or so for training, but I cant drive cross country where a lot of activity seems to be. Any suggestions would be great.
03/17/2009
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Contributor: Red Red
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Originally posted by Goodkittygnbad
I suppose this is where this will belong, it's the closest fitting area I could find.

For years, I've watched, read, and researched Pony Play. I first saw Pony Play on a brief clip of Real Sex when I was a teenager. Since then, ... more
Pony play is not one of my kinks, but I certainly understand the allure - good for you for negotiating this one out with your husband! I love hearing about healthy couples embracing elements of poly in ways that fit them. I just get the warm fuzzies from it

You may want to consider biting the bullet and going to a professional domme. you could even do couples sessions with your husband so he could see what it's all about, even if to just simply understand what's involved.

Anyways, email me privately with your approximate location (only if you're comfortable, that is!); I have some contacts I can ask for recommendations, pro and non pro.
03/18/2009
Contributor: Goodkittygnbad Goodkittygnbad
My husband understands that even though we're married, my eyes still tend to wander to the females. Of course, I'd never do anything without permission, but it's nice to look. So, he agreed that since it's not his thing, that a Mistress would do. I'm quite excited.

I've thought about going to a professional domme, but good grief the ones that -look- professional (I've looked through loads of websites in the past) are way out of my price range. The ones that I can afford, kind of give me the creeps just by looking at it. (got to be comfortable, right?)

And, thank you for the help. I'll send that information over.
03/18/2009
Contributor: Sir Sir
If they rub against my leg or my hand, that's good. Or if they make noises at me, that's cute too. Shows that they're being a good little pony for me. If you mean approach as in interenet-wise, then referring to me as Master, Mister, or Sir is good. Anything else just comes as it comes.

Aside from that though, I'm not sure how you find people. Conventions are good, actually, though I tend to personally not enjoy them. If you have to pay for your trainer/owner, then I wouldn't personally do it. I'm assuming that you want something more permanent, not something that might just be for fun whenever you're in the mood. If that's what you're looking for, then go for the pay-your-way. If it's not, don't bother. There are many techniques that you can learn on your own, then finding a partner will just come to you.

I met my little girl over the internet, actually. She knew what I was into, but I didn't know much about what she was, so she knew that I was a bit of a whack-job. But really, all of the things with our relationship just came with time. We're good sexual partners to each other, so we're both very open to many things.
06/13/2009