Changing to a D/s relationship?

Contributor: Iggins09 Iggins09
Hello everyone. I'm wanting to begin a D/s relationship with my husband, him being the dominate and me being the submissive. My husband is what you'd call a soft guy where he doesn't do anything out of the ordinary, although he does enjoy anal with me. I was my husband's first for sex. He has given me the okay to try anal on him since he can enjoy anal sex with me though we haven't been able to afford the gear right now. Anyway, I presented the question to him today about starting a D/s relationship and all he did was shrug his shoulders. I've started getting into the bondage scene like putting clothespins on my vaginal lips and clit and on my nipples. I asked him last night while we were having fun to help me put the clothespins on and he said, "I don't know how you do it." I told him it was easy and he ended up doing it just to do it. I want him to enjoy doing things like that to me.

We have to stick to anal right now because I'm on bed and pelvic rest due to placental complications with my pregnancy. It is driving me nuts. He told me not to think it's weird that I like bondage situations because everyone has their quirks in sex. I told him I don't think it's weird but everyone I've been with has had no interest in a D/s and if they've tried for me, it's been half-assed and I seriously feel like I'm going wanting. Before my bed/pelvic rest order, we didn't have sex much because I'm having a hard time enjoying it. He's already put his foot down about bringing a woman in and absolutely no guys so I can't enjoy that even though I'm bisexual. I feel wanting in that area too. I had an involvement with a friend and his girlfriend in college and I was drunk as hell. I regrettably do not think I will have another opportunity to enjoy sex with a woman while being sober because I'm married. Just before I met my husband, I was going to give the other side a shot. I decided to give him a chance and now I'm married to him. He's not the type to be aroused by me engaging in sexual acts with another woman in front of him (sad for me) and (as far as I know) he's not a dominate type. I'm starting to feel like that's what I need to get a decent sexual experience. He's told me he knows he needs to get better yet he won't watch porn or try anything different. I'm starting to feel like I need a real D/s relationship. I go wanting for a real good hard fuck and I've told him that.

I'm sorry if this seems like I'm rambling and thank you for reading this far . Any advice would be great . No bashing please. We're all adults that have our questions .
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Sexual compatibility or the lack thereof can make or break a relationship. If he's not able to satisfy you and you feel like you're missing out on something then it might be time for the really hard talk. But, it sounds like he just hasn't experienced that side of pleasure and if you continue to talk about it openly and praise him when he does something you enjoy that fits those slots then with time you may get what you need.

For what it's worth, it took my husband and I a very long time to get our stuff together in the bedroom. If you stick with it, it can happen!