Lack of sex

I don't think it's quite that you aren't attracted to him anymore. Something to remember: It's nobodies fault, not yours or his that this is occurring. I would believe that it's probably due to the medication you're on, and probably from hormones from pregnancy that is limiting your sex drive.

Although I can understand your husbands frustrations he should really try to be more patient with you. If you don't want to have sex, then screaming at you about it isn't going to help out much. Putting a lot of pressure into having sex makes it just that much less attractive than before. So fighting about it, making a sex IOU list, and things like that just make it stressful. Stress is one of the WORST things to involve with sex and should be avoided as much as possible.

You yourself should try not to think of it as a chore, it just makes it much longer that way. I understand it's extremely hard not to do in your state, but when sex becomes something you just "want to be done already" it just becomes extra difficult on everyone involved. Never blame yourself over this, it's not that you aren't trying, it just takes a lot more effort than before to get in the mood and that's difficult to do.

Do you two do enough foreplay? The meds and such factors will probably still limit your desire for sex, but perhaps things could turn out better if you both take more time to get each other into the mood. That, and being romantic with each other could probably make it easier. Candles, flowers, warm baths, and all that cliché stuff can actually do some wonders for some. Also be sure to set aside any worries you have for a few hours; If you have an appointment to go to soon, or if you're worried about getting some task done it wrecks your mood.

Something that could also probably help is to talk to your prescriber about your issues with the medication. They could probably lower your dosage, recommend a different medication, or just talk with you about some ways to mend your problem better.


I hope it helps, and I wish you both good luck. Keep calm and keep strong.

I have two questions for you and that is: what was your sex drive like before you got pregnant and were you on prozac at this time?

Stormy asked a good question. it's important, to know what was your feeling's before medication, and before pregnancy. For me I've been pregnant 3 times and I've been on Medication for anxiety that messes with your sex drive ("Sexual dysfunction" is what the doctor called it), and I know what Pregnancy can do to your sex drive. with the two mixed together it can be quite a blow to your mind.
For my second pregnancy I didn't want to I didn't even think about it, I didn't want to put the effort into it. It is important to try to keep some kind of intimacy, closeness. Also that little list he's keeping of all the times you owe him head for is not cool, just tell him not to do that, it's not major but it could snowball.
Since your on Eden maybe you could get him a Fleshlight, or a Tenga Flip hole, their the best. and they could take off some of the pressure put on you.