Well, this is a bit bland, are you asking for advice? If so, do you use toys in your sex life? Or porn? Or fantasizing? All of these help keep our sex life going! We also try doing foreplay only and not just intercourse, that's been fun the last few times we've played. Do it spontaneously, when your partner isn't expecting it!

To say that everyone is different - is to state the obvious. I assume since you're married that you have some idea of what used to turn on your guy - perhaps that's the place to start. What has he wanted to try that you have resisted - obvious examples are more oral - or some anal exploration.

Would he love to see you shaved smooth - decked out in a tiny LolaLuna micro-g-string link or maybe something sexy like Sylvie Monthule intimate jewelry link?

Off course there are tons of vibes and dildos out there - if he isn't intimidated by that kind of play. Some people think of these toys as solo instruments of pleasure - my wife and I always use them together. I can use some toys to bring her to her first orgasm - then join in the fun to bring her #2 - or more, while working up to my own release.

I'm a very visual kind of guy - so I go for the eye-candy. But I must say that the most erotic thing about the shaving, lingerie or jewelry - isn't the actual item - it's that fact that it means enough to her that she would put the effort into thinking of something to please me - then following through.

Think of it - it's not the flowers per se - it's that he put forth the effort to get something nice for you. It's pretty much the same context - except much more direct - more sexual - men are not so subtle!

One last observation - many guys by this time in a marriage are are tired of having to always pressure & negotiate for sex. If you take the initiative he won't feel like your doing it just because he pressured you. There's nothing sexier than a woman who WANTS to have SEX!

Good luck

try going to a hotel every once in a while

You're at the right place! My marriage is much more spicy since joining EF

Try giving us a bit of detail on things you like. Anything you've always wanted to try, but never been brave enough to tell? Try exploring different things. Sometimes a new piece of lingerie or changing your usual style a bit can make all the difference. For example, I'm used to wearing pink, frilly, cute lingerie so when I get a little bad it's a surprise and a turn on and exciting since I rarely go that route. Introduce a new kind of forplay you've never tried before. Even trying it in a different setting can do you some good. My partner has a lot of property for rent in our area so people are constantly moving in and out and leaving a mess. When the cleaning of their crap's all done... well we have new setings for forplay or even the whole thing all the time! Lol. Some couples like just a night out in an un-expensive hotel. Almost all hotels (even the cheap ones) have a sweethearts suite where they'll have romantic style rooms. When I worked at best western older couples would come in all the time that lived in the area, just to rent the heart shaped jacuzzi for a night! They even brought roses on occasion... I had to clean up too! Lol. Not a fun job, but it was sweet. I would suggest starting out with a fresh piece of lingerie. Go for something daring, something that maybe reveals more than you are usually comfortable with. You'll get a nice vulnerable rush and feel great when your partner is super turned on. Well, I hope some of these suggestions here help.

Oh! I almost forgot! My partner and I have the squeaky bed syndrome and the bed will scream to high heavens when we get going and the kids DO NOT need to hear that lol. So we sometimes move things to my vanity where I have a pretty big square shaped, padded stool and we do it right in front of the mirror! That's been fun, but I like lying down too. Thing is, all our floors are hard wood so I ordered some sex furniture! I got a ball thingy that is supposed to have light hand restraints, but from the pics it looks like they'll really only provide something to hold on to rather than restrain you. Anyways, I also got an inexpensive pillow. Not the high priced ones. This one is a blow up pillow thingy that is long enough to lay down on. I think those will REALLY add to things and be exciting. You could try with light bondage, unless you are used to it then you could try something more extreme if you want. Things like the clit and nipple suckers and clamps are interesting. We got some of those with our pillows and ball for sex too, but I don't know when they'll arrive. Anyways I think those little things are super hot to have for couples.

try spicing it up w some sex toys, maybe some lit candles or dim the lights to set the mood. try making a sexy cd with songs that will set both of you in the mood. try new positions that youve always wanted to try. try spicing it up by having sex somewhere other than the rutine place try going to hotel/motel or a diff part of the house or if you wanna get real kinky try it in your car or outside somewhere hidden. try role playing each others fantasys listen to what he wants more of and tell him what you want more of sexually.

try having a 3some?

public sex.

Shove a dildo in his ass.