Should i feel bad or apologize?

Contributor: MilitaryLove MilitaryLove
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I think an apology IS in order.....from HIM to YOU. He is NOT being attentive to YOUR needs. I think you need to have a real heart to heart talk with this guy and maybe TEACH him to be a better lover. Obviously YOU want to make love to him...so TEACH ... more
I agree with Bignuf!!!
02/11/2013
Contributor: grettainsc grettainsc
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Originally posted by libbyv
i don't think so
I agree
02/26/2013
Contributor: Mr. John Mr. John
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
My husband always finishes before I do and he just can't help when he goes soft, that's why I have toys. He doesn't like the whole aspect of he's not able to make me orgasm, but he leaves the room and lets me finish myself off in ... more
Firstly, no apologies are necessary by the original poster.

Like "unfulfilled", we have the Eroscillator which my wife covets. What is different however, is that I love toys and to finish when she does. Myself, I enjoy being hard inside her while she uses it. I can see the intensity of the waves growing in her face, as well as I can feel the vibrations. At the time, I'm doing short motions against her G spot while this happens. This involves my having a hand hold on my shaft, so as to apply more rubbing pressure against her G spot with my penis head. I find my focusing on this allows me to slow down, but remain very excited and focused. When my wife starts going over the top, she just drops the Eroscillator and rolls her eyes back, and I know it's time. At other times, she will tell me to wait for it. And, it is so worth it.

I personally try to find ways of slowing down events. I prefer employing toys on her and enjoy watching her pleasure. This extends play, and heightens the experience.

I did come up with a plan for when I would cum to early. Was it ever a dismal failure. I bought what is called a Vixskin "Colossus". The Colossus is a high quality realistic silicone sleeve which fits over a man. The idea was that I could put it on and continue going with her until I've hopefully recovered. What wrong was that the Colossus has inside dimensions which your penis needs to meet. In my case it fit like a glove. What I did not plan on was that the sleeves walls are a quarter inch thick. I am about two inch in dia. when excited. This caused the Colossus to be two and a half inch in dia. My wife said it was just to large. That it hurt. Now, that was a disappointment. I still think the idea was good, but the sizing won't work for me. Vixskin makes a size smaller, but I'm larger than it’s outside dimensions, so it will not work. But, if you could have a frank conversation with your partner about such a toy, and it meets your needs, I have no doubt that this could be used successfully.
04/08/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Heck no. If it's been a long time since he's made you cum, this is totally acceptable. Especially since you told him about it. It's about you getting off too. I hope it all worked out.
04/08/2013
Contributor: unicorn64 unicorn64
Sounds like me before hubby became impident. Why I never had an orgasm before. Why I keep trying to use toys. 46 years and did not even know how to masterbate. Trying to wake him up. Did get him going one night recently and no mater what I did I could not get him hard. I gave him head and all he would do was finger me. I begged him to eat me. You do not owe yu an apology, he owes you one.
04/08/2013