The Hitachi Magic Wand and my husband's reaction to it.

Contributor: bryenswife bryenswife
I have been looking into geting a Hitachi for 3 yrs now. I found a kick ass deal on ebay, they were buy 1 get 1 free. I was so excited to finally get it , I was getting tired of buying batteries. So when it finally got here, I could not wait to try with my husband. I took it out of the box and plugged it in to show him just how powerful it was, the second he laid eyes on it, he said he wanted NOTHING to do with it.

I don't know if it was the size of it or my excitement about it that turned him off, but he does not want to try it with me. He has no issues with cock rings or me using my bullet vibe when we are intimate. He saw the disaapointed look on my face and said I shouldn't act as if I REALLY got this Hitachi for the both us. He says it looks likes a torture device from the 70s. I know it is not that big a deal, but I really wanted to try this with him, we have only been married a year but we have been a couple for 6. After 6 years, the sex can get a little stale, so I am trying to keep it spicy but he will not try anything new. No food, no sex in the kitchen or shower, living room or anywhere besides the damn bedroom.

Did anyone else get a reaction like this from a partner about a sex toy or anything new you wanted to try. He never comes up with ideas for sex, it is always me. If anyone has any suggestions or advice I would appreciate it very much. Feel free to share your story as well.
11/04/2012
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Contributor: luvslukin luvslukin
All I can say is he doesn't know what he's missing.

Man, me and my GF put that thing to use several times a week and the sounds she makes when we're using it are some of the most beautiful sounds I've ever heard in my life.

Not only that, when she is pressing to her clit while we are having sex the end of the bulb sits on my cock and sends vibrations up into her pussy through my cock. Feels INCREDIBLE for me and I can't even imagine what it must feel like for her.

I don't envy your situation. I've been in relationships where my partner was much less willing to experiment and play than I was and it was very, VERY frustrating. Too bad for him..... you sound like you would be very fun in the bedroom...... or anywhere else for that matter!
11/05/2012
Contributor: frenchtoast frenchtoast
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Originally posted by bryenswife
I have been looking into geting a Hitachi for 3 yrs now. I found a kick ass deal on ebay, they were buy 1 get 1 free. I was so excited to finally get it , I was getting tired of buying batteries. So when it finally got here, I could not wait to try ... more
You should seriously consider investing in something like the Eroscillator or the Smart Wand by Lelo. The Hitachi is too intense for clitoral stimulation. At first I'm sure it felt great but it will soon counteract itself. The vibration is so intense that it will cause desensitization through nerve damage and micro-tears. You can rehabilitate the area using toys with medical grade silicone... that is the exact purpose for the Eroscillator. Please do not ever use the Hitachi for anything other than muscle relief... on the low setting.
12/14/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by bryenswife
I have been looking into geting a Hitachi for 3 yrs now. I found a kick ass deal on ebay, they were buy 1 get 1 free. I was so excited to finally get it , I was getting tired of buying batteries. So when it finally got here, I could not wait to try ... more
Sorry, Im in the same boat. Wish I could help you.
02/08/2013
Contributor: Mr. John Mr. John
Quote:
Originally posted by bryenswife
I have been looking into geting a Hitachi for 3 yrs now. I found a kick ass deal on ebay, they were buy 1 get 1 free. I was so excited to finally get it , I was getting tired of buying batteries. So when it finally got here, I could not wait to try ... more
I would agree with the Eroscillator suggestion. It is quieter, and maybe less intimidating for him. The other advantage is it is great for you and him, and does not get in the way of your stimulating your clit. My wife says it's all about the oscillations. I love being inside her while she uses it. When we can finish together, it is magic.

Possibly you could watch some porn together which depicts methods or types of toys which interests you. It's tricky, so I wish you the best

As a side note, we own the Hitachi. When she bought the Eroscillator, using the grapes side attachment, she never looked back.
04/06/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Old thread, but I wanted to put in my two cents. How about trying it out as a body massager first. Give him a good back and shoulder rub with it to show him how nice this toy can be. My husband and I were both a little blown away when we saw the size of this toy, but showing ways that it can be pleasing to anyone, even in a non-sexual way, makes it a little less intimidating.
04/06/2013
Contributor: Mr. John Mr. John
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Old thread, but I wanted to put in my two cents. How about trying it out as a body massager first. Give him a good back and shoulder rub with it to show him how nice this toy can be. My husband and I were both a little blown away when we saw the ... more
A good suggestion made by PropertyOfPotter.
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