Not our thing
Would you consider having an "open marriage"?
09/27/2012
This may come under the heading be careful what you wish for.
There was letter to advice column (like the old Ann Landers format) - where the woman agreed to be a 'swinger' to make her husband happy. Apparently she was having more fun than him - he wants to stop - she wants to keep seeing the other guys - sounds like a divorce is on tap for this sad couple!
There was letter to advice column (like the old Ann Landers format) - where the woman agreed to be a 'swinger' to make her husband happy. Apparently she was having more fun than him - he wants to stop - she wants to keep seeing the other guys - sounds like a divorce is on tap for this sad couple!
09/28/2012
Absolutely NOT. My man is MY man, mine only.
09/28/2012
That is something I just won't share
09/28/2012
I've been considering demanding one myself if our sexless marriage doesn't change soon. What's the point of monogamy when the person you're dedicating yourself sexually to doesn't want to have sex with you? Lately things have been appeairng to take a turn for the better in my marriage but time will tell.
10/01/2012
My husband is the jealous type so there's no way he'd consider an open marriage.
10/01/2012
I do not think so.
10/01/2012
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My Man and I had an Open Relationship for several years before we were married, after being monogamous. I was in College and he's older than I am and was more experience. I had little experience with men, and we both felt it was necessary for both of us to sow our wild oats and get it out of our systems before furthering the relationship. It was the best thing we could have done.
Originally posted by
RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
We've talked about opening the relationship again, but only with an other couple, and only when we are together. No dating outside the relationship in any way.
However, even though I'm capable of being polyamouraous, I don't think he is. He has a fantasy of two women (which hetero guy doesn't?) but I know, after talking to him, he has NOT thought through all the problem that this could incur. Pregnancy prevention, disease prevention, unwanted drama, one of us falling in LOVE with someone else! He just thinks we could have "fun" with an other couple once in a while and carry on as normal. I don't think it would be possible for us to do so.
So, no. I don't honestly want an Open Relationship right now. Many people experimented with it in the 1970s and for most it was a dismal failure. (Nearly all who experimented ended up in divorce, usually because one or both members of the couple fell in love with someone they were having sex with and couldn't figure out a way to love two people. Not to mention the resentment when one member of the couple had many more sexual partners than the other. Those were the main reason '70s style Open Marriages failed.) Some people do well in a situation like this, I think these people have sorted out the issues, talked about them and have a form of maturity that many do not possess. I think only a small minority of people can safely engage in Open Relationship, and those people are successful. But, I think most people would be not only disappointed (say your husband has a date every Saturday night and you haven't been asked out in months?) and most don't have what it takes to handle the intricacies. A few do and I give them Kudos. But, I think the couple who is successful with Open Marriage are few and far between.
There are a few people on this website who are engaged in Open Relationships are are doing well. I wish them only luck. Some people know how to handle these situations.
10/01/2012
absolutely not! my Mister and i agree that its only each other for life
10/01/2012
No! Did I mention that I would not consider an open marriage?
10/09/2012
Not for us
10/26/2012
No Way.
10/26/2012
don't think so
10/27/2012
nope, not interested in having one.
10/27/2012
I suppose under some circumstances, it MIGHT be POSSIBLE for me to CONSIDER it (that's a lot of conditional-type words, I know), but the chances of me going through with it are so slim, I just answered no. That goes for an open relationship as well as an open marriage (since I don't currently plan on getting married anytime soon).
10/27/2012
if it was just an issue of sex. i'd prefer to swing together as opposed to playing separately. but if it was for more than sex, i am open to poly because i believe that you can have feelings for more than one person at a time. and that if with the right people and handled correctly it can add to a relationship...i would want to know the person even if i wasn't romantically involved with that other person.
and above all honesty and openness with all involved. i would never want for another person to not know about me
and above all honesty and openness with all involved. i would never want for another person to not know about me
10/27/2012
I might
10/29/2012
Couldn't do it and don't want to. Not my thing.
10/30/2012
I'd never rule anything out completely, so I'd consider it if the right situation presented itself.
10/30/2012
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No.
Originally posted by
RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
10/31/2012
Never. I love my man too much to even consider looking at anyone else.
11/06/2012
We are in an open marriage and it's going well
11/06/2012
I have an open relationship with my husband. I wouldn't have considered it earlier on, but I have enough trust now to know that other sexual relationships will not interfere with our relationship and love for each other.
11/06/2012
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Its something I plan on doing. I find that for a lot of people, its not the actual act of sleeping with someone else that they like. Its the idea of not being totally confined to one person sexually for the next 60 odd years.
Originally posted by
RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
11/07/2012
Being single, it's purely hypothetical to me, but I wouldn't dismiss it out of hand.
11/07/2012
I wouldn't want an open marriage.
11/07/2012
never!
11/07/2012
Consider? Hmmm...have thought about and talked about threesomes, but decided that the idea is better as a fantasy.
11/19/2012
I would be all right with bringing another person in so that we could have a 3 some but I have no desire to do anything without my partner being there.
12/08/2012
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We are happy so why would u need to.
Originally posted by
RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
12/13/2012