Would you consider having an "open marriage"?

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Would you consider having an "open marriage"?

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Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
nope.
12/13/2012
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
There's just no way that I could deal with it emotionally, and I just don't feel it's right for me.
12/13/2012
Contributor: EdenG EdenG
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Originally posted by SneakersAndPearls
For me, I would not consider it.
an instant no, from me.
12/13/2012
Contributor: MacNCheese MacNCheese
Quote:
Originally posted by RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
It can work, I think.
12/14/2012
Contributor: wildshores wildshores
no, i prefer monogamy.
12/14/2012
Contributor: nikki0668 nikki0668
Don't think so!
12/14/2012
Contributor: falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
i could see us possibly swinging or something like that, but to have an emotional relationship with someone else would not go over well.
12/17/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
no way
12/17/2012
Contributor: freud13 freud13
I don't think I would be able to do so if I got married. I have friends who have open relationships and I admire and respect that. I am not in a place where I would feel the need to do so. I think if two people can agree to it and an open marriage is what's best for them then that is their decision.
12/17/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
That is so not for me.
12/18/2012
Contributor: burtnuh burtnuh
I have some friends who are married, and poly. They're both so happy, and it's not like their home life is any different. They have a child, and when you visit you don't see anything out of the "norm". I think people should do whatever makes them happy. My partner however is not okay with open relationships.
12/19/2012
Contributor: Hermosura21 Hermosura21
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Originally posted by Sirena
That is funny. We were just discussing this last night! We have agreed that couples that can make it work are amazing, but we are just too possessive of each other to make it work. I want to be the one to give him all of his pleasure and I only want ... more
I so agree with u i would never be able to
01/03/2013
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
We have an open marriage. He takes advantage of it more than I do, but it's nice to still have the option. Works just fine for us.
01/03/2013
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Yes I would, under the stipulation that we would both only play with other people and not be in relationships with them, and that we play together and not alone.

Seemed for a while my partner was okay with that but then he backed off a little, now I am wondering how his mind may be made up or continue to change because I would really enjoy us together playing with the same person...
01/06/2013
Contributor: Awux Awux
No, never.
01/06/2013
Contributor: Kyle Hunter Kyle Hunter
oh HELL no..i dont share
01/06/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
No, that is all. Thank you.
02/08/2013
Contributor: kkybf kkybf
nope
02/08/2013
Contributor: petlove0311 petlove0311
nope
02/08/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
No...I don't think so .
02/09/2013
Contributor: SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I can't imagine myself being openly cheated on and happy at the same time. Definitely not my definition of a family.
02/23/2013
Contributor: Missy27 Missy27
No, marriage is complicated on its own, that would just create issues in my opinion.
02/26/2013
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
(Review Program Mentor)
For it to work, you have to have a few things:
* Have a good separation of sex and love. Sex is sex and love is love attitude.
* Not be jealous types.
* Have amazingly good boundaries. If an outside relationship starts to get inappropriate (per your mutually agreed rules) it will be stopped immediately.
* Trust and communication.
* Put your relationship with each other above all others.
I have seen it work for people who have all of these and I have seen it crash down around those that don't.

It would not work for us because we do not have all these factors. For me, I cannot separate sex and love. For me to enjoy sex, I have to be in love with the person. I am also very jealous and do not like to share. I do not want to see him or think about him with someone else.
03/03/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
No, neither of us is interested in that.
03/05/2013
Contributor: MontereyJak MontereyJak
Well, we've not only considered it, we are actually doing it. We swing with other couples and singles as well. Its accentuated our relationship so much more. We trust each other and communicate our thoughts and feeling about what we about to do or have done. We are 100% on the same page about this. For us its just about the love we share for each other and when we are with others its just about the sex, nothing more. Its a turn-on from hell to watch your partner with someone else, but that's just my opinion.
03/13/2013
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
I've got another word for open marriage- "dating"
If you want to see other people then why get married?
03/14/2013
Contributor: Bme Bme
I cherish my wife too much to risk ruining it. I had lots of experiences with women in my younger days. It was fun but didn't make me fulfilled.
03/15/2013
Contributor: Mylo Mylo
Quote:
Originally posted by RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
I like it just being my husband and I. I am a firm believer in a traditional family, but I realize everyone lives life differently and I am okay with that.
03/15/2013
Contributor: Msmueller Msmueller
Quote:
Originally posted by RebelRebelJen
I'm curious how many people here have considered it. I have not, but I hear it works for some couples.
When we were younger and dumber we thought an open marriage was a great idea... not so much... now that were older and trust each other more and can talk freely I think we could revisit that idea but the past experience kinda ruins it.
03/15/2013