Do you consider your familys opinion when picking out a boy/girl friend?

Contributor: Curves Curves
it's important for me to have my family like who i'm dating.
04/09/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
I only care about my opinion when choosing a boyfriend. If I'm seeing someone and my friends or family think that they are wrong for me, I try to listen to their opinions then.
06/22/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Hell to the no. It's ultimately my happiness on the table, not theirs. If they can't be happy for whatever makes me happy, screw em', much as I love my family.
06/22/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My family is generally correct about good and bad girlfriends, so I do take their opinion. Thankfully they love my fiancee!
06/22/2011
Contributor: CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
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Originally posted by jdloelo
I get alot of opinions from family that just make it feel like they are laying down the law on the person. If momma don't like them, they don't tend to last. Just curious if anyone else has this issue in their family.
it depends
07/04/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
I date whomever I want to. My parents are not in my relationship. I firmly believe that the only person who should have a say in who is involved in the relationship is someone who is in that relationship.
Ditto. I agree with this! I'm the same way.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I'd consider my family's opinion before bringing anyone home and introducing them as a boyfriend, but not so much up until that point.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
no because if i listened to my family at all, i would be with a super religious virgin (nothing wrong with you if you though). it's just not my cup of tea
07/08/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
My family has never involved themselves with my personal life since I was 15, and I'd prefer it to stay that way.
07/08/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by jdloelo
I get alot of opinions from family that just make it feel like they are laying down the law on the person. If momma don't like them, they don't tend to last. Just curious if anyone else has this issue in their family.
No, I am the person in the relationship and even though I do consider other people, the final decision is mine. It will work out how it is supposed to in the long run.
07/22/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
To some degree yes, but I do not let them tell me what is right for me. Only I can make that judgment.
07/23/2011
Contributor: Nissa Nissa Nissa Nissa
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Originally posted by jdloelo
I get alot of opinions from family that just make it feel like they are laying down the law on the person. If momma don't like them, they don't tend to last. Just curious if anyone else has this issue in their family.
Ideally I wouldnt but I live with my parents and they are all very outspoken and most likely would scare the poor guy away if they don't like him. My happiness be damned.
07/29/2011
Contributor: CherryDyke CherryDyke
sometimes my family sees things I can't. I think I should at least pay a little bit of attention to them.
08/29/2011
Contributor: systematicweasel systematicweasel
If they don't like my mate they will just have to deal lol, my love life is my own, and not theirs.
08/29/2011
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
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Originally posted by jdloelo
I get alot of opinions from family that just make it feel like they are laying down the law on the person. If momma don't like them, they don't tend to last. Just curious if anyone else has this issue in their family.
i get their opinion, but it's not based on their opinion either. Also even if my family don't care for them too well, they still treat my partner really good.
08/29/2011
Contributor: [Red] [Red]
My family has never approved of or supported my past 'relationships', and that hasn't really changed with my current one. They were invited to come meet my fiance of over two years recently and refused, mandating that I come down to visit them, WITHOUT inviting my fiance along at all.

So my family can go fuck themselves. ^__^ My love is my family, and we have a life and a home of our own up here.
08/29/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by jdloelo
I get alot of opinions from family that just make it feel like they are laying down the law on the person. If momma don't like them, they don't tend to last. Just curious if anyone else has this issue in their family.
my family give me their opinion and while ill listen because everyone has opinions i only make my own choices
08/29/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Of course I consider their opinion. I love my family, I am very family oriented, and any partner of mine who would like to stay in my life would appreciate the fact that I DO consider what they feel. It means that I'll make a good family member one day. However, that being said, I do not let them rule my decisions. I appreciate and listen to their opinions, but I take my own path, keeping those in mind.
08/29/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I do but than I don't. all that matters to me is that I'm happy.
08/29/2011
Contributor: cheetahpita cheetahpita
I'd take their opinion under consideration, but it wouldn't dictate whether I continued to date someone
08/29/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I try to, though my ex-husband charmed almost all of them (despite being a lying, cheating, manipulative scumbag). My oldest brother told my dad that he would never again allow my ex in his home after we came to dinner, but he didn't say anything to me. My sister had a sort of sibling rivalry thing going, and would go between hating him and telling me how glad she was that we were going to be married. My dad liked him, though he saw some red flags, the same with my stepmother. My other brother said he got a bad vibe from him, but he saw how crazy I was about him and decided to let it rest.

So I think in my next relationship, I'm just going to take him to meet my brothers and ask their opinions before I let it get into the "dating" stage. They have good instincts.
09/18/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
I by no means believe that a family should be able to pressure or decide for an individual, but I think that the family's opinion may be very valuable in this context, as they are most likely the people who know you the best.
09/18/2011
Contributor: socalsusieq socalsusieq
No I make my own choices in men. There has been times where family have not approved, but it never drove me away from the man.
09/19/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
Whenever I date someone, I always wonder what my parents will think of them, and hope that they will all like one another, or at least show each other respect. I've been lucky enough not to bring someone home they don't like. But I've never introduced them to a girlfriend, I'm not "out" at home, so the only ones they've met are boyfriends. Which is fine, because I'm with Wolfie now and have been for two years, and we love each other so much, and my family loves him too! ^_^
09/22/2011
Contributor: Neurogasm Neurogasm
I trust my family's judgment, and if they really don't like them as a person, I'd reconsider. If they were just being judgmental and didn't "approve" of them, I'd go by my own reasoning.
09/22/2011
Contributor: buttmunch buttmunch
I would never date anyone my family didn't approve of mainly for two reasons; 1)my family and I usually have the same opinion on people anyways and 2)the main problem would be my family making fun of them for being ugly if they think that and no one should have to deal with that. (I can't say anything about it as I've done it to them as well.)
10/18/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
I think it really depends on your relationship with your parents. With my mom I'm always willing to listen to what she has to say, but I'd never make a choice solely on that information/
12/06/2011
Contributor: Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
Not really their business. Maybe when getting married, or after being together for some time...
06/11/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I've thought about it but never made it a serious issue that I would stop from making me date a person.
06/11/2012
Contributor: booboo111926 booboo111926
my families opinion is very important to me but it depends on the situation
06/11/2012