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sexuality with a recent ex?

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Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
when there is great chemistry, and know how
i'm not ready to get back out there in any way
we can be very sexual without intercourse and it be very satisfying
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no! don't be an idiot
Yoda , Chilipepper , padmeamidala , Erotica Explorer , Pleasure Piratess , indiglo , DCorrelle , toxie m , DeliciousSurprise , Kdlips , Lio , Bunnycups , Dusk , tigerkate , pinkcupcakes , Taylor , Envy , cobiffle , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Lilbee , bunny love , Lummox , Mills , Eden C. , Lady Marmelade , cherie2188 , zeebot , sixfootsex , Enchantedkitty , bayosgirl , Puss in Boots , Miss Anonymous , potstickers , brevado
34
if you can keep your emotions out of it
SoBlue , LennaKieran , hornypoet69 , IslandGoddess , frisky069
5
with proper boundaries and protecting your hearts
link82 , Misfit Momma , JustYourAverageGuy , Fullbeauty , DeliciousSurprise , Waterfall , Awby , IslandGoddess , frisky069 , *Camoprincess* , sexxxkitten
11
other
DeliciousSurprise , Sir
2
ah , go ahead and get some, we all have needs
Misfit Momma , Fullbeauty , DeliciousSurprise , Waterfall , Ms. Spice , ashesqueer , IslandGoddess , Sex'и'Violence , Dear Ruby
9
Total votes: 61 (52 voters)
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Contributor: Yoda Yoda
My opinion: If you say that feelings have nothing to do with it, you're just lying to yourself.
03/30/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
*writes "CLUE" on a piece of paper and hands it over*
03/30/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
Don't do it! Recent exes are bad news times. It can be soooo tempting and you can tell yourself you're over it, but if you really were you wouldn't have any interest in hooking up with them. Sex will just drag things out instead of letting time smooth all the history away into the past.
03/30/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
no no no !!!
03/30/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
It will only result in heart ache.
03/31/2011
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
I say don't do it.
I knew this advice before I was in the situation with an ex... And I chose not to heed it.

But I knew that I was being stupid, and sometimes you just really need to learn these things for yourself.
03/31/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
I say they're an ex for a reason, don't get wrapped up in it again.
03/31/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
It'll just get messy. I say don't do it! A recent ex means you may not be totally over them. If you sleep with them again, your emotions are going to get stirred back up again, and it's going to be awful.
03/31/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
It is not worth it because there will still be some feelings there that could cause problems after a time or two.
03/31/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
If it's a recent ex - no, I'd stay out of it.
03/31/2011
Contributor: Lilbee Lilbee
No experience with s-exes, but my father once told me "Even if you don't have feelings for someone when you decide to sleep with them, if you're not cold (emotionally) you'll probably have feeling for them after." I have found this to be true, it's just chemicals really but it's powerful.
04/01/2011
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
yes, many emotions involved. To hard to completely let go. I got the response I expected. Knowing me I probably won't heed the majorities advice.

thanks everyone for your input and perspectives
04/01/2011
Contributor: Mills Mills
04/02/2011
Contributor: Eden C. Eden C.
Been there, done that, it resulted in a lot of pain and numerous STD screenings.

Ultimately, it probably doesn't matter what anyone says here. I didn't even listen to my own brain, I just let my VJ take the lead. Big mistake, but that's for you to find out, or not.
04/03/2011
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
Quote:
Originally posted by VanillaFreeSex
yes, many emotions involved. To hard to completely let go. I got the response I expected. Knowing me I probably won't heed the majorities advice.



thanks everyone for your input and perspectives
Yeah, I mean, I definitely kicked myself in the butt. I definitely KNEW my own personal advice, and what everyone was telling me.
But I had to go through the experience to figure out that it was just a bad idea.


For me, it was a mess of emotional drama. He was the one who broke up with me, and then we were sleeping together and he felt really confused about his emotions.. Which started messing with me, like he'd take me back maybe...

Then, at the same time, he was sleeping with other women. I ended up getting HPV from him.
04/05/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
THats who i uSually go to my ex, we are always on and off so it doesnt bother me i know we will get back together anyways. If i really want to make him want me i wont go to him for a month and i wont give it up if he asks
08/11/2011
Contributor: Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
The way I see it, if you still want to have sex with him, you're not over him at all, and that's just asking for trouble.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Good luck with this. Here's hoping it doesn't come around to bite you in the ass.
08/11/2011
Contributor: Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
So long as it's just sex, it's harmless. Just don't let the other party think it's anywhere near possibly otherwise.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
no! don't be an idiot
08/29/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Whatever works for you. Just understand the repercussions of your actions.
08/29/2011
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Just set boundaries
09/29/2012
Contributor: Talena Talena
I was gunna vote on this one but it's not private voting LMAO.
09/29/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
Only fools end up fooling around with an ex, thinking it can be just sex.
09/29/2012