Since I was a teenager I've enjoyed anal play, have participated in it to varying degrees over the years and mostly by myself. About two years ago I discovered the plethora of anal toys that are available on websites like this and my interest increased accordingly. My wife has always known about my interest in things anal and used to participate in it with me. For whatever reason, that is no longer the case and I'm totally fine with her choice. I'm perfectly happy using my toys alone and make no secret of my purchases or toy use. I absolutely do not hide it or my participation on this site. My solo activities in no way detract from our sex life. I have sex with her anytime she wants it, do whatever she wants done and enjoy it. Knowing that she's not into anal toys, I never bring it up unless she asks me about what I do (and she has), nor do I request anything from her in that department.
So last week, she announces that she wants to try anal sex again and is now interested in using toys with me and on me. I'm thinking “great, something new to share”. It didn't work out so well. She refused to warm up with a finger or one of the smaller toys I have and proceeded to sit right down on my penis as I was lying on my back, which had to cause her considerable discomfort. Despite the obvious look of pain on her face, she refused to get off of me and just sat there not moving. I begged her to get up and after a few minutes, she finally did. So now, it's my turn and I really don't want to continue down this path, but I do. She proceeds to don a pair of latex gloves with the explanation that she doesn't want to hurt me with her nails and begins to shove a finger up there, then two. Due to the force she used, it was not at all pleasant. At this point I can tell she's 100% not into it so I request that she remove her fingers, which she does, then takes off the gloves and drops them in the trash can like they're contaminated with a deadly virus or something. I had cleaned myself out prior to our encounter so I know there was nothing offensive on the gloves.
Afterward, she said she liked it (doubt it) and wanted to try again. I let it go at that.
Last night, she wants to have so sex so we head upstairs. A couple of hours earlier, I had inserted one of the plugs that I wear around the house so I head to the bathroom to remove it. I don't like sex with a plug in because it interferes with my erections. I hop into bed and she asks me what took so long so I told her what I was doing. You would have thought that I told her that I had sex with her sister. The look of shock on her face spoke a thousand words. The first thing out of her mouth is “what is wrong with you?”, the second thing was “no wonder you get anything done during the day”, (I work from home and that's not true) and hen she proceeds to ask me if I'm having an online affair with a man. None of what she's accused me of is true. She's known for a while that I use a plug during the day and that it's more for the pleasant feeling than it is sexual. We've actually discussed it and I told her that if I masturbate and use a sex toy, it's going to be with a dildo, not a plug.
Now I feel totally ashamed and guilty of my anal toy use and I'm extremely upset with my wife. I blurted out that she used to be open minded but has since become a close minded prude, which was probably the wrong thing to say but that's what I believe.
Should I stop with the toys? I really don't want to do that, nor do I think I should have to. If anyone would like to comment or has had a similar experience I'd like to hear it.
So last week, she announces that she wants to try anal sex again and is now interested in using toys with me and on me. I'm thinking “great, something new to share”. It didn't work out so well. She refused to warm up with a finger or one of the smaller toys I have and proceeded to sit right down on my penis as I was lying on my back, which had to cause her considerable discomfort. Despite the obvious look of pain on her face, she refused to get off of me and just sat there not moving. I begged her to get up and after a few minutes, she finally did. So now, it's my turn and I really don't want to continue down this path, but I do. She proceeds to don a pair of latex gloves with the explanation that she doesn't want to hurt me with her nails and begins to shove a finger up there, then two. Due to the force she used, it was not at all pleasant. At this point I can tell she's 100% not into it so I request that she remove her fingers, which she does, then takes off the gloves and drops them in the trash can like they're contaminated with a deadly virus or something. I had cleaned myself out prior to our encounter so I know there was nothing offensive on the gloves.
Afterward, she said she liked it (doubt it) and wanted to try again. I let it go at that.
Last night, she wants to have so sex so we head upstairs. A couple of hours earlier, I had inserted one of the plugs that I wear around the house so I head to the bathroom to remove it. I don't like sex with a plug in because it interferes with my erections. I hop into bed and she asks me what took so long so I told her what I was doing. You would have thought that I told her that I had sex with her sister. The look of shock on her face spoke a thousand words. The first thing out of her mouth is “what is wrong with you?”, the second thing was “no wonder you get anything done during the day”, (I work from home and that's not true) and hen she proceeds to ask me if I'm having an online affair with a man. None of what she's accused me of is true. She's known for a while that I use a plug during the day and that it's more for the pleasant feeling than it is sexual. We've actually discussed it and I told her that if I masturbate and use a sex toy, it's going to be with a dildo, not a plug.
Now I feel totally ashamed and guilty of my anal toy use and I'm extremely upset with my wife. I blurted out that she used to be open minded but has since become a close minded prude, which was probably the wrong thing to say but that's what I believe.
Should I stop with the toys? I really don't want to do that, nor do I think I should have to. If anyone would like to comment or has had a similar experience I'd like to hear it.
