Originally posted by
Rin (aka Nire)
When getting into anal play, it's best to go nice and slow and start with just a finger. Use lots of lube, and if you feel any pain, stop and try again a little later. Relaxation is key, and if you're tense the going will be a lot tougher.
Very true. Also mind over matter in a lot of cases. It's just like when your worried about messing something up at work, if your really worried about messing up, then you will most likely mess up. So if your going to try anything anal, as suggested already, lots of lube and 1 finger to start with. Also an open mind helps a lot and not giving up so easily. But you will want to stop when you feel pain, rest up for a few minutes, add more lube and try again.
Have to tried any lubes before for sex? If you have I would recommend going with one you like. I personally use maximus
water based lube for anal. Also depending on the size of your fingers, these 2 butt plugs are great beginners to try out in anal. The ]Pleasure
1] and the The Lil End
, these are made of silicone and are very comfortable and safe for the body. If you get one of these or a silicone toy in general, you only want to use water based lube.
You mentioned working your way to the real thing, i'm assuming your looking to try anal with a partner. In this case you will most likely want to work up to that. Depending on the size of the person, and if you have never had any kind of anal experience, it can really hurt a lot. So work your way up and find a position for anal play you are most comfortable and relaxed with. Goodluck