Hey all, my girlfriend and I would like to start having more anal sex. She does enjoy it, but it takes quite a while to warm her up to it during sex. Are there any toys that can help?
Girlfriend
11/02/2011
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Constructive discussions on Anal Sex:
Guys and lube. Do guys routinely use lube for masturbation, vaginal sex and anal sex?
My b/f told me that he never used lube prior to our relationship and further related that most of his friends don't use lube either. The consensus is...
Would you engage in oral sex after anal sex?
My husband and I have been watching pornos lately, Ive noticed after anal a majority of girls give oral sex. Is that crazy, or is it a normal action..
Anal on accident?
Has this ever happened to you? Maybe things were just too well lubed up down there, and it slipped and went in? If it has, did you have any anal sex
Best anal position
What position is the best to be in to ENJOY anal sex? For the female. Is there any that hurt less?
If you are into anal sex, have you actually tried to make yourself "stretch" over time? HOW, and indeed, WHY?
I enjoy anal with small toys. My hubby is the biggest thing that goes in my tush. I love feeling him there, and enjoy it a lot. We DID try anal...
Guys and lube. Do guys routinely use lube for masturbation, vaginal sex and anal sex?
My b/f told me that he never used lube prior to our relationship and further related that most of his friends don't use lube either. The consensus is...
Would you engage in oral sex after anal sex?
My husband and I have been watching pornos lately, Ive noticed after anal a majority of girls give oral sex. Is that crazy, or is it a normal action..
Anal on accident?
Has this ever happened to you? Maybe things were just too well lubed up down there, and it slipped and went in? If it has, did you have any anal sex
Best anal position
What position is the best to be in to ENJOY anal sex? For the female. Is there any that hurt less?
If you are into anal sex, have you actually tried to make yourself "stretch" over time? HOW, and indeed, WHY?
I enjoy anal with small toys. My hubby is the biggest thing that goes in my tush. I love feeling him there, and enjoy it a lot. We DID try anal...
11/02/2011
Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and interactions with toys for that lube. Hope that helps!
11/02/2011
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Thanks! I appreciate it!
Originally posted by
Peggi
Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and
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Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and interactions with toys for that lube. Hope that helps!
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11/02/2011
Try putting some lube on your finger and finger her asshole a bit first, my bf does this to me while fucking my pussy and It loosens my ass right up, not to mention drives me wild.
11/02/2011
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This is the method I have been using. But she remains exceptionally tight despite it for the most part. It drives her crazy as well. But it still takes quite too long for the both of us.
Originally posted by
LilLostLenore
Try putting some lube on your finger and finger her asshole a bit first, my bf does this to me while fucking my pussy and It loosens my ass right up, not to mention drives me wild.
11/02/2011
Take the time and enjoy the warm up. Life's too short to hurry up getting to the destination.
11/02/2011
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Awww, the lube is out of stock at the moment. It does look pretty good though. I bought a silicone based lube to help, but didn't think of one that may desensitize as well.
Originally posted by
Peggi
Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and
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more
Starting off, I chose to use these beads and sometimes still do. They make stretching a lot easier as well as adjusting to the sensation. Also, someone recommended this great lube to me, which was a Godsend. Just be aware of the ingredients and interactions with toys for that lube. Hope that helps!
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11/02/2011
BTW RayM
Thank You for your service.
Thank You for your service.
11/02/2011
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I appreciate that a lot Ron. And I agree with you about life as well. Unfortunately, it's not so much about speed as general comfort. She seems to remain quite tight and experience a higher level of discomfort on initial penetration then I would like no matter what I seem to do. As I am fairly new to anal sex I just don't really know all the tricks of the trade so to speak.
Originally posted by
RonLee
BTW RayM
Thank You for your service.
Thank You for your service.
11/02/2011
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My GF has a regular ritual of "warming up" with a slim vibrator for about a half hour prior. Additionally, you might try rimming her, that's worked well for us.
Originally posted by
Raym
I appreciate that a lot Ron. And I agree with you about life as well. Unfortunately, it's not so much about speed as general comfort. She seems to remain quite tight and experience a higher level of discomfort on initial penetration then I would
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I appreciate that a lot Ron. And I agree with you about life as well. Unfortunately, it's not so much about speed as general comfort. She seems to remain quite tight and experience a higher level of discomfort on initial penetration then I would like no matter what I seem to do. As I am fairly new to anal sex I just don't really know all the tricks of the trade so to speak.
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11/03/2011
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I have thought about that, any ladies have opinions on that?
Originally posted by
RonLee
My GF has a regular ritual of "warming up" with a slim vibrator for about a half hour prior. Additionally, you might try rimming her, that's worked well for us.
11/03/2011
I've heard that wearing a butt plug is a good way to do it, but I have no personal experience!
11/03/2011
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I am looking into those as well.
Originally posted by
Ryuson
I've heard that wearing a butt plug is a good way to do it, but I have no personal experience!
11/03/2011
Honestly, we just start off the 'warming up' process with mouth, tongue, fingers and maybe lube. Just treat it like a slow & sensual part of foreplay
11/03/2011
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Ok, she said she likes when I use my mouth and tongue on her. So I'm trying that a bit now.
Originally posted by
PassionCpl
Honestly, we just start off the 'warming up' process with mouth, tongue, fingers and maybe lube. Just treat it like a slow & sensual part of foreplay
11/03/2011
crgriffin
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My wife was the same way. She ordered a butt plug and wears it before she wants to have anal sex and it has made a world of difference.
Originally posted by
Raym
Hey all, my girlfriend and I would like to start having more anal sex. She does enjoy it, but it takes quite a while to warm her up to it during sex. Are there any toys that can help?
11/04/2011
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I ordered some previously suggested anal beads, I haven't had a chance to use them yet, but we are looking forward to being able to.
Originally posted by
crgriffin
My wife was the same way. She ordered a butt plug and wears it before she wants to have anal sex and it has made a world of difference.
11/04/2011
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Just wanted to add that it is not recommended that you use a desensitizing lube for anal play. You need to really feel what is going on back there so you don't injure anything. Desensitizing lube can allow you to "force" things more than they should be, which could have really bad results. Pain, especially during anal play, is a sign that something is not right and you should stop immediately. You don't want to take that danger signal away.
Originally posted by
Raym
Awww, the lube is out of stock at the moment. It does look pretty good though. I bought a silicone based lube to help, but didn't think of one that may desensitize as well.
As for making initial insertion more comfortable, I would suggest using a LOT more lube (if you think you have enough, go ahead and add some more). And not just on the penis or on her externally - lubing the inside with something like a lube shooter could be really helpful for that. I also agree with the suggestion of using a butt plug, or another toy before hand. This will allow her to stretch more than just using 1 finger would. Alternatively, you could try using 1 finger, then going up to 2 fingers, and so on, until she is comfortably stretched and ready.
Best wishes!
11/04/2011
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I had never heard of a lub shooter before to be honest. I'll have to look into that.
Originally posted by
indiglo
Just wanted to add that it is not recommended that you use a desensitizing lube for anal play. You need to really feel what is going on back there so you don't injure anything. Desensitizing lube can allow you to "force" things more
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more
Just wanted to add that it is not recommended that you use a desensitizing lube for anal play. You need to really feel what is going on back there so you don't injure anything. Desensitizing lube can allow you to "force" things more than they should be, which could have really bad results. Pain, especially during anal play, is a sign that something is not right and you should stop immediately. You don't want to take that danger signal away.
As for making initial insertion more comfortable, I would suggest using a LOT more lube (if you think you have enough, go ahead and add some more). And not just on the penis or on her externally - lubing the inside with something like a lube shooter could be really helpful for that. I also agree with the suggestion of using a butt plug, or another toy before hand. This will allow her to stretch more than just using 1 finger would. Alternatively, you could try using 1 finger, then going up to 2 fingers, and so on, until she is comfortably stretched and ready.
Best wishes! less
As for making initial insertion more comfortable, I would suggest using a LOT more lube (if you think you have enough, go ahead and add some more). And not just on the penis or on her externally - lubing the inside with something like a lube shooter could be really helpful for that. I also agree with the suggestion of using a butt plug, or another toy before hand. This will allow her to stretch more than just using 1 finger would. Alternatively, you could try using 1 finger, then going up to 2 fingers, and so on, until she is comfortably stretched and ready.
Best wishes! less
11/04/2011
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Sadly I don't think that EF sells any. However do a google search, you're a Marine, on average the most resourceful members of our armed forces. I'm Army and saying that, so you know it's true!
Originally posted by
Raym
I had never heard of a lub shooter before to be honest. I'll have to look into that.
11/04/2011
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Haha, well I appreciate that! I shall have to look them up then.
Originally posted by
RonLee
Sadly I don't think that EF sells any. However do a google search, you're a Marine, on average the most resourceful members of our armed forces. I'm Army and saying that, so you know it's true!
11/05/2011
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