How do you relax your ass for anal?

Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Do you have a normal routine? Care to share?
04/06/2012
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Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Lube up my Pure plug and stick it in.
04/06/2012
Contributor: FantasyFanatic FantasyFanatic
I lube it up a little, then I rub my finger in a circular motion around the hole. Then stick in a finger or two, then move on to my toys from there.
Oh and deep breaths of course :]
04/06/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
When people talk about "relaxing" the ass, it's a slightly misleading term, since most of us don't walk around constantly clenching our ass tightly shut.

What's actually meant is that you should gently push out with the muscle, as though you were going to the toilet, as this makes insertion easier.

Keep doing this, use lots of lube, and you'll be fine.
04/06/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
There's usually some level of contraction in at least one of the anal sphincters, and unless you've trained yourself there will generally be more as soon as the anus is touched.

Incendaire's points are good, but I would add some foreplay, both anal and genital - but stop all genital foreplay when you're going to penetrate, since the anus will tend to contract when the genitals are stimulated. Gently rub around the anus with lubricant and massage it and "introduce" it to the sensations of touch and penetration, then slowly move in with the bigger stuff.
04/06/2012
Contributor: TheParrishism TheParrishism
I usually just breathe easy and try not to clench. Its more about not clenching, not relaxing per say.
04/07/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by spineyogurt
Do you have a normal routine? Care to share?
For me, lots of foreplay. Being horny helps me relax. A lot of silicone lube also help
04/07/2012
Contributor: redhead1977 redhead1977
Pushing out slightly like you're having a bowel movement helps open and relax the sphincter.
04/09/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Some good suggestions here. I'll just add that a nice hot shower/bath before does wonders for me. All but one of my big toys was conquered in the tub after a good soak.
04/09/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
I feel it is a hard thing to explain how to relax for anal. The more experienced I have gotten the more I have learned to control. There are a lot of different muscles in our butts and we don't normally give them too much thought. But as we start to play we realize that certain ones can be challenging. That said, I think that recognizing when the muscles are involuntarily tensing up, and concentrating on getting them to relax is the best way. After that I find that stretching with a few toys of increasing girth gets me nice and relaxed.
05/28/2012
Contributor: KittenEyes KittenEyes
Using a pillow or laying on your side may help.
06/02/2012