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Tantus flame or the bend over beginner kit
Which one do you think would be suitable for someone new to strap on play?

Do you have any tips and tricks for beginners?
My girlfriend is coirious about anal what is the best way to start off?

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What product would be the best introduction for a newbie?

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What kind of vibrator is best to give to a beginner?

Toy Beginner - How to clean silicone, specifically?
I'm an absolute beginner to toys. I just bought my first ones on Tuesday. Now, I've bought a few silicone toys and one glass. Everything I have found.

water based would be a good place to start. JO H2O lube is pretty good quality.

It all depends on what you're using it for but I agree with sloppy donkey, water based is a good place to start. Check out the ingredients and stick with the simple: tasteless, odorless, paraben-free, latex-compatible. I always avoid anything with Nonoxynol-9 and am skeptical of anything flavored [some organics are ok] or that claims to heatup/cool down [this usually means there are chemicals in the lube you don't want around your body]. For water based, I recommend Sliquid Organics Silk or Liquid Silk. For butt play, choose a lube with more viscosity like Maximus.

Indeed. Water-based is a good place to start. If you're prone to yeast infections, you might want to keep an eye out for lubes containing glycerin. Another ingredient to look out for that's sometimes found in water-based lubes is dimethicone, which in some cases may react with any silicone toys you have - at least, that's what I'm led to understand.

Along with the above suggestions, I'm going to recommend Sliquid H2O, since it lacks glycerin and any sort of parabens.

I agree with those above, to an extent.

Here's a little rundown.

Water - the most universal lubricants. You can never go wrong with this lubricant. Since you're a woman, I'll go ahead and suggest Pink Water. Mine came with a handy pump and it is paraben free!

Silicone - This is not compatible with silicone/ silicone composite toys. It however is very nice for anal sex, it is also good for use underwater. I suggest Astroglide X or Pink Silicone.

Oil - Not compatible with condoms, and since many sex toys and safe sex requires the use of condoms these are my least favorite lubricants. If you choose to use one, be careful. I suggest Sensuous.

Wax - These are fun additives to sex, but as with oil they break down condoms. If you are going to use one, I suggest Rocket Balm or Flower Balm.


Hope I helped!

Thanks everybody I think I'm going to try a water based one and work from there. You all have great suggestions!

I find KY works best with toys and Astroglide works best with fingers for skin on skin play.

I like Maximus, personally, though it can get flakey with toys.

Maximus for back door play with silicone toys, Better Sex Essentials for glass, stainless, elastomer and plastic in the shower/tub. Oil works good to for backdoor play like silicone lubes do but does not always work good for vaginal play for some. Petroleum based seems to be the most problematic, natural based oils work the best. Also, oil based does not last as long in water as silicone.

Start with a good water based, you may want to buy small bottles until you find one you like and works for your body. That way you do not have to throw out a big bottle of lube cuz it does not work.

Water based, definitely. I like Pink Water so far. Sliquid is good too.