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Contributor: Anniboop Anniboop
So since I have become sexually active, I have had difficulties using lubes. They hurt. I want to be able to use lubricants, but when I do they make me raw and uncomfortable for days on end.....what should I do?
03/17/2011
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Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by Anniboop
So since I have become sexually active, I have had difficulties using lubes. They hurt. I want to be able to use lubricants, but when I do they make me raw and uncomfortable for days on end.....what should I do?
What kinds, like exactly what kinds, have you used? You may have an allergy.
03/17/2011
Contributor: Anniboop Anniboop
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Originally posted by Lucidity
What kinds, like exactly what kinds, have you used? You may have an allergy.
Oh dear, um....
WET
Motion Lotion
and some others that I do not remember.
But so far
nothing has worked right for me.
03/18/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Maybe you should try one with no parabens. Some people are very sensitive to those. I'm guessing that's what the problem is.
03/18/2011
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
Try some of the organic paraben-free and glycerin-free lubes. I promise you, not all lubes hurt!
03/18/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Victoria
Try some of the organic paraben-free and glycerin-free lubes. I promise you, not all lubes hurt!
She's absolutely right. Motion Lotion gave me UTIs and vaginal infections.

Try to stay away from the glycerin and paraben lubes and things that say "warming" or "tingling" or "cooling." Flavored lubes also can cause problems, as they contain sugars or other chemicals like menthol or cinnamon, which can burn.

I am really sensitive to infections, and My Man and I found that Sliquid H2O Ride link is one of the most gentle lubes, yet one of the most long lasting, we've ever tried.

I think Sliquid should start paying me royalties.
03/18/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I agree with Victoria, try something organic. Perhaps the reason why you get raw is due to allergic reactions to the chemicals in those lubes.
03/18/2011
Contributor: Anniboop Anniboop
Thanks ladies!
Now to my question part two...
Is it necessary to use lube if my body creates enough natural lubrication?
Does it make a difference?
03/20/2011
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
Quote:
Originally posted by Anniboop
Thanks ladies!
Now to my question part two...
Is it necessary to use lube if my body creates enough natural lubrication?
Does it make a difference?
It's not always necessary to use lube for vaginal sex as it can produce its own lubrication, but if yours doesn't produce enough, there's nothing wrong with using some lube. Everyone's different, and even different times in your cycle can cause variations in how wet or dry you are. Do what feels comfortable.

But for anal sex, lube is always a must! It doesn't produce its own lubrication, and not having enough lubrication can cause pain, and can even cause little tears.
03/20/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Anniboop
Thanks ladies!
Now to my question part two...
Is it necessary to use lube if my body creates enough natural lubrication?
Does it make a difference?
If you are consistently sore after sex and do not have an infection. Meaning either a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis or a UTI, then you may not be lubricating as well as you need to.

If you feel you are lubricating enough, you don't have to use lube for PIV (penis in vagina sex) but it is needed for anal play and anal sex.

I rarely use lube for PIV sex. I use it during a marathon (sex that lasts more than an hour or and hour and a half) and I may start to dry a little, especially if we're doing something else and then go back to toys or PIV. I rarely need it for vaginal sex, but I did when I was on the Pill. Try it both ways and see which is more comfortable.
05/15/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
In addition to the above tips on partner sex, I'd add that, if you use toys, the material of the toy can effect whether or not you need lube. Some materials are likely to produce more drag. For example, I don't need lube at all with plastic toys (though it can make it more fun), but I often need at least a little with silicone ones. Just like how different people react differently to various kinds of lube, the same is true with toys. EF's got a good section on materials and safety that you should check out. link
05/15/2011