Is it worth getting Boy Butter or will plain coconut oil be just as good? I have some that i bought from a health store which is actually for cooking and is like a hard white butter that melts with body heat... the brand is Melrose.

tried the coconut oil once and noticed that the area started to get a little warm towards the end... may have been that i didnt use enough?? plus i was a little anxious about whether it would react with my skin, hence i was quite analytical of anything out of the norm...

It is mainly for masturbation and massage - male and female. less

I can't attest to how Boy Butter works (never used it), but my partner and I have used coconut oil for years, both for massages and for sex. It lasts a good long time in any case, and it will feel a little warm after some friction because it transfers body heat quite well. Warm is ok, but if it's really burning/stinging, you might be allergic to it (test some on your inner arm under a Bandaid for a few hours to check that). It's perfectly fine to add a bit more whenever you feel like it too.

As for being ok for the skin, just be sure you get organic unrefined coconut oil and you'll be fine. In that form, it actually has antifungal and antibacterial qualities, but the refined stuff can have some nasty additives in it and/or bacterias and such from being processed wrong. Another thing to watch out for is if the label says it has to be refrigerated... that's not good. High grade coconut oil (like you want for your sensitive bits) never has to be refrigerated.
Last but not least, in our experience we have found it best to stay away from Spectrum brand oil, because it tends to take on a truly rancid smell after you use it for a few hours. I don't even want to *know* why (lol). less

Well if you ever decide to try coconut oil just beware, because it's only "hard white butter" if it's somewhere cool (below 76 degrees, I think is the limit). Thus you can't count on it being "spreadable" like butter. Literally as soon as you get it in your hand, it turns to oil, and that can surprise you if you're not expecting it. Also, if your house isn't cool in the summer, it'll stay in its oil form all the time. less

Boy Butter doesn't melt like coconut oil, though. Just tried some yesterday, 90-ish heat and it was still creamy.

I'm still looking for good lubes that don't contain anything I'm sensitive to. Boy Butter doesn't have parabens, but it has something else in it that burns when I use it internally. I've got some more paraben-free lubes to test, but so far the only water-based one that doesn't cause me problems is Probe.

Coconut oil is pretty good, too, but it's a bit too runny for anal activities. Make sure you get the purest you can find, though, It's great for massage, but since it's oil you'll want to keep it away from anywhere that latex will be going. less

No, you're right, coconut oil isn't thick enough for anal play. For that we stick with silicone, but the downside is that we can't use certain favorite toys with it.

Funny enough, Probe is one of the first lubes we had problems with--- turned out to be the grapefruit seed extract (which burned like crazy!).
Are you keeping a journal of ingredients of the things you have problems with? And I'm talking about any and every product, not just lubes. The reason I mention this is, we originally though that a different ingredient in Probe had been the culprit, but then I tried a two new cosmetics that gave me the same burning sensation, and GSE was the only ingredient the three products shared. There's no way I would have even suspected that if I hadn't been keeping notes. less

Thanks for mentioning the condoms! I never gave that much thought and now that you mention it, it's got me wondering just what's in them! I've recently had to give up condoms with any kind of lube anyway because my body seems to have developed a major dislike to them.

This is a great thread by the way! I've never used coconut oil either and it is starting to sound pretty amazing. I just may have to give it a try too! =) less