How can i get my unwilling bf to try bondage?
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That's a joke, by the way. It would not be very considerate to do that.
You could always start with something more "innocent" from the same genre of play. Next time you two are doing something, try adding a simple blindfold into the mix. He might find that he likes it, and it might act as a gateway into more involved play.
Kidding aside, BDSM is not for everyone. I agree that introducing light BDSM porn, blindfolds, or maybe even the right BDSM fiction may be a good way to test the waters gently with a partner who just isn't sure about that style of sex. If, however, he just isn't into it, don't force him.
Even when I am submissive, I am submissive with my husband because I choose to be. I expect him to respect the limits we have set, safewords, etc. If he ever ignored that, we would have a huge problem. So it may look like I am giving up all control, but I am really not. I would never try BDSM with someone I could not trust absolutely to respect limits. Anyway...
But you should start slow, if you want it. You know, blindfolds, then blindfolds and handcuffs...mild stuff. Don't jump into it because that scares people. Some people don't know that BDSM can be enjoyable, they automatically jump to what they see on TV with whips and pain.