Usually I think we think of kinkiness as a progression in sexual expression, mostly because they are experiences that we have that are wide and varied, so they add to our bag of tricks, so to speak. But have you ever heard of someone becoming less kinky and more vanilla? And not just to appease a partner; I mean, someone becomes vanilla, losing interest in kink for whatever reason?
Ever hear of someone becoming less kinky?
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I don't know why I put this in the vibrators category. Sorry about that.
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I know someone who was once very into rough sex but then was sexually assaulted, after which she could only really handle gentle/loving sex.
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not that I know of
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I think some people might go through a phase where they dabble in kinky activities and settle down afterwards. I don't think it's unusual to like different things at different times of your life.
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It's called aging.
It's just like when people go through the stages in their lives where they party more. A lot of people just grow out of it. Not always a good thing.
It's just like when people go through the stages in their lives where they party more. A lot of people just grow out of it. Not always a good thing.
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People change over time — it's natural, and the changes are not always permanent. I wouldn't really think anything of it unless it's a change that's upsetting their partner.
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I know sexual interests can change, but I would think you would usually see it go more in one direction than the other, barring awful experiences like sexual trauma, where someone might react to it by losing interest in sex that's rougher. I've never heard of someone losing interest in things like bondage, spanking, role play, etc., maybe because those are usually things that people discover about their sexual selves and tend to want to explore more. It would be like losing interest, as a food connoisseur, in spices and flavors...like your palate suddenly just doesn't matter any more to you.
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Taylor
I think some people might go through a phase where they dabble in kinky activities and settle down afterwards. I don't think it's unusual to like different things at different times of your life.
That's not to say that vanilla people are wrong for their tastes, or anything, but it seems more like a once you go one direction, you tend not to go back. I have a feeling that it's also got something to do with personality.
11/11/2012
I know people who have gone from being promiscuous and doing group/threesomes or swinging and then going vanilla.
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Sometimes its a phase and its something they wanted to try. They get into it for a little while just because it was good at the time but some may start longing for what they were doing before...
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