is anal sex dangerous if both partners have no std's and got tested ?

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Contributor: helpmeplease helpmeplease
me and my man have no std's or anything like that we both got tested so there for is it dangerous?
does it feel good for the girl?
does it it hurt or feel good for women?

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anal sex is safe =) go for it
20
anal sex is dangerous proceed with caution
anal sex feels great and does not hurt
12
anal sex hurts and take it easy at first
17
anal sex falls inbetween safe and unsafe
36
you are both tested and std safe so there for anal sex is safe
16
anal sex is better then vagina intercourse
1
Total votes: 102 (54 voters)
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10/03/2011
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Engaging topic analysis of Anal Sex:

Anal tips please?
So my partner is very into anal play, and I do love it as well. But he really wants to actually have anal sex with me, but every time we try, no...

Do you use condoms during anal sex?
Do you use condoms during anal sex?

Anal & a bigger butt
I've heard aloy of people say that anal sex makes your but bigger

What type of anal play do you partake in?
Do you just use fingers? your tongue? a dildo? a penis? a buttplug? What type of anal sex do you engage in? Would you want to try more?

How often do you have anal sex?
This question is for straight couples who also have anal sex regularly. I'm curious how often people have anal sex. Please don't vote if you don't..
10/03/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Anal sex can in theory be safe even if one partner has an STD if proper protection is used. If you're both tested and clean then you have nothing to worry about other than making sure you use plenty of lube and communicate well with each other. It can feel amazing for either a man or a woman, and depends largely on your comfort level involving it. If you're nervous it's going to be harder to relax which is going to make it harder to enjoy. Something else to keep in mind is that not everybody enjoys it either. So if you've safely given it your best shot, relaxed and all of that, and you're not getting anything from it, there's nothing wrong with saying that it's not for you.
10/03/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
You gotta play it by ear - take it slow, work up to it, use lube and a condom.

STD's aside, you have other things to think about too. The biggest issue I've run into is Trych.
10/03/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Haven't really done it yet - sorta working up to it a bit.

My husband has been using his finger lately to stimulate me there while we're playing. We find if I'm focused on other areas (trying to figure out how to say it without it being pornish) I am more relaxed and he can get his index finger in to the first joint without it hurting me.

Ok....guess I'll try to be a bit more specific. If I'm in the doggie position or standing on the floor and leaning on the bed - and he is stimulating me (with toys) to help me orgasm - the more I orgasm either vaginally or clitorally - the more relaxed I become and while I'm working up to that orgasm...he can stimulate me and I'm so focused on the orgasm and other area of my body - that it doesn't hurt.

We want to work up to an anal plug and I'm looking at one that is glass and sorta like beads would be because I think that would be interesting.

I don't know that I'll ever be comfortable with him inside me and that I can stretch that far...and he's ok with that. For him - its mainly more fun seeing me react and for me - at this point - there is something about it that makes my orgasms stronger.
10/03/2011
Contributor: helpmeplease helpmeplease
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
Anal sex can in theory be safe even if one partner has an STD if proper protection is used. If you're both tested and clean then you have nothing to worry about other than making sure you use plenty of lube and communicate well with each other. ... more
thank you for the help
10/03/2011
Contributor: helpmeplease helpmeplease
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
You gotta play it by ear - take it slow, work up to it, use lube and a condom.

STD's aside, you have other things to think about too. The biggest issue I've run into is Trych.
ok then
what is trych?
10/03/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
It is safe if you use a LOT of lube and work up to it with fingers/toys/ect! There are also some anal relaxing gels, but I don't know how gimicy those are... It can for sure feel good for the woman, but again, take it slow and talk about it!
10/04/2011
Contributor: helpmeplease helpmeplease
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
It is safe if you use a LOT of lube and work up to it with fingers/toys/ect! There are also some anal relaxing gels, but I don't know how gimicy those are... It can for sure feel good for the woman, but again, take it slow and talk about it!
ok thanks for the help
10/04/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
Anal sex is perfectly safe if practiced with knowledge and common sense. I'd make sure to remember:

A: Use lots of lube, go slow, and stop if you feel uncomfortable
B: Don't use toys without flared bases
C: Beware of numbing anal lubes, these can be very dangerous.

Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm getting the vibe that you're not as eager to try anal as your partner is. If you don't actively want to try it, you shouldn't. You won't enjoy it if you're nervous, worked up, and just doing this for your partner's pleasure. But if this something you're dying to try, start with small toys (I'd suggest silicone), working up until you feel like you've found a size that works for you.
10/04/2011
Contributor: helpmeplease helpmeplease
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Anal sex is perfectly safe if practiced with knowledge and common sense. I'd make sure to remember:

A: Use lots of lube, go slow, and stop if you feel uncomfortable
B: Don't use toys without flared bases
C: Beware of numbing anal ... more
ok sounds good thank you so much
10/04/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Aside from all of the excellent input you've already gotten, I wanted to bring up eColi bacteria, which is a naturally occuring bacteria in the backside that can cause some ugly infections elsewhere if you're not aware. The number one rule is NEVER switch directly from anal sex to vaginal sex in the same session unless you use a condom during anal and then remove it (or change it) before going into the vagina. In all actuality, it's a good idea for a man to use a condom for anal sex anyway, because there have been some reports of them getting penile infections from the bacteria. I'm NOT telling you that to scare you off of anal though because you can both still be perfectly safe if you just be careful.

The other thing you want to be careful with is analingus, aka "rimming"... be sure the area is very clean before you start, and if in doubt use a small square of Saran wrap or a dental dam for extra protection.

~M
10/04/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
All great information so far.

I want to add a few things that we found helpful.

Go slowly. We worked up from light rimming and fingering the outside of the anus to one finger (with lube) to more to a penis. We had a few anal toys, but I found I enjoyed them better, personally, after we had actually had anal intercourse a few times.

I also have to have an orgasm or more than one in order to relax and also because I get so aroused, I want to have some of the tension of arousal resolved before we move on to anal sex. That way if I have an other orgasm during anal sex, it's great, but I'm not tensed up like I am before my first orgasm in every session. Anal stimulation often helps me get to my first orgasm, but actual anal-penile intercourse has to wait until after I've had a few orgasms.

I also find that vaginal penetration with a toy during anal sex is amazing. Many women are familiar with vaginal penetration and it not only makes anal sex easier for me, but makes it more fun, too. Also, there is no fear of the penis slipping out of the anus and into the vagina, if there is a toy in the vagina. PLUS, the toy will often be pushed into the G Spot making the sex even more fun!

Lube is an absolute. Vaginal lubrication is fine for vaginal sex (and we have PIV a lot before anal sex, as it just flows that way) but the natural lubrication isn't enough to protect delicate anal tissues. Spit isn't enough either. A good lube is very important. We like Sliquid H2O Ride (They really have to start paying me) for everything, it is thick enough for anal sex and lasts a long time. It's also water based so it's less messy than other kinds of lubes after.

Take it slow, use lube, try having an orgasm first and take your time.
10/04/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Use Lube, lube, and more lube! No such thing as too much lube for that. Also, NEVER go from back to front! RELAX b/c if you're tense then it will make it harder and more painful. If you try it and it's not for you let your partner know-- it's ok, it's not for everyone. Try to find a position that is comfortable, and take it slow. Tell your man to let your body adjust to a little bit at a time and when that becomes comfortable then a littl emore until he's all the way in. Don't have him shove it all in at once.
10/04/2011
Contributor: lovelylou25 lovelylou25
It's not bad if the person knows what they are doing...my first experience was horrible because the person did not know what they were doing.... So I was so against it and thought it was a turn off... Now my new boy knows how to do it the right way and I actually enjoy giving it up ..... It's enjoyable if they know what they are doin.. make sure to stay safe during any sexual act....
10/04/2011
Contributor: 111enworb 111enworb
Quote:
Originally posted by helpmeplease
me and my man have no std's or anything like that we both got tested so there for is it dangerous?
does it feel good for the girl?
does it it hurt or feel good for women?

voting will be multiple so you can answer both ... more
not if its the same std
10/04/2011
Contributor: 111enworb 111enworb
Quote:
Originally posted by lovelylou25
It's not bad if the person knows what they are doing...my first experience was horrible because the person did not know what they were doing.... So I was so against it and thought it was a turn off... Now my new boy knows how to do it the right ... more
yea u have to have a good partner
10/04/2011
Contributor: 111enworb 111enworb
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Anal sex is perfectly safe if practiced with knowledge and common sense. I'd make sure to remember:

A: Use lots of lube, go slow, and stop if you feel uncomfortable
B: Don't use toys without flared bases
C: Beware of numbing anal ... more
start small and work your way up
10/04/2011
Contributor: 111enworb 111enworb
Quote:
Originally posted by helpmeplease
ok sounds good thank you so much
dont use warming or cooling lube
10/04/2011
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
If you are both tested for STD's and fluid bonded then it is perfectly safe from a typical STD transmission standpoint. There are other risks with anal sex as others have pointed out including tearing, infections from bacteria in fecal matter, etc. but if you use plenty of lube, listen to your body, communicate with your partner, and approach it slowly you will be fine. There are lots of myths about the unsafe and unsanitary nature of anal sex that are absolutely false. It can be truly enjoyable and totally safe, but it does take more care to do it right...and it may not be for everyone.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
I think people before me said it all. I can think of a small bit to add - watch out for lube dripping from the ass towards the pussy. Either choose a position where the pussy is higher so the gravity won't pull lube towards it or wipe her taint with a wipe. It can cause BV.
10/04/2011
Contributor: helpmeplease helpmeplease
Quote:
Originally posted by Wild Orchid
I think people before me said it all. I can think of a small bit to add - watch out for lube dripping from the ass towards the pussy. Either choose a position where the pussy is higher so the gravity won't pull lube towards it or wipe her taint ... more
thanks every 1
10/04/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by helpmeplease
me and my man have no std's or anything like that we both got tested so there for is it dangerous?
does it feel good for the girl?
does it it hurt or feel good for women?

voting will be multiple so you can answer both ... more
Sounds like you are either young or very inexperienced. Welcome to the Eden Forums! Anyway, anal sex is no safer or more dangerous than vaginal intercourse. As long as you get tested and are sure your partner is healthy you will be fine.
As far as the pain factor goes the answer is more muddy....yes it can hurt horribly and cause real damage to the anal mucosa. The bowel doesn't lubricate like the vagina does and the anal sphincter is built to keep things out! The thing is with slow and careful preparation the experience can be sublime. This means woring up to the size you desire and learning to RELAX. The anal sphincter will not stretch out of shape and cause you to 'leak' fecal matter, this is a myth.
The advice you have received so far is excellent and the mantra for anal pleasure is lube it up good, relax, go slow, relax some more, lube it up some more, stop if there's pain. Oh and use LOTS of lube!
10/04/2011
Contributor: Neurogasm Neurogasm
The best tips I can offer are not to rush it, use lots of lube (don't forget to reapply if you need to, seriously), and make sure you both communicate well enough to know how it's going. It feels lovely, but only if you don't rush it.
10/04/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
Lets see the best advice I can give about anal sex is start slow. Maybe use a toy first and work up to his dick size. Lots of lube!! Be safe & use a condom as well, it will also avoid any chance off him getting poo on his dick (yes it can happen). Try to relax, if you tighten up it will hurt more than it really does!

Once you get comfy with it and get through the hard part of it being "new" it's lots of fun! Me personaly, I love it
10/04/2011
Contributor: fabidefabi fabidefabi
Unless you do it extremely rough with no lube you can rib the wall dividing both walls. You 2 should just make sure to be clean throughout. Like not going back in the V and him washing himself well afterwards!
10/04/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by helpmeplease
ok then
what is trych?
Trychiminosis...I know I'm spelling it wrong.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Like everyone else said, lube, lube, and more lube! I think I once heard someone say "too much is almost enough!"

Make sure you are both relaxed, lots of foreplay and use fingers/toys to warm up to the appropriate size before penetration. It may take several sessions before you are ready and that is totally fine - don't rush it. Most of all, have fun, and if it hurts - stop.
10/05/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
Trychiminosis...I know I'm spelling it wrong.
It's a protozoan parasite, named Trichomonas vaginalis. It is a protazoan, so antibiotics do not help. Anti-protozoan meds help. They are not pleasant meds to take, they make you taste metal, they can cause diarrhea, they have side effects and headaches, but Tric can last for years and cause foul smelling vaginal discharge that has a green color, is "frothy" and smells like rotten fish.

It needs to be treated.

You can get Tric from PIV sex as well, and it can also occur spontaneously, or rather you actually can pick it up in nonsexual conditions. I've seen women with it who have never had anal sex, and some who are virgins.
10/05/2011
Contributor: cec578 cec578
so long as your parnter isnt too rough and you make sure you dont go sticking it in other holes I don't see a problem with it. I've tried with my bf and i don't think I can have it
10/05/2011