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Contributor: Liberalqueer Liberalqueer
So my partner is very into anal play, and I do love it as well. But he really wants to actually have anal sex with me, but every time we try, no matter how much prep goes into it in advance or lube is used we just can't. I clench up, even if I feel beyond relaxed. I can get toys in me just fine, and I love it and I want to feel my partner inside me.
Anyway, does anyone have any tips? Either for better prepping or relaxation, or just something that worked for you? Thanks a bunch!
07/04/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
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Originally posted by Liberalqueer
So my partner is very into anal play, and I do love it as well. But he really wants to actually have anal sex with me, but every time we try, no matter how much prep goes into it in advance or lube is used we just can't. I clench up, even if I ... more
I had the same problem. fortantly this great book Toy Time Tim sugested gave me some wonderful advice and we were able to have real anal sex for the first time recently.

The book sugested wearing a plug for a short time prior to having anal sex. Since I do not own a small anal plug I used my small silk and tight panties. I wore it for about an hour before switching out to the medium silk and wore it for about an hour. I took it out just prior to our play time and when the time came, there it was no problem at all for my Hubby to penetrate me. I was amazed. It did not hurt at all and there was no forcing or shoving it him into me.

I hope this helps a bit. HUGS lori
07/04/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Anal Pleasure and Health That's the book, I highly recommend it!
07/04/2012
Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Anal Pleasure and Health That's the book, I highly recommend it!
Thank you Tim at the time I posted my dog was going into labor and the name totally escaped me. HUGS
07/05/2012
Contributor: Liberalqueer Liberalqueer
Ah thank you both so very much! I'll make sure to try this out tonight! And I'll check the book out as well.
07/05/2012
Contributor: Chou Wang Chou Wang
As suggested I'm using the Ryder before. Usually about 15.20 minutes and it works amazingly well.
07/17/2012