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Is it wrong to want to have a concistent 3 sum partner when you and your partner want to pertake in a 3 sum.

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Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
I am asking this question to keep sanity, I feel that if you continue the 3 way friendship with the same partners and no one is partaking with anyone else it will dramatically lower the chance of catching or spreading anything. Please keep in mind we practice all the safe sex practices all the time. I am not saying that the 3 sum partner cannot have a romantic partner of there own. That is perfectly fine in my eyes.

Yes I am wrong in my thinking

No I am right in my thinking
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Yes
2
No
40
Not sure
14
Total votes: 56 (55 voters)
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
Seems like the best way to go.
08/02/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
That's the way I want to go.
08/02/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Not at all, keep on doing what you are doing!
08/02/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
If it works for all three of you, I don't see a problem with it.

I'm not sure how to vote. So, "NO" means it's OK?
08/02/2011
Contributor: kinksters kinksters
consentual & fun. win!! lol
08/03/2011
Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
i dont think its wrong
08/04/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Wildchild
I am asking this question to keep sanity, I feel that if you continue the 3 way friendship with the same partners and no one is partaking with anyone else it will dramatically lower the chance of catching or spreading anything. Please keep in mind we ... more
I am not sure how to answer this, but my husband and I have a rubber toy for our 3-some fantasy. No danger in any way with this type of play.
08/05/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I am not sure how to answer this, but my husband and I have a rubber toy for our 3-some fantasy. No danger in any way with this type of play.
LMAO Thank you for making me sane once again!
08/06/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I don't see why it would be wrong. Besides you get comfortable with people and what they do/what they like. So a regular partner for threesomes sounds like the best way to go.
08/06/2011
Contributor: LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
Quote:
Originally posted by Wildchild
I am asking this question to keep sanity, I feel that if you continue the 3 way friendship with the same partners and no one is partaking with anyone else it will dramatically lower the chance of catching or spreading anything. Please keep in mind we ... more
I do not personally participate in threesomes. I have no disrespect for those who do, it seems like fun, but my guy and I are both very clingy and would not want to share each other with anyone. That being said, if we were participating, I would probably want a consistent partner. Takes away the "creepy swinger" factor a little (not that there's anything wrong with swinging, it's the anonymity of it all that's off-putting for me). I personally enjoy the fun of learning a specific person's likes and dislikes, and after a while knowing just what to do to get them going. If you have a consistent third partner you don't have to lay out any ground rules you may have, you can build a rapport and a dynamic that you can fall back into anytime. That's just my opinion though.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by LaLaLouise
I do not personally participate in threesomes. I have no disrespect for those who do, it seems like fun, but my guy and I are both very clingy and would not want to share each other with anyone. That being said, if we were participating, I would ... more
I like your opinion!
08/07/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Hmm. Not sure. Tricky question.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Retro.old Retro.old
You are right!
08/07/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Anything that's consensual on all parts is not wrong. Would I choose this? I don't think so. Sounds like the three of you enjoy it, just as long as 'you and your partner' make sure to pay attention to the third person's needs.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Lil Beauty Lil Beauty
Quote:
Originally posted by Wildchild
I am asking this question to keep sanity, I feel that if you continue the 3 way friendship with the same partners and no one is partaking with anyone else it will dramatically lower the chance of catching or spreading anything. Please keep in mind we ... more
i think it best to stick with someone you know and trust in this situation its more comforting to know who the person is and if there safe from any S.T.Ds better safe than sorry
08/08/2011
Contributor: daveysgirl daveysgirl
best way to do it.
08/08/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Not sure....mmmmh?
08/08/2011
Contributor: OhioJoe OhioJoe
Quote:
Originally posted by Wildchild
I am asking this question to keep sanity, I feel that if you continue the 3 way friendship with the same partners and no one is partaking with anyone else it will dramatically lower the chance of catching or spreading anything. Please keep in mind we ... more
As long as all are willing to enjoy the three sum as time permits. If the third party has a significant other I hope the abstaining partner understands that they are primary and not second fiddle to the other couple.
08/08/2011
Contributor: toysforall toysforall
I'm not even sure I know how to respond to that one. I guess as long as everyone is comfortable with it, have fun!
08/09/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
everyone seems to be on he same page. Thanks for the input
08/12/2011
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
nope in fact I would say its better/safer to have a consistent friend/partner for that..
08/13/2011
Contributor: N1 N1
Anything consensual is totally fine by me
08/14/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Sounds like a good idea too me You are lucky you can find someone.
12/24/2011
Contributor: levellc09 levellc09
I personally love the idea of watching my partner be with someone else. Its like I get to see what its like seeing what she does to me. I feel if you find someone willing and comfortable don't ruin it. However if you become envolved or emotionally attached then that's another story.
12/25/2011
Contributor: OhioJoe OhioJoe
I think having a regular addition to your lovemaking would add to the relationship. I do not see how you would not become emotionally attached "friendship" is an emotional attachment and making love without emotional attachment is not "making love" it is sex for sex sake.
I would enjoy finding someone that we could add to our lovemaking that my wife would enjoy as a friend and lover - she would prefer a female so she could watch me make love to the other woman - taking her and having her give me oral - my wife is uncomfortable giving oral but enjoys receiving it.
12/25/2011
Contributor: Sapphires13 Sapphires13
Here's the thing I would say to keep in mind: You and your primary partner are presumably already in an established relationship. If and when you bring a third person into that, it's important to realize that no matter how much you dote on that third person, he/she will still likely feel like a bit of a third wheel. Speaking from experience, attempting to join in on a relationship with a couple as a third can be a very difficult, trying experience, so it's important to not alienate your third by making them feel used or owned in the situation. Be clear, but be understanding. A third may wish to seek a primary partner of their own, and shouldn't be judged or derided for that.
12/28/2011
Contributor: InnocentISwear InnocentISwear
Quote:
Originally posted by Sapphires13
Here's the thing I would say to keep in mind: You and your primary partner are presumably already in an established relationship. If and when you bring a third person into that, it's important to realize that no matter how much you dote on ... more
Well said.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Wildchild
I am asking this question to keep sanity, I feel that if you continue the 3 way friendship with the same partners and no one is partaking with anyone else it will dramatically lower the chance of catching or spreading anything. Please keep in mind we ... more
What drastically reduces the risk of disease is proper safer sex practices, going to the doctor regularly/practicing responsible health care, and getting to know anyone you plan to have sex with. Having a steady set of partners is no guarrantee and actually may INCREASE your risk if you become complacent and begin to let down your guard.
12/29/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by N1
Anything consensual is totally fine by me
Agree.
01/29/2012