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Contributor: Nyx Nyx
This is my first post, so hopefully I'm not making any major faux pas!

I'm not new to sex toys, and can tolerate/enjoy quite a bit of vibration. I've mostly owned toys for clitoral stimulation, but I'd like to try some vibes for penetration. I tried one, but it ended up being too thick for me and hurt too much to be enjoyable.

So, I'm wondering if you guys can suggest some that would be good for me! I've been looking at the Bottle Rocket Nova and the Charisma Waterproof Mini, which are both about 1" diameter. I was hoping to find something a little slimmer but also a little longer, but I'm definitely open to suggestions!

Thanks!
07/03/2011
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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07/03/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Just off the top of my head, there's the Waterproof Candy Cane, which still has a diameter of 1" but it's longer (6" insertable length) than the two you're looking at. Plus it's got a smooth texture, while the Mini and the Nova have a velvety texture - which will produce a bit more drag, which some people enjoy and others find uncomfortable. I may be biased, since I love my Candy Cane , but I think it'd be a good starting point. I'm a virgin myself, and my first toy was a very similar (though shorter) vibe.

And don't worry - this is hardly a faux pas. Don't ever be afraid to ask questions around here - that's how you learn, and most of the community is very friendly.
07/03/2011
Contributor: Nyx Nyx
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Just off the top of my head, there's the Waterproof Candy Cane, which still has a diameter of 1" but it's longer (6" insertable length) than the two you're looking at. Plus it's got a smooth texture, while the Mini and the ... more
Aww, thank you! I'm so glad I stumbled onto this place--finally, a woman-friendly toy shop. Seems like a really great community.

And thanks for the rec! That toy is so cute (I love the purple!) that I'll have to add it to my list!
07/03/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Welcome! We're glad to have you, and I remember how excited I was when I found this site.

I went to the Vibrator search function and searched all g-spot and traditional vibrators under 1" in diameter. (You can refine it further on the left-hand sidebar if you want): link

Basically, for comfort, I'd avoid anything made of plastic in the traditional vibes section. Most of those (the no-curve, same-size diameter throughout the toy) are usually meant for external vibrations. I never have really 'enjoyed" plastic for insertion, but plastic and harder materials do transfer vibrations best too, so it's a trade-off.

I'd recommend BCute Curve: link Because it's small and slightly plushy. However, the vibrations are pretty soft.

Platinum Personal Pleasurizer: link Because it seems like a lot of people have liked it and it's plushy.

And here are slim and long for you:
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07/03/2011
Contributor: KinkyKrissy KinkyKrissy
Welcome! I'm still pretty new here myself and I'm not quite sure what to add that Nire and Kayla haven't already. Do you have a preference for strong or mild vibrations? Since you have experience with clitoral vibrators, maybe you would like to consider a dual action vibrator as well. Most dual action vibrators are pretty thick, but maybe something like this that Kayla recommended would be good if you wanted to try something that isn't too intimidating and provides clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Happy hunting!
07/03/2011
Contributor: Nyx Nyx
Thank you all so much! I was trying to find a way to search the catalogue with filters like material, length, diameter, etc... and thought it didn't exist! Thanks for showing me how to do that, it makes ALL the difference. I'm gonna try some of these--can't wait.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
look for smooth toys under an inch diameter; also i wouldn't go to crazy with length- i would keep at five inches at the very most (after all, it's your first!). and if you get a vibrator, i would pick a toy with a variety of power modes
07/05/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I suggest the smaller and skinnier the better.
07/05/2011
Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I think the Bottle Rockets would be great first toys! They're pretty small and really cute. That's what I would get.
07/05/2011
Contributor: The ~Pegging~ Meg The ~Pegging~ Meg
I recently made a naughty gift to a friend - she was a virgin, as well. I went for this one. It's really small and slim, and for her, the sensations of that finger feature were astonishing.
07/23/2018
Contributor: Weedstomper Weedstomper
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01/27/2019
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Frankly, the first toy I would always recommend to a beginner, no matter are they a beginner in sex or in sex toys, is a rabbit vibrator. They come in many sizes and with many shaft features, so a beginner can choose whatever they might like. Although the safest option, especially for a virgin, would be a plain shaft, obviously.

You also can not go wrong with the ears. After all, it has been proven so-so many times that an overwhelming majority of women requires clit stimulation to come, Why not pack it in with penetration and go for a surefire orgasm?

I absolutely love the Alya for a beginner and a virgin, specifically. The sizing is super mild, it's not at all intimidating and feels amazing against the skin.
01/28/2019
Contributor: ytrewq ytrewq
Have you found something for yourself?
01/29/2019
Contributor: kat434 kat434
My first thought was a very basic, traditional vibe like this one:

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01/30/2019
Contributor: Leil@ Leil@
(EdenFantasys)
For those who have never had sex, I would recommend while choosing a sex toy to put attention not only to thickness and length but also to its texture and density. The texture shouldn't be too striking. The smoother it is, the better. And it shouldn't be very solid. On the other hand, too squishy could make some difficulties with insertion, so the golden mean rules here

Rabbit vibrators of not intimidating size is a great option!

Also, I would advise this slim beaty or this pink cutie
04/16/2019
Contributor: christyfuntime89 christyfuntime89
As a fellow virgin who enjoys sex toys, I have to say I love, love, love my g-spot vibe! While it's by no means the fanciest toy in the world, it's surprisingly one of the most effective.
04/17/2019
Contributor: Leil@ Leil@
(EdenFantasys)
We are having now a great option for those who are a virgin! With its perfect size, soft pleasant color and amazing stimulation Pleasure finger could be all you need for an enjoyable and comfort start!
05/29/2019
Contributor: Leil@ Leil@
(EdenFantasys)
I remembered one more option which is excellent for virgins and thought it is worth to share with you. 1" in diameter with an insertable length of 6 1/2" smooth and sweet Honey bunny is all you might need for breathtaking pleasure
06/21/2019
Contributor: TryKarteHai TryKarteHai
Because you are a virgin you want to get a butt plugs, dildo or dilators in graduated sizes.

You should be working on penetrating yourself constantly. Get a Hitachi as well, but you want to be stretching yourself out vaginally. Get yourself open.
07/03/2019
Contributor: Pajodin Pajodin
I think there is nothing better than natural penetration.
07/07/2019
Contributor: Leil@ Leil@
(EdenFantasys)
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Originally posted by Pajodin
I think there is nothing better than natural penetration.
Natural penetration gives unique sensations, but what to do if there is no partner and you are in urgent need of sexual energy releasing? IMO, using sex toys in such cases is a great decision!
07/10/2019
Contributor: The.RedQueen The.RedQueen
Quote:
Originally posted by Nyx
This is my first post, so hopefully I'm not making any major faux pas!

I'm not new to sex toys, and can tolerate/enjoy quite a bit of vibration. I've mostly owned toys for clitoral stimulation, but I'd like to try some vibes ... more
Try a glass toy!!! They glide so easily and feel amazing !!! I got my best friend one and she was a virgin at the time and said she didn't even have a problem using it
07/15/2019
Contributor: Leil@ Leil@
(EdenFantasys)
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Originally posted by The.RedQueen
Try a glass toy!!! They glide so easily and feel amazing !!! I got my best friend one and she was a virgin at the time and said she didn't even have a problem using it
Glass toys are absolutely amazing products! But they might be too firm for some people, and with incautious using it is quite easy to bruise yourself
07/16/2019
Contributor: The ~Pegging~ Meg The ~Pegging~ Meg
Quote:
Originally posted by The.RedQueen
Try a glass toy!!! They glide so easily and feel amazing !!! I got my best friend one and she was a virgin at the time and said she didn't even have a problem using it
I'd recommend Love Rabbit. Although it's TPR which is not the best material for a sex toy in my opinion but has other great features that fully compensate for this shortcoming.

It is very slender as for a rabbit (only 3 inches in circumference), has rotating beads, adjusting powerful vibrations, and also it is smooth, which makes it insertion easier and paintless.
07/08/2020
Contributor: Mati Mati
My partner is kind of a vergin and i can’t find the right size of strapless dildo for us. i got a kinde huge (for us) like 1 1/2” and now i’m going to try a smaller one (the beginner) that is 1”. I’m concernet that it will be too small for her and also for me
06/12/2021