Is someone 20 years your senior too old for a relationship?
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04/15/2011
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I don't see a problem with it. People vary, so why can't couples vary in age?
04/15/2011
I'm 11 years older than my wife. So age is not an academic interest to us. I don't know where the cut-off is, but I do think a big age difference can be problem.
The issue I see is that as a man ages his actual capacity for strong prolonged erections decreases. It happened to me in my mid 50s - some men start having problems in their 40s and others not until their 60s.
This combined with the fact that many women peak sexually in the 30s and 40s - and you see the arithmetic problem - of peaking vs. decline.
Thanks to the wonders of modern medicine part of the problem can be addressed.
None of this takes into account mortality issues - but there's a fair likelihood that the younger partner will be widowed for a fairly long time.
None of these things are guaranteed or fixed in stone - but they are worth thinking about.
The issue I see is that as a man ages his actual capacity for strong prolonged erections decreases. It happened to me in my mid 50s - some men start having problems in their 40s and others not until their 60s.
This combined with the fact that many women peak sexually in the 30s and 40s - and you see the arithmetic problem - of peaking vs. decline.
Thanks to the wonders of modern medicine part of the problem can be addressed.
None of this takes into account mortality issues - but there's a fair likelihood that the younger partner will be widowed for a fairly long time.
None of these things are guaranteed or fixed in stone - but they are worth thinking about.
04/15/2011
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My man is 14 years older than me, so it is an issue close to our hearts as well. And I agree with you. Also you have to consider that if the older partner wants to have children, they will feel more of a push to do that sooner, while the younger partner may want to wait a bit more.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
I'm 11 years older than my wife. So age is not an academic interest to us. I don't know where the cut-off is, but I do think a big age difference can be problem.
The issue I see is that as a man ages his actual capacity for ... more
The issue I see is that as a man ages his actual capacity for ... more
I'm 11 years older than my wife. So age is not an academic interest to us. I don't know where the cut-off is, but I do think a big age difference can be problem.
The issue I see is that as a man ages his actual capacity for strong prolonged erections decreases. It happened to me in my mid 50s - some men start having problems in their 40s and others not until their 60s.
This combined with the fact that many women peak sexually in the 30s and 40s - and you see the arithmetic problem - of peaking vs. decline.
Thanks to the wonders of modern medicine part of the problem can be addressed.
None of this takes into account mortality issues - but there's a fair likelihood that the younger partner will be widowed for a fairly long time.
None of these things are guaranteed or fixed in stone - but they are worth thinking about. less
The issue I see is that as a man ages his actual capacity for strong prolonged erections decreases. It happened to me in my mid 50s - some men start having problems in their 40s and others not until their 60s.
This combined with the fact that many women peak sexually in the 30s and 40s - and you see the arithmetic problem - of peaking vs. decline.
Thanks to the wonders of modern medicine part of the problem can be addressed.
None of this takes into account mortality issues - but there's a fair likelihood that the younger partner will be widowed for a fairly long time.
None of these things are guaranteed or fixed in stone - but they are worth thinking about. less
I think it also depends on what stage of life both partners are in. For example, to me, the difference between 18 and 30 is much greater than difference between 30 and 45. So I suppose it depends on the people, and if both are ready to deal with any issues that may arise due to the age difference.
04/15/2011
I'm almost twenty nine years old, so if someone was twenty years older than me that puts them almost in their fifties. I'm not saying that older women aren't beautiful, but I'm really not interested in that kind of gap in between my lover and me. I think that it would be harder to connect on a emotional level, and therefore I don't think I could have a relationship like that.
04/15/2011
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nope ive done it before and it was fine...i guess it depends on who you are.
Originally posted by
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Is someone 20 years your senior too old for a relationship?
04/15/2011
All good points. It really does depend on the person.
04/21/2011
think it would depend on the people involved
04/21/2011
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