Have you tried using a different brand of condom? US condoms tend to be thicker than necessary. Many foreign made condoms (some sold here on EF) are much, much thinner.

Yes. We stopped using them

My Man and I only use them occasionally. (We're fluid bonded, so we only use non-latex condoms and only use them infrequently.) When he was younger, he had no problem with maintaining his erection while using a condom. As he got older (he's in his 50s now) he simply can't keep the erection while we're putting the condom on, unless it is put on very quickly. I am pretty sure this started happening in his late 30s.

So, we go with withdrawal. But, we're married, and have kids and fluid bonded, so it's a form of BC that works for us.

Have you tried a silicone cock ring before the erection happens? It may help him keep erect and even increase his sensitivity during the condom process.

We use these reusable cock rings on occasion. They are strong enough to help with mild blood vessel restriction, which some of the disposable ring don't help with. If these don't fit him, they make them in other sizes as well. But, these are nice to start with, and if he can put his testes into them, they may fit well. Or you can look and find a ring that constricts and yet is flexible. I wouldn't suggest metal for beginner users. Silicone is perfect, but it has to be tight enough. The one shot use cock rings are too stretchy and don't provide the needed constriction to maintain the erection.

My husband has trouble maintaining an erection with a condom, due to lack of sensitivity also. This has been the case since we first got together over 18 years ago, when he was just 21 years old. We haven't used them in a over 15 years, but when we did, I felt like he would lose his erection the mere suggestion of using one.

once along time ago. maybe 15 years ago. I remember giving her oral and forplay, then she went to put on the condom, and I lost my erection. No idea why. That is the only time that has ever happened to me.

Thanks for the responses everyone! We're trying new brands of condoms, and P'Gell, your advice about cock rings is great: I hadn't considered that one.

I'm wondering if part of it is mental--the need to accept the new feeling of the condom--so do you think it would be crazy to suggest he masturbate with one? If we weren't long distance, I'd be available every day to help him figure this out!

it's mostly mental. it kills the mood quite quickly for me.

Seriously, this happens to me, but it's more a mental thing.