Call me crazy, but I never could understand the whole safe word fad. I simply say "OUCH!" Or "No!" Or "Stop." Hell, 90% of the time I only have to make a slight face of pain and he stops and asks "is this hurting?" I mean, even when we play rough--we don't do pain or rape stuff. I was raped so that's just a nasty thing to go into for either of us--but even when playing rough and "do what I say without question, I'm in control" a special word is never needed for us. I don't ever have to tell him no anyways because he doesn't do anything that would cause need for it, but sometimes things hurt or are too rough or I'm not in the mood for being tossed around and I'll simply just change roles I guess. Without having to say much, I'll just say something like "Oh no sir, this is how it's gonna work." If sex is hurting, he usually knows right away, before I can even say "whoa! OUCH!"

I just don't see the safe word thing being necessary for our type of relationship. When something hurts or I don't want to do something, or if I don't like it, I just say it. That's all the "safe word" needed for me.

we dont have a safe word never had a reason for one but if i ever needed one im sure id yell something lawyer deff is a good one

Yes, we have a safe word.

I like this! Safewords are totally necessary in BDSM related stuff. Checking in for consent using non-chosen words (is this ok? does this hurt? do you want this?) is totally necessary in non BDSM related stuff. But they're pretty much the same thing: communication!

nope not into bondage

Same here. I've never had to use one of our safe words, but we have them just in case. Sometimes I say 'no' or 'stop' but I don't really mean it, and he can tell that. If I ever do mean it, our safe word is Pineapple.

We use "time", when I am doing any "teasing" in public, if he or I see anyone coming who might see something. It our signal to "get back to totally discreet" and "upstanding moral citizen" mode. We want to flash each other...NEVER a stranger. NO exhibitionist stuff for us with strangers. With my guy, however, it's another story.

In fact, we were shopping at half past midnight at a local 24 hour supermarket. NO ONE in store shopping but us. I was wearing a short skirt and filmy blouse (it is HOT here) and I made sure to bend over NICE AND FAR to pick up a box of Cheerios's, so he could see I had in a cute little glass plug with a little puffy rabbit tail. (He didn't know I had bought that).

He was "enjoying the view" (and getting hard,no doubt) as he spied a stock boy about to round the isle end. He said "Time", and I immediately dropped into a nice "squat", skirt down and knees tight....nothing but a suburban soccer mom , in her little tennis skirt, picking out her cereal!!!

Neither are we...not at all, but SAFE words can come in handy for all kinds of other things.