A ripped urethra? Why now? Warning: Rant

Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
On how many forums could you discuss this? I Eden.

Damn. We always try to be careful, but still get carried away, and carried away we got Friday night and I think I managed to get a small tear in my urethra (the pee hole.) In most women, the urethra is close to the clitoris and not far from the vagina. So, when you get...er....vigorous, it can be effected.

I felt kind of sore the next morning, hoped I wasn't getting a UTI and started to feel better, but got myself on an antibiotic and cranberries right away. Then Sat evening, I started to pee blood. The pain wasn't terrible, in fact, it felt better afterward. I have a history (it's gross) of urethral polyps along with UTIs. Could be I had one of those and the damn thing ripped or tore or who knows what happened. The blood stopped after about 6 hours and the pain isn't too bad. (With routine UTIs, the blood lasts a lot longer.)

The probable 5 days to a week without sex I can probably manage normally (not happily, not well, but I would manage) but today it our wedding anniversary! This morning, he just got into bed after his shower and held me for, like, 45 minutes before he had to go to work. Didn't ask for a BJ, just held me and patted me. I wanted to cry.

You can't "rest" your urinary tract. It just keeps going, and you just have to hope it heals and no infection happens. I got hold of some Cipro (strong antibiotic shit) in addition to the cephalexin, and I'm going to do 24 hours of Cipro and then go back to the Keflex to kill any microorganisms that might be growing. I hope it works, because I HATE going all the way to the doctor especially just to pee in a cup when I already KNOW what the problem is. (HCPs are the worst when it comes to actually seeing doctors when we need to. I "managed to appropriate" some antibiotics.... I haven't called or seen my doctor yet. It's a nurse thing. "Aw, heck, I know what this is, I'll just do it myself. No reason to bother the doctor.")

I HATE this so much. I HATE my urinary tract. It sucks, the weak thing. I hate any part of me that is weak.

Anyway, I feel like shit and I want to be with My Man tonight. With. My fear of re-opening the probable tear is really keeping me fearful of doing anything (and I usually am NOT fearful of pretty much anything sexual, and usually jump the gun on the "no sex until..." time given for regular UTIs) but the prospects of surgery is not on my list of "things I want this year.....or ever again."

It's a big anniversary and we have no bucks to go out, so we were going to get take out (maybe sushi) at least have a massive great time in bed, to celebrate and now that's out. I can't even have my one glass of champagne because if the antibx.

Anyway, thanks for letting me rant. All I want to do is sleep, and I went shopping for his present and they forgot to put his card in the bag, so now I have to wait for the little one to get home from school and go back out in a virtual blizzard.........

It will all be better in a week or two, but I just needed to vent, y'all. (bitch, whine, moan, complain, shut the fuck up, P'Gell)

01/11/2011
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Contributor: fghjkl fghjkl
Aww hun you rant away! That sounds so terrible, and being someone prone to UTIs, I feel your pain. I hope for a speedy urethral healing for you!!
01/11/2011
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
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Originally posted by P'Gell
On how many forums could you discuss this? I Eden.

Damn. We always try to be careful, but still get carried away, and carried away we got Friday night and I think I managed to get a small tear in my urethra (the pee hole.) In most women, the ... more
Hope you feel better soon! I used to get a lot of UTI's. Mucho cranberry supplements really seem to help. And I keep some Cystex lying around to .
01/11/2011
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I hope you're better soon! It's not quite the same, but kidney stones plague my life, so I know what it is like to have pain in that area. It's miserable. I don't know if this will work for you, but there's an over the counter medicine called AZO Standard I think, it helps numb the urethra so that the pain isn't so bad.

I really hope all is well soon. You sound so miserable right now. ::hugs::
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I hope you're better soon, I'm sending you lots of hugs. Oh, and happy anniversary
01/11/2011
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I'm so sorry! I know how that can be.

couldn't do anything on our 25th Anniversary. Or pretty much ever anniversary to date. Damn "friend" likes to visit on that day in particular.

Might I suggest you guys postpone your date until you can do something and just consider that your anniversary celebration?
01/11/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I understand your rant so, so, so very well. Penis owners cannot really empathize with how vulnerable our genitals' construction makes us to infections and injuries. Which is not to say a penis can't acquire a UTI or a tear in its urethra, just to say that it happens with the vagina much more easily.

Every time I get a UTI or a yeast infection I feel really, really sad, vulnerable and mad at those that don't own vaginas. My heart goes out to you and I hope you have a speedy recovery. In the meantime I hope you find a way to love those parts of you that are "weak" because they're pretty wondrous, as are you.

Oh, and as always I love reading your posts - always so well written.
01/11/2011
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
Wow. I'm sorry you're having such a bad time. I've never had a torn urethra, but that really sounds awful. I have had plenty of UTIs, though, and those definitely suck. Time seems to drag on and on while you're waiting for something like that to heal. I just drink a lot of water and pray it'll go away. At least you have an understanding husband. Happy anniversary to you both. Hope you feel better soon.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
P'Gell, You have my complete sympathy. That sounds terrible. Are you sure its a ripped urethra? I've had my too-small urethra stretched. Its as painful as you imagine. But it only took a few days to recover.

Sex and Lies, I think some men understand. At least my husband reacts like he can feel the pain ten times over any time I describe a gyn procedure or issue. I've known other guys with hyperactive imaginations about female problems too.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I'm sorry that doesn't sound like a fun Anniversary at all. It's so wonderful he's so understanding. I wish you a speedy recovery.
01/11/2011
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
That totally sucks, I'm sorry.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
P'Gell, I'm so sorry. That sounds just awful. You can take Cipro and cephalexin at the same time, you don't need to do one and then the other. They cover cover different spectrums and are not uncommonly used together for difficult infections in animals. I'm not aware of any problems of the combination in humans, but you might know better.

Also, if the pain is really bad, you can try applying something like a topical lidocaine if you have it available. There is a gel form used to pass urinary catheters. That might provide at least some temporary relief if the pain gets really bad.

Get well soon.
01/11/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
Oh hun. I am sorry

Enjoy what you can of it.

Happy Anniversary
01/11/2011
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I have a very weak urinary tract as well, so I know how that feels Really horrible timing on this one, huh. I hope you feel better soon and that your anniversary is still good. *HUGS*
01/11/2011
Contributor: Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
Oh that sucks! I'm sorry At least your hubby is being sweet and understanding about it, I would postpone your romping celebration until you've healed and maybe do a nice dinner and romantic movie in (if that's your kind of thing.) Wishing you a speeding recovery and happy anniversary!
01/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Red Vinyl Kitty
I hope you're better soon! It's not quite the same, but kidney stones plague my life, so I know what it is like to have pain in that area. It's miserable. I don't know if this will work for you, but there's an over the counter ... more
Thank you all, I used to be able to take AZO years ago, when it was a prescription drug called Pyridadine, but that and Cystex makes me puke.

We kinda sorta got it on last night. We didn't have PIV, he just got me off and I feel pretty OK, I guess. He got a BJ this morning, but I really just want to have full on SEX!

I have no patience when it comes to this kind of thing. I have no patience with my own body when it fails to do what I want it to.

Thanks for your well wishes.

Sorry about the kidney stones, kitty. I've never had them, but seen patients with them, awfully painful.
01/12/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Kindred
P'Gell, I'm so sorry. That sounds just awful. You can take Cipro and cephalexin at the same time, you don't need to do one and then the other. They cover cover different spectrums and are not uncommonly used together for difficult ... more
Thanks, Kindred. Very sweet of you to help. I know they can be taken together, but my GI system wouldn't tolerate that! (I also put myself on some antiyeast meds, as I always get a yeast infection from antibx.) I finished the 24 hours of Cipro last night and am now back on the cephalexin again.

I have some lidocaine (I have a veritable pharmacy here) but it works too well and then I can't com for more than a day.

I can't leave it alone, yanno?
01/12/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
Oh that sucks! I'm sorry At least your hubby is being sweet and understanding about it, I would postpone your romping celebration until you've healed and maybe do a nice dinner and romantic movie in (if that's your kind of thing.) ... more
Thank you!

We tried it anyway, well a little. I have no patience with myself. HE would have waited....in fact he was snoring within 1 minute of my being able to come. He didn't get there until this morning. Honestly, we had a rough couple of days, he has been going through hell at work, we've had shit going on with family here, exhausted us, and I am pretty sure he did it just for me.
01/12/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Oh that is terrible. I hope you feel better soon. I hate UTI's, but I have never had what you are describing. That is awful! I am so sorry that it had to ruin your anniversary sex. Here's wishing you a quick recovery!
01/12/2011
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
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Originally posted by fghjkl
Aww hun you rant away! That sounds so terrible, and being someone prone to UTIs, I feel your pain. I hope for a speedy urethral healing for you!!
I agree. I'm so sorry! I'm a guy and I'm lucky it's never happened to my urethra, but it gives me chills just thinking about it.
01/12/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Tuesday
P'Gell, You have my complete sympathy. That sounds terrible. Are you sure its a ripped urethra? I've had my too-small urethra stretched. Its as painful as you imagine. But it only took a few days to recover.

Sex and Lies, I think some ... more
I'm about 99% sure that's what it is.

I've had a meatotomy (where they cut the urethra to make it larger) and urethral dilation, too, as well as removal of the polyps (I sound like an old woman... I was in my 20s when it was done.) IT SUCKS, it's worse than abdominal surgery, for me. It took me nearly 6 months to recover. I had complications after the surgery (which was supposed to be Day Surgery) and was hospitalized for 5 days. They nearly had to go in and do more surgery (I clotted and had such terrible swelling that no urine could exit and they had to reinsert several Foleys for 4 days. One of the Foleys was faulty, and didn't empty, and I don't even want to think about it. {shiver} Awful. They determined that in addition to the polyps, I have scar tissue in my urethra and probably my bladder, so they are prone to nasty things happening to them.

Thanks, Sex and Lies, My Man gets abraded tissue on his poor penis, but it's only started happening the last few years. I blame his circumcision. () Even though it was done when he was an infant. He does seem to understand what I am going through, though. He also has more empathy for yeast infections since he started getting them regularly, also. Poor baby.

Thank, y'all for caring. We had a blizzard (well, a mini one for Chicago. Only about a foot in less than 24 hours) here, too, so My Man was out shoveling most of the evening. (I dodged a bullet with the issue, there. ) We did get some Thai food and gave each other some small presents. (I got BON BONS! And some jewelry.) We have Christmas, then an other Christmas with my brother, then New Years, THEN our anniversary, then in two weeks, my birthday. So, we get kind of "presented out" by the end of it.
01/12/2011
Contributor: Alys Alys
Here's to wishing you the present of good health by your birthday!
01/12/2011
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
That sounds truly horrible. I wish you a speedy recovery and a great night once you're there!
01/12/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Thank you, Alys and Kim! I can't wait to feel 100% better.
01/12/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
*hugs*
01/14/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Illusional
*hugs*
Thanks, sweetie. I felt well enough to get it on last night (a wonderful time. WOW!) and again this morning. A little sore, but really a lot better.

01/14/2011