It's really, really individual. People use everything from meditation to Vicodin to homeopathic remedies (I met someone who swore by this!). She's probably going to have to try quite a few things before she finds one that works well.
Personally I like a little bit of that green natural remedy known as Mary Jane when I can get it...

I agree with Gold Lion on the Mary Jane! Excellent for this & for MS pain. Basically good for any pain that cannot be alleviated by other methods, but I understand this may not be an option nor should it be of first resort. Just keep it in mind.

First, she needs a specialist in treating this, not a doctor who hasn't dealt with this many times before. (You don't want a doctor who's learning this as you do.) I think the Internet is your biggest asset as far as connecting with others who've been through this, but know that this is not a well understood disease & treatments are just based on trying things that have worked for others & seeing if it works for you, too. You can really help by encouraging her to keep trying new things, even if the others didn't help.

I found these links for you : link link link they also have comments after some of them which may be worth reading. I'd also check out forums on this for lots of people's advice on what helped them. I hope you get more responses on here, because I have seen several people who've mentioned having this.

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You're a wonderful cousin to research this for her, especially when she may not feel well enough to pursue it herself. I know that when you are in enough pain, you'll try anything to help. There are always things you can do besides taking a prescription pill, but that could help, as well, so please don't rule them out. I agree, though, that an integrated approach is usually best & it can't hurt to follow advice that's good for anyone, not just someone with Fibromyalgia, for example yoga, eating more healthily, sleeping better, etc. Good luck!

You may be too young to remember when people, mainly women, were developing strange symptoms of exhaustion & physicians couldn't find a reason. The patients were told they were nuts, but eventually there were too many of them to ignore. Then they discovered the Epstein-Barr virus & eventually Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. This was in the early to mid 80's.

When the medical establishment is faced with something new, especially when most of the sufferers are women, and they can't find a reason for the problem, they tend to balk & then turn it around on the patient, telling them it's their fault or in their head. This is what happened with Fibromyalgia, back before it had a name. Unfortunately, it's the patients who, in desperation , have come up with many of the therapies.

The fall back position of the doctors is always change the way you eat, lose weight, sleep better, exercise more... well duh, that would help anyone. But until they start developing drug therapies, patients are stuck playing pin the tail on the donkey as far as trying to find which thing helps. They will start trying common drugs, then depending on whether or not there was any success, they move to others, hoping something sticks. When they don't understand the disease, they can only treat the symptoms.

The only thing you can do is keep trying & never take one doctors word as law. If you don't like what you're hearing, or it doesn't sound right, get another opinion. Unfortunately, they don't understand this disease & much of what they think they do is conjecture. All we know for sure is that patients are truly suffering & something must be done about it and it's medicine's damn job to help you, not blow you off! It's like they tell the children who suffer abuse, they should tell an adult & if that one doesn't help, tell another & so on, until they get the help they need. That's what I feel patients with Fibromyalgia need to do, until they find a doctor(s) who take them seriously & give them the help they need.