If you found out you were pregnant today...

Yes, seriously. You don't have any idea how expensive it becomes to feed someone on a totally gluten-free diet. I do realize how cheap rice and beans are but rice and beans don't make up a good enough diet for someone to live on 24/7 so that's not a solution to the problem.

I'm pro choice as well and definitely don't get down on anyone for their reasons as to why they would choose abortion. It's their life and they can do what they want. I may not agree with it or like it but it's not my place to tell them whether their reasons are legitimate or not.

Actually I am gluten-free myself (well, mostly) and it is no more expensive than a "regular" diet, because I just eat regular food minus the wheat. If all one is eating is $8/loaf rice bread, then yes, I guess it would get a little expensive. But that's beside the point. For one thing, why you would assume that your next child would be gluten sensitive just because the first one is, I don't understand. And if you have trouble paying for groceries there is something called food stamps. If you just don't want another child, that's your right, but POSSIBLE food intolerances seem like a pretty shallow reason to terminate a fetus's life.

That is very noble of you. It's rare to see unselfishness these days.

The child would have to go up for adoption.

...POSSIBLE food intolerances seem like a pretty shallow reason to terminate a fetus's life...


In your opinion. Sometimes in life it proves beneficial to run our lives by our own principles... while allowing others the luxury to do the same.

Everyone in my house is on a health-related diet and we don't qualify for food stamps, we "make too much to qualify". So yes, it's actually too expensive for us but somehow we make ends meet right now. Adding another child, let alone one with a major food allergy, which is highly likely, will make it impossible for us to keep up with paying our bills and we would probably become homeless.

My reasons are not just based on POSSIBLE food allergies; I didn't really mention anything else because I didn't think people were going to accuse me of being shallow and not having good enough reasons to have an abortion if I were pregnant. To abort or not is my choice and whether you think it's shallow or selfish doesn't really matter. I'm entitled to my own reasons or decisions for abortion just like every other woman.

And I'm entitled to my own opinion as well.

Not to mention that all the regular day by day food needs that you can get gluten free are like, 3x's more the cost than with it in it. I've never had to be on that kind of diet, but I know it's a pain and very cost. Agreed, rice and beans is not something someone can live off of. You need ALL food groups and a variety of the vitamins and nutrients. However, I'd prefer if that was my case to put the baby up for adoption. Not saying badly towards you, that's just my choice. I see no point in killing it just because I could not financially take care of it when there's many families out there who are unable to create a child and wants one. But yet, I'm still pro choice. So what you do is your choice, not everyone elses.

Naturally! What I was pointing out was that you were judging someone else based on YOUR opinions. YOUR opinions are to judge yourself and run your own life, not judge someone else and run their life.

I didn't call you shallow. I don't know you. I just said aborting based on a possible food allergy seems like a shallow REASON. And I'm entitled to my opinions just as much as anyone else. Just because my beliefs aren't 100% politically correct-"abortion for any reason, any time"-doesn't mean I should just shut up. There are other people with my same beliefs on this forum. I sure hope you never have to go through the pain of a miscarriage to cause you to realize how precious and fragile life is. I'm not religious in the least, I just went through an experience that challenged me to question and ultimately reaffirm my convictions. I know what a stressful, unplanned pregnancy is like. I'll even admit that I considered abortion. So I do have compassion for people who are also in challenging circumstances. But I also feel like abortion is a serious choice that shouldn't be entered into lightly.

I didn't mean you can live off rice and beans alone, but rice (along with potatoes, also fairly cheap) are a common starch replacement for wheat. All the other healthy staples (veggies, fruits, meats, eggs) are naturally gluten-free. The only difference is you're subbing one starch for another.

Which can be tough with so many people. And she said everyone in her family has food related health issues. Doesn't mean all of them have the same. Even with our income, it makes it hard to buy food with my mom's health issues. And that's just one of 3 of our home currently. I can't imaging if it was her, plus her husband and all 4 of her children (5 children during summers and holidays) growing up. We barely had normal food for us all, let alone trying to eat around health issues. Luckly, my mom didn't get the eating based health issues til after we were all moved out. And growing up, we didn't get food stamps because we made too much to get them, but not enough to actually have 3 full meals a day. Yeah, we ate, but my mom only had to ever make dinner because she just didn't eat, and for breakfast and lunch we were in school or summer lunches so she didn't have to actually make those. Having a big household is tough if you don't have two full time parents anymore, even worse when the whole house hold is dealing with different health conditions.

And no one is telling you to shut up. We just think you are being very judgmental. It may be a stupid reason to you, and I myself would choose adoption instead, but it's HER opinion for what she does to HER body. This forum wasn't created to get a debate. And sadly, a good bit of people actually would choose abortion. And at least her reason, not meaning any offense to the others, is a lot better than just that no doubt about it they would just because a baby wouldn't fit in to their life style.

You read my mind! That is one reason why I'm not rushing to have children. My boyfriend and I are still both selfish and love our life as it is, and I'm not ready to give it up yet. I love sleeping in, staying out late, spending my money on whatever I want, and all that good stuff.

I would lose my mind. I already have 3, but I would keep the child.

I never said that you should shut up, I know that you can have your own opinion as well. I'm just curious as to why you chose to single me out from everyone else.

I'm very sorry to hear you had to go through a miscarriage, I would never wish it on anyone but I do understand that abortion is a serious choice that shouldn't be entered into lightly. I've actually thought a lot about my stance on abortion, but like you said, you don't really know me so how would you know that.

That's a sound reason as well. I get so annoyed with people who don't want to give things up for kids and yet continue to have them.

Yeah, but being judgmental about the opinion of someone else isn't the way to go about it.

If someone said they simply couldn't afford another child, would that be a bad reason? Because that's essentially what she's saying. You don't know if food allergies are so prevalent in her family that literally everyone gets them or not. Even if that's not the case, is it better that she run the risk of having a child she simply cannot afford?

As for adoption, that's not for everyone. It's a very hard thing to do. I admire those that can do it, but there's no way I could. If she feels that way as well, so be it.

It's not so much that you have an opinion as it is that you're passing judgement on her reasons.