Ladies, need your help with a sensitive issue!

Ladies, need your help with a sensitive issue!

BoomersGirl BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining or a bleaching-type effect in our underwear.

Here's my issue:
I have been with my husband for nearly 6 years. We have 2 children together and I have 4 others from a previous marriage. The other day (he's mad at me about something - I don't know what - nothing new), he saw a pair of my underwear in the laundry basket and came barging in the bathroom when i was in the shower yelling "Next time do a better job at hiding the cum stains in your underwear!" I had been at work the night before and he is convinced I was doing something there. I was not. There were not even any men there. Anyway, my teenage daughter heard this humiliating thing (not the first time he's said something very humiliating in front of my kids).

I tried to explain to him that this is normal, etc. All he kept saying was he didn't want to hear about it, it was disgusting. This is a man who used to work on a farm and help inseminate animals, butcher, etc. Needless to say, I am soooooooo humiliated right now. What little sex drive I had for him is I think now completely gone. I cannot even imagine letting him near me since what is a normal bodily function of mine (as a woman) is soooooo disgusting. If I never have sex with him again, that's fine by me. I can't imagine doing it actually. The thought makes me feel ashamed and horrified to let him near me. He has made me feel like a pig.

Thoughts, ladies? Suggestions? Anyone have a similar experience ever?
06/04/2012
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Beck Beck
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining ...
Awe, honey that is an awful story. Especially since you were humiliated in front of your daughter.

The first thing I would do is talk with my daughter. I'm sure she has a lot of questions. I know you don't have to explain yourself to your teenager, but your husband said something that could make your teen think of you or him differently. You need to explain the situation.

Then the issue with your husband. I don't blame you for not wanting to be intimate with him. If my husband were to talk to me like this, I probably would have grabbed the panties and shoved them in his face and told him to smell it. Because cum and vaginal juices smell completely different. Though that would only add fuel to the fire. It sounds like he is convinced that you are doing something. I think some couples counseling is in order. He obviously doesn't trust you and you need to know why. If he isn't willing to listen there really isn't anything you can do. If that is the case you have to decide whether or not you want to put up with it or divorce him.
06/04/2012
indiglo indiglo
Honestly, this is your husband's issue. And it's a big one if he's verbally abusing you in front of your daughter! Sounds like that wasn't the first time either. This is serious verbal and emotional abuse... has he ever gotten physical with you?

I think the entire family would do well to get some counseling. The kids need to realize that dad is not healthy, and the things he's doing and saying aren't right. I think you may do well with some individual counseling to help you feel stronger and better about yourself. You husband obviously needs help, but more than likely doesn't think he has a problem. However, if you go through counseling and get healthy, it may impact him and his behaviors.

Then I think once all of you are in individual counseling, you would do well to also get a marriage counseling, and some family therapy together.

This is completely unhealthy and it IS abuse. Abuse that is harming you, but is also harming your children. As an adult, you have a choice to stay or go, but your children do not have that choice. Please, please, PLEASE - if you do nothing else, get those children some help in dealing with this. It's really unhealthy for them to grow up in an abusive home, and will affect them for the rest of their lives. It is damaging them every time they hear it or see it. Even just feeling the tension in the air is harmful to children. So please don't imagine that since they didn't hear something specific they don't know what's going on. Please get your children some help, at the very least. You deserve help too, but that is totally your choice.

Best wishes!
06/04/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining ...
Wow, that's... You've been with him for 6 years and he doesn't know that vaginal discharge is a thing? I always end up with spots in my panties, and that's what normal bodies do. Has he never seen a pair of your worn underwear before?

Without having a better idea of the underlying issue, I really can't give you much advice other than to just sit down with him and talk about it. In my opinion? It doesn't sound like you two have a successful, productive relationship.

It also doesn't sound like this is a good situation for your kids to grow up in. You two are their rolemodels for a good relationship, and they're going to get the idea that saying things and acting like that is an alright thing to happen in a healthy relationship.

I really would sit down with him and have a serious talk about re-considering your relationship. Tell him that he's being disrespectful, that he's damaging your kids view of a working relationship, and that he's causing you to not even want to be in the same room as you. That's not a feeling you should ever get in a loving marriage.

I second the counseling thing, but judging from his current attitude I don't know if he would be willing to try it. It might be good to have the children talk to a professional, too.

Best of luck, this seems like a really hard tine for you.
06/04/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
I also advise couples counseling. I don't know what's going on in your husband's head, but if the problem is escalating to verbal humiliation in front of your children, then it needs to be addressed immediately.

Since your daughter unfortunately overheard him say something so nasty to you, I would ask her if she wants to talk. She may want to avoid the topic altogether — really, how many teenage kids want to talk about sex with their parents? — but at least make sure that she knows what he said was said in anger and untrue.

Good luck with this, I suspect you have a hard road ahead. If it helps, remember you have a community out in cyber-space, wishing you the best.

06/04/2012
mama2007 mama2007
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining ...
wow i'm so sorry =[ I've not had that issue - i have discharge at times, but my husband is never rude about it if I didn't put it in laundry basket by accident. i'd tell him to grow up
06/04/2012
mistressg mistressg
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining ...
Clearly, the issues here are bigger than your discharge. That is normal, and your husband has trust issues. And is hardly tactful or appropriate, being that your daughter heard. If you can say that you are fine with never having sex with him again, why would you want to keep him around? He humiliates you like that, that is abuse. That is emotional abuse. Is this the first time this has happened? From the sounds of this, he is not someone you want to have in your life.
06/04/2012
BoomersGirl BoomersGirl
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Originally posted by Ryuson
Wow, that's... You've been with him for 6 years and he doesn't know that vaginal discharge is a thing? I always end up with spots in my panties, and that's what normal bodies do. Has he never seen a pair of your worn underwear ...
Ryuson - Yes, he's done the laundry before - that's why I'm really confused. And I'm his FOURTH wife!!!!!! The last one he said hardly even bathed. I'm obsessive with hygeine. I don't understand any of this. Surely no one is that incredibly stupid?
06/04/2012
BoomersGirl BoomersGirl
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Originally posted by mistressg
Clearly, the issues here are bigger than your discharge. That is normal, and your husband has trust issues. And is hardly tactful or appropriate, being that your daughter heard. If you can say that you are fine with never having sex with him again, ...
No, this isn't the first time it's happened. There have been lots of things, but this one is the worst along with a couple others that have topped the list. I hate it because I'm so stuck with having 6 kids and nowhere to go. I am seeking counseling through our church. It's never going to take away all the things he has done and I will never have very strong feelings for him ever again. But if it helps him keep his mouth shut and stops saying things in front of the kids, that's my main concern.
06/04/2012
indiglo indiglo
I'm glad you're getting counseling through your church, are you able to get counseling for your kids through the same program? They really need it too. Even if he does stop saying stuff in front of the kids, he probably won't stop saying stuff to you behind closed doors - and that will continue to affect your children.

You may want to start saving up some money and making some contacts in your area if you are not wanting to stay with him. There are many different shelters that will take in women with kids in these kinds of situations. Most shelters will also help you with finding a job, getting set up with food stamps (and any other aid you and your children would qualify), and a variety of other resources available to you that you might not yet be aware of.
06/04/2012
pix pix
Definitely talk to your daughter so that she isn't misled by his false assumptions. She shouldn't have to think anything bad about her mother or even about the stains on her own underwear.

This man does not seem to be a healthy influence on your life (although that's just judging by this post alone, I'm sure I don't have the full picture) or your daughter's and since you say this is something that happens often... that is an influence you might want to consider cutting out of your life. I promise you, there is nothing disgusting about you, he is the disgusting one with obvious jealousy/control issues. My hope for you is to see that, and know that no man should have the right to make you feel bad about your body's natural processes.

I certainly feel like you are justified in not wanting him to touch you. I'm sorry this happened to you and your daughter and I hope that however you decide to solve this, it works out for you both.
06/04/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Wow...just ridiculous.
06/04/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I totally understand why you don't want to be intimate with him, but I would recommend telling him why you feel that way. Just cutting him off escalates the situation.

I also agree with talking to your daughter about it. She doesn't need to be ashamed of her body because of an uneducated comment her father made.
06/04/2012
Rossie Rossie
The above EFers have pretty much said it all, so I'm not adding my comments since they'll be repetitive. Only thing I want to add for your own convenience: use thin feminine pads on the days when you have heavy discharge, so your panties won't get dirty; that's what I'll do.
06/04/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining ...
dang, girl! that is unacceptable. for anyone, let alone your husband, who is supposed to be supportive and caring, to try to shame you that way, let alone accuse you of cheating, and... i mean... what!? who is this guy? let me at him.

sounds like he needs to get a hold of himself. behavior like that in front of a child to top it off! he needs to apologize to you AND to her.


you deserve respect and love just like everyone else. where did this erratic behavior come from?


i certainly would not want to have sex with someone after that either! i suggest some serious counseling, or a reconsideration of what this relationship is doing for you.


if you need to vent at any time, my inbox is open.


again, i'm sorry. your natural juices are not disgusting, they're wonderful! if your husband has such a problem with vaginas, what is he doing with a woman?

and if he is so untrusting of you, why?


i really hope the best for you. i hope you two are able to discuss things in a mature manner (which it sounds like he was unable to do before) and work this out. certainly do not stand for this type of behavior, though. you deserve respect.
06/04/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining ...
Hi, BGirl. It's good to hear from you again.

Sorry about the circumstances. I remember a year or so ago, this same man grabbed a vibrator away from you, threw it against the floor and broke it, and said it was "disgusting."

Hon, I've thought about you since you've been gone from Eden. This guy is a jealous.... man.

Of course vaginal discharge is normal. Mine actually looks like "cum" too, but my husband (who never lived with a woman in before being with me) has never had a problem with it. He knows it's normal and just part of how a woman's body works.

Didn't your husband CARE what effect such a humiliating accusation would have on the children? WHY would he do that in front of them, or at all. WHO says stuff like this at all, not to mention in front of children? This IS abuse, pure and simple.

Please, honey, get some counseling. Even if he won't go, going alone will even help.

You're not a pig, you know that. He's gotten inside your head and is poisoning you. After the last time you posted and then we didn't hear from you, I know I was worried about you. He's volatile.

I can't tell you what to do, only you can do that. But, when a person hurts you so badly that you can't even imagine making love to them again, the love is cold and dead. HE did this to you.

Please honey. Please take care of yourself and get you and your children somewhere safe.
06/04/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
No, this isn't the first time it's happened. There have been lots of things, but this one is the worst along with a couple others that have topped the list. I hate it because I'm so stuck with having 6 kids and nowhere to go. I am seeking ...
You may want to look elsewhere for counseling. Sadly, most church run "counselors" are not Board Certified, nor well trained. Their main concern is often "keeping you married" not making sure you are safe or happy.

There are places you can get counseling. Most nurses get good health care plans, I'm sure you can get a decent counselor. Someone mentioned counseling for the kids and I think that's a really good idea.

How is he treating them? Especially the kids who aren't "his?"

Remember: doing nothing IS a choice. You can choose to do nothing, and have to deal with the repercussions, none of them good, or you can take the initiative and get good, well trained, non-agenda based help now.

Please. This is far from the first incident. NEVER stay with an abusive man simply because "I have nowhere else to go." There is always somewhere else to go. Your children aren't safe with this guy. I had hoped we hadn't heard from you because you had left him a year or so ago, but obviously that hasn't happened. Please, you asked for advice, and we do all care for you here. PLEASE, make sure you and your children are safe, and the safest place, it seems is away from him.
06/04/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by BoomersGirl
Ladies, as a nurse, I know this is normal. Vaginal discharge is slightly acidic to cleanse and kill bacteria to prevent infections. In fact, some of the chemicals resemble hydrogen peroxide. Over time, these factors can result in some slight staining ...
Aw. Bless your heart. That sounds awful. I cannot imagine how humilliating you may feel. To be honest, if my partner said those things to me, it'd break my heart (I am sensitive) and I don't think I could stick around if he had such problems. What is it with people thinking our vaginas are gross?! For Pete's sake, they're actually pretty darn clean! Sure, stuff comes out. What about the ejaculate that comes out of a penis? It's different yeah, but why is it that a vagina secreting things is considered so terribly nasty when a penis doing that is not? OK, sorry for my rant.

Anyways, I would have a serious talk with him alone and then your daughter alone--just to clear up things and let her know that nothing that comes from a vagina is dirty! She may be confused after hearing that and to be honest, I can relate. I don't blame you for being very turned off right now and call me overly sensitive, but I too would have a real problem ever having intercourse with a man who said those things again.

Let me just stop right here and say this--you are not nasty and you have no reason at all to feel like a pig. He is the pig!

I remember before hitting my teen years--I was probably around 11 when it first happened. I noticed the same white, bleachy like discharge in my panties and was freaked! I had no idea what it was and why it was happening, but I also felt embarrassed so badly. I wondered if somethign was wrong with me and constantly worried about it. It was usually only a small amount, about the same you get when you're ovulating.

I know how it can be embarrassing, but later I learned that it's normal. There is nothing gross about it and dear Jesus, I don't understand how anyone who's even slightly educated could truly believe that any white stains in panties mean come. WHAT!? I would sit down with him and tell him exactly how a woman's body works. I'd explain the entire process to him.

My sister had a partner who treated her similar to how he's treating you. When she'd come home from visiting me (she wasn't "allowed" to leave anywhere else) he'd check her panties when she went to shower, then come in the bathroom and check her body for any strange signs of cheating. He'd force her up against the wall and just poke and prod at her body looking for hickies and shi*. It pissed me off so bad to see a female (especially my own twin) being treated like a dog who wandered off and came back with ticks. It's ridiculous and noone deserves that. She thankfully left him.

Maybe it is just me, but I'd really consider staying with someone who did that. Is he paranoid all the time? Does he do other things to "check" if you've cheated? If so, I can see that putting you in a very horrible situation. It's hard to deal with spouses/partner's like that because it seems no matter how good, faithful and kind you are, you cannot make them believe it. They continue to believe you must be cheating. Getting emotional and worrying if your partner would cheat can be normal to an extent. Acting crazy about it is not. Having those strange thoughts take over during an emotional time for people can be something we all go through, but with reassurance, a good talk and some rest, it's usually cleared up and you feel better. If it's never cleared up and you've never given them reason to suspect cheating, it's not healthy. Maybe some kind of help would work?

Still. You should never be made to feel dirty over something like that. I think he really needs to take some time to learn about how bodies work and see that these things are totally normal and necessary--the discharge and such. If he's willing to sit down and listen to you explain your body to him, that's a good thing, but if he refuses to, I'd think this stems from a personal problem. One that has nothing to do with you in reality, but something deeper that is HIS OWN problem. And if that's the case, he's causing you to suffer for no reason. You shouldn't be obligated to take this mistreatment though and especially if he is not willing to work through the problem and try to resolve what causes him to freak like that.

It truly does sound like an issue he has personally, and not with you. You aren't dirty or wrong. You should have never been hurt like that by anybody and especially not in front of your daughter. Since this situation reminded me so much of my sister's, I have to wonder if he's this... hostile all the time or more than just this one time. If so, I honestly would consider getting out. Maybe I'm just the type of person who just refuses to put up with this kind of mistreatment though. Maybe it is something that can be worked out and if so, by all means, do try. If it's common for him to belittle you/your body like this, there's no way you should stick around! In my opinion, of course. PLus, what about your daughter? What he said, I'm sure affected her and probably makes her wonder if her own privates are dirty. You sound like a great mom though so I know you could clear that one up

I just get the impression that he may be hateful in an abusive way and if so, I would encourage you to leave. I know that's probably not what you want to hear though, but I hope you take time to sit down and think about how he has acted in the past and maybe come to a decision on what you SHOULD do. If it turns out you think you're family is better off without him, then so be it. It can take time to finally up and leave though. I understand that, but I think it's important right now to really think about the past with him, the present and the future.
06/04/2012
js250 js250
Since you are this guy's FOURTH wife, I would say the issue obviously is his insecurities and personality disorder. Is the life you are living right now what you want for your daughter's futures? Children grow up and usually mimic their parent's lifestyles and treatment. If she sees you put up with abuse like this, she will think it is normal for her as well--"better the devil you know than the one you don't." Your sons will pick up on his hatred of women and could potentially be abusers themselves...."dad did this so I will too." Children often repeat what they are taught at home.

Now--your turn. I know exactly how scary and hard it is to leave an abusive relationship. Learning to like yourself and be happy is just as scary, but very worthwhile. I also understand feeling stuck due to the kids, I was there too not too many years ago. It took a near fatal car accident for me to learn to be alive and be happy. Yes, there are days I struggle with this--but the change is worth the effort and uncertainty.

Since you have been so humiliated, brainwashed and demeaned by him, you have lost a large part of yourself in the process. Usually this is the part of you that you really liked. You need to get it back, make it strong and be the person you are meant to be. How??

What do you miss about yourself? What person do you want to become? You no longer need to worry about his approval or disapproval--your heart is cold and the love is gone. You need to spend every waking moment focusing on your personal growth to becoming the amazing person you were meant to be. Start small with little things that make you happy, then build up to actual lifestyle changes. You will also find that the things you worry about now that seem so important also change--usually for the better. As you gain back your confidence, you will be able and willing to make better choices for your life and happiness. You will find a way to make things work out for you and your children.

I am thinking of you and hope you keep us updated on your choices and how you are doing. Please message me any time, I have been in your shoes and have overcome the abuse. I have become a happier person and am still working on being the best person I can be. I will never judge you or tell you what to do, but will let you know what worked for me. Good luck--post here on EF anytime--we all care about you!!!!
06/05/2012
BoomersGirl BoomersGirl
To clarify, what he was talking about wasn't actually discharge, it was the bleachy discoloration that discharge does to panties over time. Lord knows I rarely have extra money to buy something like undies, so I'm talking ones that are probably 3-4 years old. So it was not even actual discharge.

However, when I tried explaining this to him - telling him about women's discharge and what it's for, etc, and that it's normal and healthy, he refused to listen. "I don't want to hear it. That's disgusting." Etc.

I did talk to my daughter, who denies having heard him say anything. However, I think she did, so she rolled her eyes while I explained things to her. Still, I guess she heard and understood. I do her laundry, so I know she has similar issues.

P'Gell - I didn't know I was that memorable - how embarrassing - LOL. Yes, that was me, too. There hasn't been physical abuse, but mental is really no better because those wounds never heal. He treats all the kids fine. In fact, the worse he treats me, the better he treats them - I guess to get them all on his side. But yes, I know it affects them and will look into getting some counseling for them.

Someone posted (and I'm sorry I can't find it again) that if he finds vaginal secretions so disgusting, why is he with a woman? I am honestly going to ask him that. And hello - I find the poop stains on his underwear disgusting - I would have never mentioned it to him.

Right now, he's working 2 jobs and is rarely home. He is only home at night and sleeps on the couch, so I don't have to deal with him much. He has previously agreed to go to church counseling, so I'll start there and see where that goes. In the meantime, I am here with the kids all the time - except every other weekend when I work. I don't know why he is so obsessed with thinking I have and am cheating on him. I have good reason to believe he has cheated on me with his ex-wife (has to do with her number on the cell phone bill, thousands of texts a month that weren't to or from me and the fact he co-signed to help her get a car after we were married and had a child together). I think he is trying to justify his actions by "proving" I am the same. I am not. I have never cheated on him. I could have if i wanted to. I did not and do not.
06/05/2012
Talena Talena
First thing I would do if I were you is talk to your daughter. As mentioned above you don't have to explain yourself to her, but explaining what the discoloration is might help her in the future. I myself, didn't have an open Mother/daughter relationship with my Mother and she never explained a thing to me bout nothing woman...it's hard to find it out on you own.

Then I would tell hubby that it is common discharge and that if he don't believe you to ask an OB. Hell it even smells different than cum..more chlorine-like. And even if it were cum, that doesn't mean you cheated. I wonder how many times your hubby has been aroused and had pre-ejaculation (my friend calls it dick-drool)stains on his undies?

I don't blame you for not wanting to touch him or have sex with him. He emotionally and mentally hurt you. I wouldn't want to anyways.

With all that being said. If you ever need to talk, don't hesitate to inbox me, I can be a good listener.
06/18/2012
Noelle Noelle
So sorry to hear that you (and your kids) are dealing with this kind of abuse, AND IT IS ABUSE. He sounds like he has control and jealousy issues.

If I'm hearing you correctly, he doesn't sound like the type that would even consider counseling. Sounds like he doesn't think he can do or say anything wrong.

Get yourself, and your kids some counseling, or any kind of support you can get. I understand counseling isn't always financially feasible, so definately turn to someone you can trust. I will be praying for you and your children!!
06/18/2012
pasdechat pasdechat
Other people have already addressed a lot of what you mention in more detail than I could, but I just want to reiterate what's already been said: what your husband did sounds like verbal/emotional abuse.

Now, anyone can lose their temper every now and then and say things they don't mean, but if it happens more than once or twice--and based on your second comment it sounds like it has--that's not okay. To state the obvious, the problem is with him; no secure person in a healthy relationship would jump to the conclusions he did based on such slim evidence. It sounds like he's insecure and, most likely, just using whatever he can to control/belittle you and give his own ego a boost; the fact that he still said it was "disgusting" after you'd told him you weren't cheating makes me think that he's just latching on to whatever he can to make you feel bad about yourself. I don't blame you at all for not wanting to have sex with him, and in a way, I see it as almost a healthy thing--it shows that you're not making excuses for his behavior like victims of abuse often do.

I've never been in an abusive romantic relationship, but my father was emotionally abusive towards both me and my mother, so I know a little bit about how difficult it can be (emotionally and practically) to break things off with an abuser--my mom is still suffering financially because of it. My personal opinion is that people who engage in abusive behaviors are unlikely to change--they don't see what they're doing as wrong, first of all, and they simply won't acknowledge any evidence to the contrary--so I tend to think leaving is the best option. If you want/have to stay with him, though, I would at least try to get him to go to counseling.

Incidentally, my dad also tried to play me off against my mom--it didn't work, though, because by the time he hit on that strategy I knew from firsthand experience what he was like. He did manage to convince most of our acquaintances that my mom and I are crazy, though, so while I don't want to scare you, I do think it's important to be aware of how persuasive abusers can be

Good luck! And as others have said, if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me!
06/18/2012
wdanas wdanas
I've heard it said that those who cheat will often go to great lengths to accuse the innocent spouse of cheating and make them crazy with their actions as a result. Could be he's the one cheating.

Do what you can to take care of yourself and your children. He doesn't appear fit to be a husband, and will be no good role model for the kids. Make a plan and get out. For all you can know, he's already planning his exit anyway. Better you be prepared to stand on your feet with that plan in event he ups and disappears like the coward he is.

You've got my best thoughts and wishes for your future.
06/18/2012
pasdechat pasdechat
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Originally posted by pasdechat
Other people have already addressed a lot of what you mention in more detail than I could, but I just want to reiterate what's already been said: what your husband did sounds like verbal/emotional abuse.

Now, anyone can lose their temper ...
P.S. One thing I forgot to mention--can't remember if anyone else did--when a child witnesses the abuse (whether physical or emotional) of his/her mother, that is considered a form of child abuse. It can truly warp the way a child sees the world/relationships :\
06/18/2012
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