Oversensitive clitoris

Oversensitive clitoris

Ghost Ghost
I feel like I must be the only one with this "problem". I often don't like direct stimulation of my clitoris: it's just too sensitive and I find it uncomfortable. And with so much emphasis on it, every guy I've ever been with would always seem to forget in the heat of passion and start banging away on it, and it hurts! Ugh! I prefer stimulation to the left and right of the clitoris or urethra (the skenes glands) and can orgasm that way. Am I the only one that just can't usually stand much clitoral stimulation? It seriously makes me feel like I must be broken!
07/06/2011
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aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Ghost
I feel like I must be the only one with this "problem". I often don't like direct stimulation of my clitoris: it's just too sensitive and I find it uncomfortable. And with so much emphasis on it, every guy I've ever been with ...
not broken! depending on how long this has been going on, i'd say it may be a phase. if it's been longer than a few years, you might grow out of it eventually.

i would try coaxing a partner into gentle licking instead of intense play.

i've experienced this quite often after orgasm or when using an intense vibrator... it's just too much!

07/06/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I actually can't stand very much stimulation on my clit at all, especially directly. I don't find manual stimulation or oral pleasing at all because the sensation feels too strong. I can handle indirect stimulation, but I prefer internal stimulation every time. I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way. People think I am crazy and don't believe me when I tell them, but I think I am just too sensitive for direct stimulation. I have been trying to build up my tolerance with toys but it is only happening very slowly.
07/06/2011
Taylor Taylor
I'm the same way. My clit is very small and VERY sensitive. I can't handle really any direct stimulation. Blowing on it is about as much as I am able handle. I do enjoy indirect stimulation and internal but it's just too much to handle if someone touches my clit.
07/06/2011
Ghost Ghost
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
not broken! depending on how long this has been going on, i'd say it may be a phase. if it's been longer than a few years, you might grow out of it eventually.

i would try coaxing a partner into gentle licking instead of intense ...
I hate even very light stimulation. It just feels annoying rather than pleasant. I guess I'm just doomed!
07/07/2011
Dusk Dusk
I'm exactly the same way! I can't stand direct stimulation and it does really hurt. I tend to massage circles over the top of the clitoral hood to provide indirect stimulation. None of my partners have been able to figure out how to do this properly.
07/07/2011
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Ghost
I feel like I must be the only one with this "problem". I often don't like direct stimulation of my clitoris: it's just too sensitive and I find it uncomfortable. And with so much emphasis on it, every guy I've ever been with ...
Don't worry, you're not the only one with a sensitive clitoris. Sometimes my husband goes overboard and concentrates his tongue on my clit with fast, hard licks, I have to remind him to go easy on it, it wasn't enjoyable anymore.
07/20/2011
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I've actually been experiencing this A LOT lately. I used to love, love LOVE clitoral stimulation during play, but lately it's just been too sensitive. It still feels GOOD, but it's just TOO MUCH of a good thing for my clit to handle and then it becomes a game of "do I let her keep going and I'll eventually orgasm from the over-stimulation or do I ask her to stop or be more gentle and possibly not orgasm at all?"

Oral stimulation to my clit doesn't seem to give me that problem, it's the manual stimulation that seems to be the issue.

My girlfriend has this problem, too. More often than I do. We decided that with her, we may actually need to use lube, but with me, I have a lot of natural lubrication and lube on me would be like adding more white to an already white paint to make it whiter, so to speak.
07/23/2011
Rhazya Rhazya
I'm at the other end of the extreme I think, not nearly enough a sensitive clit, I think mine must be pretty small or something. I wish you could give me some of your sensitivity.
07/24/2011
Rain. Rain.
Quote:
Originally posted by Ghost
I feel like I must be the only one with this "problem". I often don't like direct stimulation of my clitoris: it's just too sensitive and I find it uncomfortable. And with so much emphasis on it, every guy I've ever been with ...
I was the same way at one point but now I like really intense direct stimulation. You might grow out of it, but even if you don't its no big deal. Back when I was more sensitive and someone was hurting me on accident I would gasp say that I'm extremely sensitive and then grab their hand and direct it for a little bit. I found that worked well and nobody was ever put off by it.
07/25/2011
EJ EJ
I pull away from direct clitoral stimulation as well, and it was awkward when my current S.O. and I got together because he thought all women liked clit stim, so I wondered if something was wrong with me too, until I started comparing notes with other women. (Thank God for such an open forum. ) Now that we've backed off and focused on exploring rather than assuming, we've discovered that(if my clit were at the center of an imaginary clock) there's a good spot at about 10 or 11:00. So what is that??? A misplaced clit? A hidden clit? LOL. In any case, it makes for some fun rounds of "find the real clit; it's not where you think it is."
08/18/2011
Ghost Ghost
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Originally posted by EJ
I pull away from direct clitoral stimulation as well, and it was awkward when my current S.O. and I got together because he thought all women liked clit stim, so I wondered if something was wrong with me too, until I started comparing notes with ...
It's actually a skeen's gland.
08/18/2011
IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
Mine is oversensitive as well but only when he plays with it too much.
08/18/2011
EJ EJ
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Originally posted by Ghost
It's actually a skeen's gland.
Oh interesting. I looked up the Skene's gland on Wikipedia. I didn't realize that's what was referred to as the "female prostate". From the looks of the Skene's gland in this link (below), you'd actually have to pull the inner labia back a bit to get to it, and it would be located at about 5 o'clock in relation to the clit. This spot I'm talking about is more above/almost beside the clit at about 10 or 11 o'clock, outside of the inner labia.

link
09/08/2011
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Lately, actually, my girlfriend hasn't even really wanted direct clitoral stimulation because it's usually way too much for her to handle and the over-stimulation will kill her mood altogether. lately she's liked more indirect kind of...humping sort of to get off.
01/05/2012
Swish Swish
For me direct stimulation is way too much. rubbing through clothes is fine, but direct is almost a mood killer, I feel like I'm way to sensitive, and yet its the easiest way for me to orgasm, as long as stimulation is very particular.rubbing through clothes is fine and some oral is ok, but overall being touched directly on my clit give me too much of a strong feeling and almost makes me sick.
01/06/2012
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