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Zombirella
I'm going to read it. I have them and I hate them and am embarrassed of them. Mostly because I've heard guys say mean things about them but I've heard girls say it too. I started getting them at 11 when I grew. I got more when I gained
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I'm going to read it. I have them and I hate them and am embarrassed of them. Mostly because I've heard guys say mean things about them but I've heard girls say it too. I started getting them at 11 when I grew. I got more when I gained weight and lost it. I gained some weight and have started to lose again and I'm worried about it happening more. I have even had laser surgery done but it didn't help 100% and was very painful!
I put lotion on more than anyone I know, cocoa butter, shea butter, all types of lotions. The dermatologist told me mine is hereditary from my father (he has them) and our skin doesn't make enough elasticity. I've also tried lotions that are supposed to help that issue to no avail. I've tried specific lotions for them as well as prescription creams and though some did fade (the new pinkish ones) it just wasn't worth the cost because they will all fade on their own. You name it, I've probably tried it.
They make me feel ugly and gross . My fiance says he doesn't care and isn't bothered by them. He has some on his arms and stomach from when he was a teenager. I'm glad he doesn't care but my bikini days are over, even when I get to my goal weight. I will only wear a tankini with a skirtted bottom. I feel people will stare or be like "eeww, cover up!". But even though he says it doesn't bother him part of me can't help but think he is just saying that because when I look at my body I think, yuck and I just have a hard time believing anyone could think my body isn't ugly =/.
**Just read it, I wish I had the same attitude about it as you but I just feel so ugly and like my body is 'ruined'. I'm thicker now but even when I was in shape I had them, I'm prone and it sucks.
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It's so hard to shake those negative emotions once they've rooted their way in. But, really...your body is not ruined! Stretch marks are totally natural and normal. Almost every single person has them SOMEWHERE on their bodies, whether they'll admit it or not. Just because your skin is not flawless, porcelain smooth, and totally uniform in color does not mean that anything is wrong with it or you! No one's skin is perfect, contrary to what magazines and the movies would have us think. Skin does a TOUGH job, protecting our insides, so it makes perfect sense that it gets a little wear and tear from doing the work it needs to do
When you reach your goal, you should show off your accomplishments, if you ask me! Regardless of your fears. That's what this getting healthy stuff is all about, no? Breaking down old habits, including negative thought patterns. I think you'll find it incredibly empowering when no one confirms your fears. Your stretch marks DON'T MATTER, in the grand scheme of things. They're a small part of what is, I'm sure, a very beautiful body and an awesome person
They're not a flaw. They're just a part of YOU!
Another way to think of things would be to imagine how much my friend who liked stretch marks might LOVE the way they look on you! My perspective REALLY changed after I met him, since, through his eyes, they were changed into a desirable quality. I never imagined before that someone might find them so attractive. And now...you know what? I agree with him
