Weird question...sick-/faint feeling from penetration?

Weird question...sick-/faint feeling from penetration?

ShySubmissive ShySubmissive
Ok, this is something I have struggled with for a long time, and I have always wondered why.

I would love to be able to appreciate the pleasure of a rabbit or g-spot toy...I was looking at the rave reviews of the G-Ki but even just thinking about putting it in me literally makes me sick to my stomach.
A lot of things involving vaginal penetration make me feel like I could pass out. In nursing school we had to learn about putting in diaphragms and looking at the picture of the anatomical instructional drawing of it made me woozy, and I literally had to lay down when we were talking about birth and the cervix dialating (luckily this was at home studying and not in class!)

I have tried a tampon once to go swimming,and after putting it in,had to lay on the bathroom floor,then absolutely FREAKED about taking it out,i mean crying and everything. I put a small toy inside myself once and quickly took it right back out as i felt faint. I avoid the OB (bad i know) because the whole speculum thing is like my nightmare.

Here's the thing though,i have sex with my boyfriend and it doesn't make me feel this way,and if he puts a small toy in me (bullet or something) its not the most comfortable but i dont feel queasy or faint.

...I just dont get it I dont think i've been abused or anything...but it really bothers me that I cant enjoy things that most women can...

anyone ever heard of anything similar?
08/25/2010
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by ShySubmissive
Ok, this is something I have struggled with for a long time, and I have always wondered why.

I would love to be able to appreciate the pleasure of a rabbit or g-spot toy...I was looking at the rave reviews of the G-Ki but even just thinking ...
You might want to find a counselor who might be able to help with this problem. I don't think you necessarily need a psychiatrist but someone with a bit of training and a good ear for listening might be able to help. Heck even a registered sex therapist could help better than a forum...even one as kind and helpful as ours. This could lead to some serious issues for you if you skip the gyno visits too often because of the speculum. If you aren't too shy you could ask your gyno if he/she has any idea what could be wrong but it does sound like an emotional issue to my untrained eye...keep in mind I AM untrained and perhaps P'Gell might know more.

You could, I suppose, retrain your inclination by slowly helping your boyfriend when he plays with a toy with you. Use plenty of lube to ease insertion and then just start thinking about placing your hand over his and sliding the toy in. Work up to touching him with your finger tips and then farther until you are indeed helping him with your whole hand. If you can then work up to him pulling back and letting you guide the toy in...and from there the skies the limit.

Still I hate to hear you are avoiding the doctor due to the speculum because it is sooooo important you be aware of your health status and keep on top of it. Were it me, I'd seek a psychologist or sex therapist to help. This could be as simple as some early incident that you've forgotten that has made you scared...such as something as simple as seeing the sex act at a young enough age that the moaning sounds like screaming.
08/25/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by ShySubmissive
Ok, this is something I have struggled with for a long time, and I have always wondered why.

I would love to be able to appreciate the pleasure of a rabbit or g-spot toy...I was looking at the rave reviews of the G-Ki but even just thinking ...
I'm going to be VERY careful with this, because I don't know your history. I don't really know, honestly, what could cause something like this. If it was toys AND a penis, it might be a Vagus nerve reaction, but these are not common, unless there is an underlying neurological or circulatory problem with vaginal penetration. But, this reaction to some things (toys, cervical dilation videos etc) and not penile sex, I don't feel informed enough to venture a guess and steer you wrong.

I don't want to guess (but Airen had some good things to say.) I think it would be best to let a professional who you can get to know handle this. A good counselor, either through your GYN or your Internist or even call Planned Parenthood and see if they could offer something for you, would be a good idea.

Please talk to someone, as there is a solution to this problem, but it would be nearly impossible to answer on this forum.

Gentle hugs,

P'Gell
08/25/2010
ShySubmissive ShySubmissive
Thanks to both repliers, I didn't really expect an easy answer , but hoped perhaps someone had maybe heard of something like this. I do go to a therapist, but havent brought this issue up, im thinking i may need a specialized sex therapist for it...but ill be honest in that im not too comfortable with the idea.

Thanks for the input
08/25/2010
Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by ShySubmissive
Ok, this is something I have struggled with for a long time, and I have always wondered why.

I would love to be able to appreciate the pleasure of a rabbit or g-spot toy...I was looking at the rave reviews of the G-Ki but even just thinking ...
Never heard of it. I'd google it...I don't know.
08/25/2010
Envy Envy
I would try talking to a therapist. It sounds mental perhaps, not really physical. A specialized therapist might really be able to help you.

Good luck!
08/25/2010
Blinker Blinker
I understand where you're coming from. I have the same reaction when I think about women having birth. Your stomach churns and you kind of gag and internally scream OMG STOP IT! This is one reason I had to quit nursing school. Vaginas freak me right the fuck out. Especially when those vaginas have a big baby barrelling through them. You know those "Miracle of Life" movies that everyone has to watch in school? I've fainted watching those before. I can't handle it.

So...I kinda understand where you're coming from, honeybun. I have icky-vagina phobias, too. Luckily I have anxiety meds that ease the weirdness. I hate touching my own vagina. It looks gross. ANYWAY now I'm freaking out but I wanted to let you know you aren't alone. Counseling may help you, but it hasn't helped me, and honestly my therapist thinks it's weird. I've learned to live with it, and my boyfriend is very understanding about my birthing phobia.

*hugs*
08/25/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by ShySubmissive
Thanks to both repliers, I didn't really expect an easy answer , but hoped perhaps someone had maybe heard of something like this. I do go to a therapist, but havent brought this issue up, im thinking i may need a specialized sex therapist for ...
TO be honest all therapists are trained to deal with sexual dysfunction. Leaving htis out might rob your therapist of a crucial piece of the puzzle of what is hurting you. Please discuss this with your current therapist and let him/her decide if you need more specialized care. Bring up the idea of a sex therapist and be absolutely sure you are seeing a licensed sex therapist. Either way your current care provider NEEDS this information and won't be squicked out by you volunteering the information. You can even simply write down what you've said to us in a letter, show him/her this forum topic or tape record yourself talking about the subject if it is easier. Your therapist already knows you have issues so this won't be a shock!
Good luck hun
08/26/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Blinker
I understand where you're coming from. I have the same reaction when I think about women having birth. Your stomach churns and you kind of gag and internally scream OMG STOP IT! This is one reason I had to quit nursing school. Vaginas freak me ...
I can't imagine having a body part that so totally freaks me out. How horrible! On the upside I've had three babies vaginally and never once saw them crown or saw my vagina at any point so you can relax on that account. They ask if you want to watch just tell them you aren't interested. You won't have time to worry about what might be going on anyhow. This is a terrible issue to have though I have read case studies of people who wake up one day and their brains tell them that their arm is not really part of their body...or is rotting away even. The limb is perfectly normal but they can't relax until having it amputated in some extreme cases! This seems like a twist on that problem, the part that caught my attention was the physical pain Shy submissive feels that should be looked at by a professional. Either way I'm sure she'll do whatever is best for herself. She is a smart cookie!
08/26/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
TO be honest all therapists are trained to deal with sexual dysfunction. Leaving htis out might rob your therapist of a crucial piece of the puzzle of what is hurting you. Please discuss this with your current therapist and let him/her decide if you ...
I was JUST going to say this, Airen!! Completely true, the OP's therapist is already trained to deal with things like this, and leaving out info about phobias etc could compromise her long term health and the care her therapist could help her with.

Therapists and nurses are two of the most difficult people to shock. Most of us have seen everything (or nearly everything) and therapists are trained to be ready for anything.

This issue is not "weird" at all, and a competent therapist can and will help you deal with it, Shy.

Please, mention this thing at your next visit. It can only help you get better more quickly.
08/26/2010
Owl Identified Owl Identified
I agree with Airen's suggestions. I don't believe that there is anything necessarily wrong because you don't want to be penetrated by toys; we all have different limits and for some of us that may include penetration with toys. However, if it's something that you want to do but feel that you can't, maybe you'd consider going to a therapist. I've found counseling to be so valuable in my life and in those of so many that I know and love.

Just PLEASE keep in mind that therapists are only people with their own issues and problems and that bad therapists do exist. If a therapist invalidates your feelings, rejects the importance of this problem, dismisses you in any way, or otherwise says or does anything that hurts you or makes you uncomfortable...get another one! I've had bad therapists and so have many that I know. A good therapist can really help you, but be discerning because a bad one can make things worse.

Good luck with this, and keep us updated on your progress if you are inclined!

08/26/2010
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