Ok, I have this problem. Hubby would flip a lid if I tried to offer anal (he likes it, Ive only ever given that to him once). I can't seem to get past the pain part. Ive used the numbing gels, Ive used the smaller toys to start out, the beads, you name it. I can't help but get this crampy or bloated feeling (then I feel like I have to go to the bathroom)when I try it though. Ive done it a handful of times with my ex husband or other boyfriends, but I just never liked it or got into it because of the pain factor. Mind you, its not like he's huge or anything. SO ...does anyone have any suggestions for me on the whole anal sex situation? Thanks!