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Contributor: angelanscalf89 angelanscalf89
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want to try it with my fiance any tips or suggestions???
10/17/2012
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Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by angelanscalf89
want to try it with my fiance any tips or suggestions???
Open communication. Be sure to discuss everything in full prior to starting anything! Start small and see if the limits are pressed. If they are don't continue until they won't be!
10/18/2012
Contributor: Nora29714 Nora29714
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Originally posted by Beck
Open communication. Be sure to discuss everything in full prior to starting anything! Start small and see if the limits are pressed. If they are don't continue until they won't be!
I agree
10/18/2012
Contributor: ghent529 ghent529
Slow and steady wins the race
10/18/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Communication about desires, fantasies, limits, and what you are willing to do OUTSIDE the bedroom. Research what you are planning on using. Select a safeword.
10/23/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Open communication, and make sure you set down what is okay and not okay before you get into the bedroom. Look into the safe ways to do whatever you want to try, and start light. Blindfolds and handcuffs are a good start, as is using your hand if you want to get into spanking
10/23/2012
Contributor: Strider Strider
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Originally posted by KrissyNovacaine
Communication about desires, fantasies, limits, and what you are willing to do OUTSIDE the bedroom. Research what you are planning on using. Select a safeword.
To add to the selecting a safeword, make sure that it is one you will both remember. A safeword does no good if you don't know what it is.
11/06/2012
Contributor: karenm karenm
Depending on the person, the way you introduce the other person to new things can be really important. No one wants to feel pressured into it. Also, talking with the other person before you buy BDSM toys is probably best unless it is a toy you've discussed already.
01/01/2013
Contributor: IvyFayette IvyFayette
Make sure your safeword wouldn't come up in the conversation. Words like "stop" "no" "don't" aren't useful safewords compared to things like "red light" meaning stop now. "Yellow light" meaning a little too far start reining it back. "Green light" meaning all good keep going. I've also used animals like "giraffe" and "llama".
01/04/2013