This is a common frustration, so definitely don't feel alone on this one! You can even do a search of just "g spot" in the forums search field and see how many other women have discussed this in many threads.

My advice is to not empty your bladder before getting started. Then start out stimulating your clit with a vibrator, and once you're aroused move onto incorporating a g-spot specific toy like the much loved 'Ella' by Lelo. The Ella works for me and many others have had wonderful experiences with it. If you like texture, there's also the 'Sugardrop' by Soju. If you want to try a vibrating g-spot toy, the 'Gigi' by Lelo is a good choice.

I would suggest that you lay on your back and work both areas at the same time, experimenting with pressure and movement. It might help to rock your pelvis as that would likely make the toy rub back and forth over you g-spot. The same goes for exploring with a partner, have them use 2 fingers in the "come hither" motion to stroke back and forth over your g-spot once you're already warmed up. It's more about the rubbing and stroking, not so much a prodding, if that's helpful.

If you feel like you have to pee, keep going - don't stop to use the bathroom. That feeling is normal and the pressure you'd feel actually winds up adding to the intensity of the orgasm.

I hope this advice is helpful to you! less

Actually, I need prodding more than stroking. Prodding with a good firm g-spot toy really helps me but it does stroke the g-pot in a sense but I really need my toy to push into my g-spot. I think there is a sort of consensus about the come hither movement but it is adaptable to the person according to their body and desires. less

Personally, I don't mind having only clitoral orgasms when it comes to self-play, but I think it really hurts my partner's feelings when I don't come from sex. I think it would bring us a lot closer if we could figure that out.

I was thinking about purchasing some lubricant that is supposed to increase sensitivity.

Though overall I'm wondering if it's a physical thing or a mental thing. :\ less

This is a common frustration, so definitely don't feel alone on this one! You can even do a search of just "g spot" in the forums search field and see how many other women have discussed this in many threads.

My advice is to not empty your bladder before getting started. Then start out stimulating your clit with a vibrator, and once you're aroused move onto incorporating a g-spot specific toy like the much loved 'Ella' by Lelo. The Ella works for me and many others have had wonderful experiences with it. If you like texture, there's also the 'Sugardrop' by Soju. If you want to try a vibrating g-spot toy, the 'Gigi' by Lelo is a good choice.

I would suggest that you lay on your back and work both areas at the same time, experimenting with pressure and movement. It might help to rock your pelvis as that would likely make the toy rub back and forth over you g-spot. The same goes for exploring with a partner, have them use 2 fingers in the "come hither" motion to stroke back and forth over your g-spot once you're already warmed up. It's more about the rubbing and stroking, not so much a prodding, if that's helpful.

If you feel like you have to pee, keep going - don't stop to use the bathroom. That feeling is normal and the pressure you'd feel actually winds up adding to the intensity of the orgasm.

I hope this advice is helpful to you! less

Actually, I need prodding more than stroking. Prodding with a good firm g-spot toy really helps me but it does stroke the g-pot in a sense but I really need my toy to push into my g-spot. I think there is a sort of consensus about the come hither movement but it is adaptable to the person according to their body and desires. less

Well basiclly Instead of stroking it is a thrusting motion I need but it always has to be on the spot to work.

When I use a dildo I keep the dildo inside and just thrust hard but with small in and out movements(that is I push the didlo onto the g-spot and then let go I don't really pull the dildo in and out).

During sex I need pretty much the same stimulation but I can tolerate more in out movement. When I am on top in cowgirl I pivot my hips front to back really quickly, it makes the erect penis sort of "hit" the spot as it moves to and fro inside the vagina. So instead of stroking it is more of a hit and prod type of stimulation that does it for me. Hope that is clearer. less

Personally, I don't mind having only clitoral orgasms when it comes to self-play, but I think it really hurts my partner's feelings when I don't come from sex. I think it would bring us a lot closer if we could figure that out.

I was thinking about purchasing some lubricant that is supposed to increase sensitivity.

Though overall I'm wondering if it's a physical thing or a mental thing. :\ less