I use all three methods. It's better to just let them know.
Getting what you want in bed
07/10/2011
all of the above.
Top three
Top three
07/15/2011
All three, plus a LD relationship often leads us to talking more often about these type of things, so we can put them into practise when we get together
07/18/2011
All three. Direct communication + more subtle tips almost always gets me what I want.
07/22/2011
my man knows what i like so not much talking between the sheets
07/22/2011
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I start with moans and repositioning them or their fingers. If necessary I tell them what feels oh, so good or point out something on a movie that would be very nice or fun, wink, wink.
Originally posted by
link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
07/22/2011
It's taken my partner and I three years to finally get this worked out. I have health problems that cause a lot of pain with any kind of stimulation so it causes me to be really shy about speaking up for fear of making him feel less than or like it's his fault I'm hurting. Our system for what we like and dislike in bed is very complicated. Lol. We use moans, guiding and just coming straight out and saying it. We often try and discuss it afterwards too, just to make sure we're both satisfied and to talk about the fun parts.
07/25/2011
We do all of the above. A lot of the time we talk before and afterwards about what we like/want/are in the mood for.
07/27/2011
All the above.
07/28/2011
talking about it is the best way I think
07/29/2011
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Seems we are in the majority on this. However, since being on the EF site together, we DISCUSS different activities together, now more then ever. It has REALLY spiced up an already good love life.
Originally posted by
link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
08/01/2011
I've learned to become very vocal about what I want in the bedroom. It makes a big difference. For anyone to believe that every man or woman cums the same way is naiive. Gotta train our partners!
08/01/2011
telling or guiding. i've never used moaning to suggest something different..only what pleasures me.
08/04/2011
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maybe some dirty talking would help, voicing when he's doing something that you really enjoy it, and by the moans, and maybe if you don't like it, move his hand, head or w.e in a different direction.
Originally posted by
link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
08/09/2011
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I think open and honesty is the best. You have to be comfortable to say those types of things
Originally posted by
link82
How do you let your partner know the things you like and don't like when it comes to sex (foreplay included).
08/10/2011
we talk about what we like and want a lot. communication is important to us.
08/26/2011
Any way to let them know is a good way.
08/30/2011
I try to do all three. I find it makes us both better lovers for each other
08/30/2011
probably all of them
08/30/2011
We do all of the first 3. We will also talk about specific likes/dislikes in just normal conversation - sometimes through talking about polls on EF, or just past experiences. The better the communication, the better the sex as someone upthread said! I know personally, I want to know all the secrets and tricks that drive my man crazy, and he feels the same about me. It's fun to really, really please your partner, and who knows all the tips and tricks better than they do themselves!
09/08/2011
i choose all of the above! communication is essential to everything! we've always been honest with eachother.
09/10/2011
We do all three! We're extremely honest about what we like and don't like.
09/11/2011
I used to have a lot of trouble telling my partners what made me happy in bed. Thankfully I'm in a relationship and point in my life where I just tell my partner what I want and don't want. And now sex is fucking fantastic. Yay!
09/27/2011
Communication is key.
10/11/2011
I use all 3 methods, though I tend more toward showing with sounds & touch rather than talking - partially shyness & getting flustered trying to explain, partially not wanting to sound like a drill sergeant. Hah.
All the "How to Talk About Sex" articles say that if you want to have any extended discussion, do it outside the bedroom at a neutral time, not right during. But I've tried that & it was always awkward. When I suddenly brought up sex at dinnertime it seemed like the guy took it as one of those "We need to talk" things where something was wrong. And I'm trying to say "No, I just want to maximize our experience..." and it just gets weird & subject gets dropped. Guess my smooth needs work there.
Biggest communication issue I have is trying to get guys to tell me what they want. I specifically ask "Hey, do you like this?" "Anything you like even better?" Etc. And that never goes anywhere either.
*shrug* Guess I'm meant to stick to pointing & moaning. LoL.
All the "How to Talk About Sex" articles say that if you want to have any extended discussion, do it outside the bedroom at a neutral time, not right during. But I've tried that & it was always awkward. When I suddenly brought up sex at dinnertime it seemed like the guy took it as one of those "We need to talk" things where something was wrong. And I'm trying to say "No, I just want to maximize our experience..." and it just gets weird & subject gets dropped. Guess my smooth needs work there.
Biggest communication issue I have is trying to get guys to tell me what they want. I specifically ask "Hey, do you like this?" "Anything you like even better?" Etc. And that never goes anywhere either.
*shrug* Guess I'm meant to stick to pointing & moaning. LoL.
10/12/2011
All three, I make sounds to encourage and if there is something I don't like I say so or guide him.
10/17/2011
I'm quite the blunt person, so I make it known what feels good and what they should do. XD I wish the guys I go after would be more creative though.
10/26/2011
i just let him know
10/26/2011
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I agree
Originally posted by
Shellz31
Tell them straight! I hate not being pleasured properly.
10/26/2011
Not only sexually, but in all aspects of life, I just tell and/or show my partner what I want/need/like as directly as possible. They'll never know otherwise!
11/01/2011