Well I prefer my husband to take his time while pushing it in, he uses lube and just goes in and out right at the opening each time trying to push just a bit deeper. Just kinda work with her on it and make sure it's not hurting, sometimes it can take some time just have her relax. Once in I prefer fast thrusting, but not hard and deep, just once filled up start moving it fast. I also prefer to give my hubby head while in the all fours position facing my ass toward him so he has easy access. We've also tried my laying on my back while he pushes it in. Either position is great for opening me up. And if I'm giving head and he's pulsing it in and out I give a much better blowjob! less

One piece of advice I will offer is be mindful of the fact that the entry to the vagina is less elastic than the vagina itself. Therefore, stopping mid-thrust before you've gotten the toy past the entry can be very painful. Sometimes it's easier just to get the damn thing in. less

Ugg, too late! But thanks for that info...

I tried the Lonestar with my wife with oral after warming up with the cybercock earlier. I was able to get only the tip of the head in, and it felt like it just couldn't go anymore, so I didn't push it (literally). But I didn't stop at midthrust either, I kept the thrusting shallow as she was orgasming soon after I switched over. At least it didn't hurt, but I wasn't able to get it in either. That's alright, I enjoyed watching it and also hearing her orgasm. There will be another time for Lonestar...

Does it feel different once its in all the way? I take it "all the way" means past the head? less

I certainly can't speak for anyone besides myself and a few partners I have had, but I do usually feel more comfortable once it's all the way in. There's this kind of "hump" (metaphorical, not literal) that I have to get over because the entry is not as forgiving as the rest of the vaginal canal. That's why doctors will sometimes make an incision to the labia minora during a birth, because that part of the vagina is not able to accommodate as much as the inside.

I think it's really a great thing that you're so invested in your partner's comfort, and I think it's very smart that you veered on the side of caution and didn't push without first talking to her. I might suggest, however, that for next time you ask her beforehand how she feels about a little "push" once the head is in. It also might be a good idea to let her "drive" at first, because she is able to respond more easily to her body's cues. Sometimes it's difficult to verbalize exactly what we're feeling or what we're comfortable with.

I would also suggest just exploring down there with your hands a bit (after asking first, lol) just to get a sense for what I'm talking about. Just by inserting a finger into the vagina and pushing against the wall you can see what I mean when I say it's a little bit more elastic and a little more forgiving. Knowing your partner's anatomy inside and out (literally) can be very helpful! less

When I read posts regarding larger dildos, there will be references that say experienced uses must work it in, or with patience to insert it, etc.

I have recently bought a larger dildo for my wife and we want to try it out soon. Can anyone offer tips or techniques to "working" it? For instance, do I thrust it? Let it sit there? Let her move on it? What position is best for first time use? How long are we talking about- few minutes? Where's the scratching head smileys?

I want this to be a good experience for her, and any tidbits are appreciated! less