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i say keep working on him!!

Personally, i could never be with someone who wouldn't at least explore my kinks. i'm a sub and a masochist and just plain kinky. i love being tied up and submitting, i love trying new things, toys, experimenting, etc. i could never go vanilla. Have you tried explaining to him that these are things that are important to you? i sat my current Girlfriend, who is now also my Mistress down and explained to Her that my kinks are part of who i am, not something i can change and doing without them is suppressing a part of myself and ultimately makes me unhappy. Even though O/our sex was good and i was happy and satisfied in every other regard, without the kink, eventually i would have reached a point where not getting those other itches scratched would become a problem. When i started exploring kink and my submissive, masochistic, bottomy side with my previous Domme, i thought that once she and i split i'd be able to go back to not needing the kinky stuff. After all, i never had needed it before. Trouble was, going back to vanilla didn't work for me. i tried but eventually i started having dreams of being tied up, spanked, beaten, submitting, etc. i was fantasizing about it all the time. i never expected that to happen but after about a year it did. i explained all this to my Miss and W/we worked things out. Now W/we're actively involved in the fetish community and happily building our kinky collection of toys and working on the leather aspects of our relationship. Kink, whether play or relationship style, takes a lot of communication and trust so my advice is to sit him down and talk to him about it. Maybe look into some good books about kink and fetish. Or maybe explore your local fetish scene a little bit. Miss and i went to an event and it really helped her open up to exploring the lifestyle and gave her people to talk to, a support system, some mentors. It was really beneficial to both of U/us. But don't just sweep your kink under the carpet because i really believe you'd be denying a part of yourself and, in my experience, both my own and with other friends who have tried to "go vanilla", it usually ends up causing problems with the relationship in the long run. Good luck!

Does he really care for you? Sounds like he probably does. It's possible that he doesn't want you to feel forced into doing something that you don't want to, and it's possible that he's using what he would be comfortable with as a gauge. Keep talking, keep bringing it up, try to figure out why he's opposed and then work on how to solve that problem (if possible).

Everything is possible I guess> My exwife was a kinky one and a few girls that I met afterwards. My current girlfriend was pretty vanilla at the beginning and through lots of communication outside the bedroom (basically bullshitting about different sex practices over a drink or two) she became very experimental and is now trying to stick something up my ass - I didn't really have to bring it up myself

I was able to convince my man to do anal (giving and recieving) after awhile. now hes probably kinkier than me!!!