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Contributor: musicfan2935 musicfan2935
Hello there. I'm new here and I'm also new to anal sex. I'm a girl by the way. I've had it only 2 or 3 times so far. I hope my question doesn't gross too many of you out, but how am I supposed to make it (or how is my guy supposed to) feel good for me? The only thing I ever feel when I am getting penetrated is that I need to defecate and that's not exactly a pleasurable feeling.

I do use lots and lots of lube and we always go slow but I just want to know what I could be doing wrong that it doesn't feel pleasurable for me.

Thanks guys!
04/02/2011
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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04/02/2011
Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
It's quite possible that anal isn't pleasurable for you. I don't think it's everyone's cup of tea.

Have you tried, after warming up, different angles and different speeds of thrusting? Also, combining it with clitoral stimulation is godly.
04/02/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
You said you've only had anal sex 2 or 3 times. Have you done other anal play? Anal eroticism often is not like genital eroticism. When you play with your clit you know it feels good, but when you play with your anus many people don't know quite how to interpret the stimulation, so it goes in the "feels funny" box. Try some anal play combined with other play - kissing, breast stimulation, genital stimulation - and get to know the sensations. Usually anal play is more fun if you're turned on, so combine it with some genital play (but take a break during insertion so you can concentrate on relaxing your anus).

The "need to go" response is physiological. Up to very recently the only time you have had something in your rectum it's because you really did "need to go", so your body is set up to respond that way and you haven't done much to retrain. There are several ways to convince your body that something can be in your rectum for fun and it doesn't need to be pushed out immediately, and most of them revolve around putting small or mid size toys in and holding them there for a while. You can use plugs or dildos.
04/02/2011
Contributor: musicfan2935 musicfan2935
Sounds good. I'm going to try some new stuff. Thanks for the help.
04/02/2011
Contributor: SamsDelight SamsDelight
I agree with statements said about that this could just not be something that will turn you on. From my stance though I do not get off from anal but I do enjoy it. My husband uses a bullet or other small toy to play with my clit during anal play and this way I do orgasm.
04/05/2011