my partner is into masochim, what's a a good in between?

Contributor: cec578 cec578
my partner has openly told me hes a bit of a masochist(no super, just scratching and biting a bit. He may be into more, but hasnt openly told me yet, weve been togher about 6 mo). Im not personally into this a lot, so I dont understand it super well, but not close minded to making him happy. is there any reccomendations where we could meet in the middle?
04/10/2011
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Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by cec578
my partner has openly told me hes a bit of a masochist(no super, just scratching and biting a bit. He may be into more, but hasnt openly told me yet, weve been togher about 6 mo). Im not personally into this a lot, so I dont understand it super well, ... more
This is probably a conversation you should have with him. To be in this kind of relationship there needs to be a lot of open, honest communication anyway. Why not start here, lay it all out?
04/10/2011
Contributor: leatherjacket leatherjacket
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Originally posted by Lucidity
This is probably a conversation you should have with him. To be in this kind of relationship there needs to be a lot of open, honest communication anyway. Why not start here, lay it all out?
Talking to him about it is a great suggestion. You could tell him you're willing to try and to start off slow. Create a word together when he's getting close to yellow (light street lights aka "slow down") and when he should stop (ex.red light). That way you won't feel violated during sex if he's crossed the line. Make expectations and boundaries clear before incorporating S&M.
04/12/2011