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Contributor: Badass Badass 01/24/2012

Would you rather be getting? Receiving? Or doing both at the same time?

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Isn't it hard to focus? (47 posts)
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Contributor: Badass Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
01/24/2012
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Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
I actually find that it turns me on more and really heats things up when we're both giving while receiving! At first it was somewhat difficult to accomplish both at once, but after a while you find a rhythm and just run with it
01/24/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
I find it better to do it separately that way we both can be comfortable.
01/24/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Undead
I find it better to do it separately that way we both can be comfortable.
Same here. Although my GF really does like 69, I'd prefer to concentrate either on her pleasure or my own rather than both simultaneously.
01/24/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
I love some 69, but there are things she can do to me better solo than when we 69. If I had to only have one or the other I'd probably go with solo attention (her or me).
01/24/2012
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Absolutely, solo is preferable
01/25/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I prefer one at a time. I can't enjoy it nearly as much when I'm having to focus on 2 things.
01/25/2012
Contributor: ninja250 ninja250
Prefer seperate either way giving or recieving
01/28/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Not really.
01/28/2012
Contributor: NicNat NicNat
I love it when we do 69, but it is hard to focas .
02/06/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
solo
02/06/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I prefer 69, she prefers taking turns.
02/06/2012
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
Yeah, it's too much when both are happening at the same time.
02/06/2012
Contributor: winterseve winterseve
I prefer solo as well. If he's working on me i tend to stop and get distracted.
02/06/2012
Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
Im the same way. If he's doing a great job, I tend to stop and enjoy it and forget what I am doing LMAO
02/21/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
Oops didn't know I already posted
02/24/2012
Contributor: SparklyGlitter SparklyGlitter
each take a turn
02/27/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Solo head is more fun
02/28/2012
Contributor: Trepier Trepier
Sometimes it is hard to focus, but often there is this zone when 69ing where we just work in tandem and that is the best.
03/06/2012
Contributor: AJvil AJvil
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
Separate times
03/06/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I like it at the same time. It's like a game, if you please me, I'll please you more, then you please me more. It keeps us both going full force. =P
03/12/2012
Contributor: romstomp romstomp
I like both, usually our foreplay consists of individual oral but once things get really hot, I find a switch from intercourse into a 69 to be sexy as hell.
03/17/2012
Contributor: jokerzwild jokerzwild
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
Same here, gotto focus
03/17/2012
Contributor: WD40watcher WD40watcher
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
It's fun to do it together, but neither of us achieve an orgasm from it. Don't have the same focus as when you do it separately.
04/03/2012
Contributor: goofballmaster goofballmaster
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
We have that problem too, but it's still fun to do.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Various Various
It usually starts mutually, but when one of gets really into that person stops until they climax, and then returns the favor.
04/03/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Both at the same time can be nice, but alternating tends to make things more graceful.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Kat. Kat.
i can't even feel what my partners doing i'm so focused. so one at a time for me please
06/06/2012
Contributor: konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
I find that pleasing my wife first makes my pleasure better later because we both can focus more on seeing what really works for the other one.
07/02/2012
Contributor: Jordan B Jordan B
Sometimes I lose focus while 69'ing but I get right back in there.
07/04/2012
Contributor: HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
I prefer receiving...kind of greedy. It is hard to focus on what you are doing if the other is doing a really good job!
07/04/2012
Contributor: Mikemanz Mikemanz
solo - too busy otherwise
09/24/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
Giving, sharing, getting head is the order that I would place them in.
10/04/2012
Contributor: Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
I find the problem is he doesn't focus on what he's supposed to be doing. So I prefer solo.
10/04/2012
Contributor: pokefan15 pokefan15
Solo that way we can stay focused
10/05/2012
Contributor: marigolds6 marigolds6
I have difficulty focusing with both of us at the same time, and it is an impossible task for her. Since oral sex for her is almost always a critical part of the more intense parts of our foreplay (does it count a foreplay?), I have come to enjoy it much more than receiving. After all, it means I am going to get what I want soon too
10/11/2012
Contributor: tiniest bird tiniest bird
69ing for a bit can be fun, but solo all the way for anything extended.
10/12/2012
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
we do solo, so the other can enjoy
01/08/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by tiniest bird
69ing for a bit can be fun, but solo all the way for anything extended.
i agree
01/08/2013
Contributor: giftdgecko giftdgecko
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
I enjoy both, but sometimes it's nice to just take turns and put all your focus on what you are doing
01/08/2013
Contributor: SAE09 SAE09
I get way to distracted when its all together. I like doing it one at a time that way I can to the best to my ability.
01/09/2013
Contributor: C&K0143 C&K0143
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Personally, I have a hard time focusing on doing a good job for my partner when enjoying myself, anyone else have the same dilemma?
It really depends on our moods. Sometimes I just want my husbands tongue, other times I want him in my mouth at the same time. I do prefer 69ing after a fresh waxing though since I'm usually on top and he can truly get an eyeful. - K
07/27/2013
Contributor: Layenna Layenna
I would LOVE if she gave me head at the same time I went down on her, but I don't know if she'd be able to stay in that position for long enough
10/02/2013
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I don't think I could do it, not just for lack of focus, but lack of flexibility/comfort?!
10/02/2013
Contributor: Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
I prefer one at a time. I can't enjoy it nearly as much when I'm having to focus on 2 things.
Same, I am a terrible multi-tasker
11/02/2013
Contributor: CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
My boyfriend and I don't fit together too well, but if we could fit into the position then both at the same time would probably be nice. If not then one at a time, preferably me since I like pleasing my bf but blowjobs bother my jaw.
11/03/2013
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
Definitely prefer taking turns separately. He enjoys simultaneous because he can't concentrate on himself as much and lasts longer.
11/03/2013
Contributor: Badass Badass
What changes have you made to be a better giver while receiving?
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Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I don't understand the question
01/25/2012
Contributor: goofballmaster goofballmaster
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
What changes have you made to be a better giver while receiving?
Find the most comfortable position.
04/03/2012
Contributor: HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
What changes have you made to be a better giver while receiving?
We might use a toy to help stimulate the each other. Always looking for new ways to add excitement!
07/04/2012
Contributor: Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
What changes have you made to be a better giver while receiving?
I have the opposite problem - I get so into giving my partner head that I forget to pay attention to what's being done to me!
11/02/2013
Contributor: Badass Badass
Just to see what every one else thinks
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
MamaDivine , ellejay , ninja250 , Pi , NicNat , Shellz31 , winterseve , LavenderSkies , goofballmaster , elrique , BlooJay , Missmarc , Kat. , FHeemz , konicaguy , KRD , ohsnaprawr , Lavender*Moon , MissCandyland , marigolds6 , sexxxkitten , giftdgecko , Britt93 , PrincessJones , Lucifer the Cat
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MamaDivine , Breas , unfulfilled , Ghost , SexyStuff , indiglo , ninja250 , voenne , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , NicNat , wetone123 , LavenderSkies , cottonxcandy , SparklyGlitter , joja , roskat , elrique , BlooJay , FHeemz , HusbandandWife , MissCandyland , sjclayton2912 , sexxxkitten , Lioncub , karenm , Arlinnae , Britt93 , LAndJ , QueenOfPain
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MamaDivine , ellejay , Jon S , EdenJP , potstickers , dv8 , EnterTheFist , Stinkytofu10 , LavenderSkies , nuggetman777 , dhig , pinkcupcakes , Howells , Do emu , oregonboy9 , hall5885 , BlooJay , TheFirstAxel , treefrog88 , humpday , FHeemz , KRD , SMichelle , deltalima , Anne , Kitka , giftdgecko , TiffyPixie
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unfulfilled , OhMy! , indiglo , ninja250 , voenne , NicNat , SparklyGlitter , joja , Missmarc , hybridinsurge , FHeemz , CreamySweet , tortilla , marigolds6 , karenm , Arlinnae
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MamaDivine , EnterTheFist , hall5885 , SecretKinksters , PrincessJones
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Total votes: 103 (70 voters)
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01/24/2012
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Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I like receiving and have a hard time focusing to give. My hubby just prefers to skip foreplay so I really don't get teh chance to receive or get better at doing both.
01/24/2012
Contributor: EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Just to see what every one else thinks
same time trade
01/24/2012
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Trading off is fair
01/25/2012
Contributor: dhig dhig
i love a 69
03/17/2012
Contributor: goofballmaster goofballmaster
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Just to see what every one else thinks
I actually get harder when I'm giving than receiving.
04/03/2012
Contributor: oregonboy9 oregonboy9
I find 69 so much sexier than a plain blowjob.
04/12/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I like it all.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Kat. Kat.
i don't know why but i prefer giving
06/06/2012
Contributor: TheFirstAxel TheFirstAxel
I lve giving and receiving at the same time. It adds to things and since both of us enjoy it, it usually feels better than just solo.
06/23/2012
Contributor: HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Just to see what every one else thinks
I love receiving but we do mix it up. Also I am more than willing to be the giver! Same time, separate, giver, receive it's all good!!
07/04/2012
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Just to see what every one else thinks
Hubby loves to 69... I prefer to do switch-offs lol.
07/09/2012
Contributor: Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
I love to give. It really turns me on to hear him telling me how good a job I'm doing.
10/04/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I like to be the giver or receiver. Not both at the same time though.
10/05/2012
Contributor: Arlinnae Arlinnae
I loose track if I am enjoying myself too much, and if I pay attention I cant enjoy the sensation that well.
01/08/2013
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Hubby and I don't have any problems concentrating while "same time trading".
01/08/2013
Contributor: giftdgecko giftdgecko
Love to give or do both
01/08/2013
Contributor: PrincessJones PrincessJones
both at the same time together is really nice C:
10/26/2013