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If you are into anal sex, have you actually tried to make yourself "stretch" over time? HOW, and indeed, WHY?
I enjoy anal with small toys. My hubby is the biggest thing that goes in my tush. I love feeling him there, and enjoy it a lot. We DID try anal...

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Dual Penetration
My wife and I have made anal sex a regular part of our sex life instead of just on special occasions and we love it for both of us. Any comments. We

I don't prepare before hand most of the time either, as I am always horny and I don't want to spend my entire day primping and freaking out about my ass. A shower every day and a quick baby wipe right before helps to freshen up and make me feel nice a clean. It has honestly never been a big concern with me...the whole poo thing that is. I have never seen poo from my end during butt sex, and the small traces from my husband didn't really bother me either.

When it comes to sterilizing toys discretely, a 10% bleach solution works great. I like to keep some in a spray bottle handy. You just need to spray the toy down then rinse it off and you're all good to go...so long as you don't mind the smell of bleach.

I wouldn't say as I've had any really embarrassing moments during butt sex, though torpedo butt plugs are thought to be hilarious in my household.

Generally I don't even worry too much about sterilizing my silicone toys after each use. I wash them with soap & water, but it seems to me that if soap & water is OK for the biologic equipment it should work OK for the toys as well.

I'd definitely sterilize before using it on someone else, or when moving between the butt and vagina (washing should be OK, but sterilizing just feels right), but since it's just between my wife and I it doesn't seem like it's a big deal.

I echo the comment that it's impossible to always get ready - sometimes anal things just happen. If I know about it I do like to be aware, though - digestion can vary widely between people, and sometimes things get a bit messier than others for me. In all cases, some paper towels nearby are nice just in case - for excess lube if nothing else, and a place to set used toys on.

Anyone that is really into anal play found that they've gotten sick in anyway? You hear everything about "keep it clean." I'm wondering what the real risks are. I have to wonder because fecal matter from your own body is still what you already have... Anyone gotten a yeast infection or anything else? I'm curious.

Fecal matter is a source of bacterial infection and should be kept out of the pussy. Infections here are a lot more serious then yeast infections. I put a condom on my b/f if he goes anal on me and remove it for vaginal penetration. I was even taught by my mother during early toilet training to always wipe my ass upward after a BM, never from back to front. Funny, I always remember this tip.

While things in the intestinal tract are "in your body", the intestinal tract is set up to handle various beasties and other stuff that the reproductive and urinary systems aren't (and the upper digestive tract isn't set up for them either).

It may not be a big risk, but going anal -> vaginal is a risk. Washing or using condoms is very easy, so why put your partner at risk?

Bacterial Vaginosis, anyone?

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Tate's The Natural Miracle Odorless Shampoo gets anal toys clean and odor-free. It might be helpful to add a very small amount to warm water and use it as a sort of "final rinse" after an enema.

It's funny how awkward this can be to talk about, but I am one of those people who does like to douche before anal sex. No, it is not necessary, and I do do anal spontaneously, but there's different levels of anal play that I will do depending on whether or not there's been a douche. Regular, slow, short term anal sex is not going to be a problem, particularly if you have good hygeine and decent pooing practices. Also, we all know what it feels like when you have something there right? Safe bet is that 1hr after pooping you will be good, but as you become aware of your your body works you will learn to recognize when you're clear and when you're not. Just don't do it when you're not.

However, I like a good, deep, hard and long anal session. Details aside, the way my body works the "way" is not clear for my longest dildos most of the time. So I made peace with douching - it just takes like 5-10 mins, no big deal, and I get complete piece of mind.

If you play in the sandbox, particularly if you dig deep, you will get dirty. When in doubt I use condoms. I have def. run into beanskins, santorum, and all out nastiness of the n'th degree. In my early attempts at douching, I gave myself enemas by mistake (there is a fine line, OK), and had this one terrible session with a later evacuation of water - brown water - right as I came from non anal stimulation. That's the worst it's ever been, but whatever, you go shower, wash your sheets and laugh it off. Live and learn.

Not just bacterial vaginosis. If a person has had hepatitis in the past, and you share toys, you can get hepatitis. Only A goes away. B will scar your liver for life and you will always remain positive and can pass it on by sharing blood or anal toys, and C is the worst form of hepatitis, incurable, and leads to liver failure in the future and in many cases, liver cancer. Seropositive hepatitis carriers look healthy (just like HIV carriers) till the end stages. The cleaner your anal play, the better. Even a small amount of stool that finds its way into someone's mouth can cause an E choli infection. You can also get E choli infections in wounds, your eyes, etc....and most urinary tract infections are due to Eschericia coli. Wipe, front to back, repeat and never from back to front or in circles. Pee after sex. Always.....keep your toys sanitized, use rubbers, and suppositories are a nice way to clear the rectum before anal play. Less than 15 minutes, no messy liquid, no need to lie on your left side to make sure the sigmoid colon and cecum are evacuated.

The hubbster and I have had several incidents, mostly involving toys getting um dirty. Little hot water and soap no problem. We've done this for awhile though and I've learned to know when my bodies okay to do it and not.

we keep a pack of charmin wipes at the bedside for a reason..

i only "clean house" if we're going for a marathon instead of a sprint

I prep by buying those Fleet enemas or a generic version, empty out the laxative to avoid embarrassing explosions, and fill with warm water. Repeat until you feel it is clean. I've had seepage one time, but my partner didn't mind as much since he did have a condom on. It happens, even when you think your tush is immaculate.

Wanda Sykes did a 'clean to dirty' bit on one of her comedy specials. While poop is a natural, normal thing our bodies do, exposing yourself to fecal bacteria is dangerous. Vaginally, you can get infections and sometimes worse (as Misha's pointed out). If you go ass to mouth or don't wash your hands thoroughly after manual anal play you can get e. coli and make yourself very sick. My husband actually worked with a couple who both got e. coli and missed a week of work recovering. The doctor told them they needed to be very careful and even use a nail brush, cleaning under their finger nails afterwards or use latex gloves/finger cots.

As a side note, because you mentioned it being difficult to boil the toys or put them in the dishwasher with kids around, I have 4 kids and I've boiled my toys while they were home playing in the kitchen. It's not really a big deal. They ask what I'm doing, I say washing my toys like I wash theirs and they go about their business. They'll stop by and look at some of the interesting shapes or colors on the counter, even touching some of them and asking questions. I'm not going to go into any crazy details about what their father and I actually do with our toys, but I'm not going to hide them and pretend there is something to be ashamed of.

Safety, in my opinion, is way more important than trying to hide the fact that we have sex and use toys from our kids. I also feel it's a great way to show them how open and comfortable we are with talking about anything so they will come to us in the future. If you guys aren't comfortable with cleaning your toys in front of your kids you can always wait until they are in bed for the night or do it while they are at school. You can also soak your toys in a 10% bleach solution, which can be done in a large bowl and hidden in the bathroom or something. If you absolutely can't find a way to clean your toys between holes? Cover them with condoms when you put them in your butt!

Um I say I prepare only because I do this whether or not I am having anal sex. Always squeeky clean as can be and so is my partner. Never have I had a "poo" experience.

Okay, puttin' this out there... I'm a nurse. And despite that, poo definitely is something I have yet to be able to handle. That being said, I clean up. Sometimes, things get spontaneous and it just happens and luckily nothing has come of it (if you know what I mean). Usually spontaneity means condoms. Something more planned (like before a date), I'll do it just in case it leads to that direction. But at home by myself, if it shows up on a toy, I freak out a little. I hate condoms on toys cuz it makes it feel funny, but luckily silicone (and I swear by silicone ONLY for anal toys) is easy to super clean.

For those interested in cleaning up prior, though, I recommend the Colt Anal Douche. Easy to use. I kinda followed the video from Tuesdays with Nina! Before, I used to get a store bought enema, but that got expensive over time.

Keep in mind, douching and enemas are generally unsafe to do often. While anal douching is, in my opinion, a 3 or 4 out of 10 on the bad-for-you scale, vaginal douching is definitely (unopinionated, btw) 8 or 9. While a fresh smell is always nice, you ladies should never have to deal with consequences.

Ryo, I'm a nurse, too. I do have a slightly different take on repeated anal douching and full enemas. I know that the rectum of some people can get "lazy" (the term one of my Nursing Profs used) if repeated "aids" are used to facilitate bowel movements. I've even seen this with babies, whose mother are SO worried about "regular" bowel movements, that if the poop is 5 minutes late, they bring out the glycerin suppositories or the anal bulb syringe (My mother was one of those, and I don't ever want to repeat that experience.) Some of these kids (and adults) actually become used to the stimulation the suppository or the syringe gives them and can't poop without it. Other people have NO problem.

I think it depends on the person. Also, some people have a strong gastro-colic (or anal stimulated triggered) reflex, and an enema or even an anal douche will trigger an episode of unpredictable bowel movement patterns. Some people are still being effected by it hours later, which you don't want if you are having anal sex.

Some people, however, have "sticky" poos (no other way to say it) and in that case, if they want to be the receiver of anal sex, probably a very shallow anal douche is necessary, but they may need to limit how often, and honestly, I don't' know how often is "too often." I'd say if one becomes irritated, starts having unexpected bowel movements, is still needing to "go" hours after the douche, or has diarrhea or repeated loose stools or of course, "gas" pains or cramps, stay away from douches and suppositories and enemas. A few unlucky souls even get these symptoms from even shallow anal penetration, so, as Nina Hartley explains in her book, a well lubed fist, as a receptacle for the penis, instead, placed IN FRONT of the anus can be substituted, if desired. As Nina says, if you feel uncomfortable about anal, either due to your prep (and personally, I use NO prep whatsoever, except bathing) or simply don't feel "right" about it at the moment, "you butt has the night off."

Everybody's digestive system functions differently so what works well for one person may be a disaster for an other. I think people need to experiment and see what works for their own body.