Do you pick out your toys together or alone?

Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I pick out almost all of our/my toys by myself. Once and awhile I'll ask for his input, but at the same time, he says he loves being surprised with new toys in the mail, so I usually just leave him out of the decisions.
12/13/2009
Contributor: Sassybunny85 Sassybunny85
I usually pick out my own, aside from my first toy. I try to involve my hubby as much as possible, but he's of the mindset "buy it, and I'll try it."
02/16/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Whether I have a partner or not, I tend to pick my toys on my own. My partners, in the past, have wanted me to have things that I find pleasure in and are pleasured by. I know my body better than they do, so I know what I like. I do like getting surprises from time to time, though, like I have recently
03/17/2010
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
For the most part, I pick the toys we get, but I have to check with Him to make sure He doesn't have something else in mind. If I'm consistent in getting toys both of us can use (kink stuff, lubes, massage stuff, etc.), He doesn't step in much. But if I get nothing but stuff for me for a while, He makes "suggestions" that are more like orders. Lol.
03/23/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
My boyfriend just bought me my first "surprise" from EF and I cannot wait to see what it is. It's most likely from my wishlist, but my wishlist is ridiculously huge. It's driving me nuts! He's enjoying this fact immensely.
05/09/2010
Contributor: Beloved Beloved
I buy them all. And Uh...keep them a secret. Hubby's not that into toys and I think he's embarassed by them. I tried buying him a few things (sleeves) Nope, nada. He's pretty "repressed" and I have a hard time getting him interested in any kind of "play". Sometimes he's okay, but I think it makes him uncomfortable...let's put it this way, 10 years of marriage and the guy still cums too early leaving me completely unsatisfied and uh, well, frustrated.

I buy my toys in seceret and don't want to tell him for fear he will be too sensitive that I choose a toy over him (I can't even feel him anymore, after 2 kids!!) He's not the adventurous type and sex is usually done and over with in about 5 minutes.

Talk about frustrating.
05/09/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
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Originally posted by Beloved
I buy them all. And Uh...keep them a secret. Hubby's not that into toys and I think he's embarassed by them. I tried buying him a few things (sleeves) Nope, nada. He's pretty "repressed" and I have a hard time getting him ... more
This makes me so sad!

Have you talked to your husband about this? Can you get him to marriage counseling?

You could try some Kegel exercisers to tighten up, but if he only lasts 5 minutes, that's the bigger problem. And even bigger is that you don't seem able to talk about this stuff with him. You bore the man two children, please try to talk with him. You both deserve so much more.
05/09/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I've been here awhile obviously and have always had the guy give some input. I have had a few bf's while here over the last few years. The current one is more involved when it has to do with lingerie. As far as toys go, he chooses between a few options if they are couple toys. For his assignments he does the same thing to me because he doesn't want to get something I won't wear or use.
05/09/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
If I'm looking for an assignment from Eden, I'll often ask for his input, even if he won't end up using it himself and it's a toy for me, but we sometimes use toys meant for solo female use during sex and I want to make sure it's something that he won't freak out about.

He LOVES to help me pick out lingerie. It's a huge thing for him and he absolutely loves the collection I've got now and loves being able to help me add to it.
05/10/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
We have a long distance relationship so for us it's kind of both. Lately it's just been me picking out sex toys for me because I won't see him for 10 months and need some "companionship". When we are together, we usually go look at sex shops and the like and usually get something when we can afford it. But since I've really gotten into reviewing here, I'm more aware of good brands/bad brands and prices, and a lot of those places are rip offs. He has shown interest in me getting the SinFive Pikilo, but he doesn't use toys himself (all he's used is the Tenga Egg once).

He kinda tells me what to get and I listen. He's spoiled.
07/14/2010
Contributor: sweet sally sweet sally
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Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
I picked other because we pretty much do all of the above. We go together we go seperate. We will buy for each other or ourselves. I love when he surprises me w/ a new toy.
07/14/2010
Contributor: fatesrelease fatesrelease
I like picking out toys with my boyfriend. It is a mutual decision and therefore the ones we choose are more fun because we both wanted it! Sometimes we pick out our toys but always tell one another what we are getting/want.
07/14/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I pick out the toys but he sometimes gives input on things if it's something we'll be using together. Like...glass, I like to have him use the glass on me rather than use it myself..he has a certain kind of handle that he likes so I look for stuff that has that handle.

Porn I get his input on because we'll both be watching it together. He doesn't really like to browse as much as I do though and so usually I find a few and say "hey I was thinking about these, anything look good?"

Oh and stuff with flavors or scents I ask him which sounds good.

Almost always though he's pretty indifferent and really doesn't care what I buy. I do sometimes wish he'd get a little more into it..but he just hates shopping in general and this is basically just another form of shopping for him.
07/14/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I would think it would be more fun to do a mix. Pick our own for solo time or business trips, and then together for when we have our fun with each other.
07/18/2010
Contributor: joja joja
I have tried to get my significant other interested in sex toys, but he's pretty ambivalent. His only opinion is, "Why do you need so many?" So I just pick them out and occasionally he'll get excited about something I bring home.
07/19/2010
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
We mainly choose toys together, but sometimes one of us will get the other a toy as a surprise! We talk about sex toys a lot, and the types we would like to own one day, so come birthday, holiday, whatever we have a good idea of what the other would like.
07/19/2010
Contributor: NightNight NightNight
If it's a toy that goes inside him I always consult with him before purchasing Sometimes if it's a toy that goes inside me I'll ask for his opinion just to get a different viewpoint. Other things are pretty much up to me-- he'll do what I tell him to, so
07/24/2010
Contributor: Splendwhore Splendwhore
I usually will pick out things that interest me by myself, but sometimes we'll shop together. I also often ask my partner's opinion on products, what color toy to get, and which toys to get first. I think I annoy him a bit, but I have fun "shopping" together.
07/24/2010
Contributor: Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
my wife really has no interest in picking them out, sadly
08/04/2010
Contributor: sexyhellokitty sexyhellokitty
We usually choose together. Sometimes I will pick out my own toys.
08/09/2010
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
My partner is usually traveling when I'm picking up my toys and such anyway so it is just me most of the time.
08/13/2010
Contributor: softkkisses softkkisses
unless they are gifts we both look
09/10/2010
Contributor: Not here Not here
It all depends.. Usually I will browse and narrow a few things down, then ask his opinion and go from there. Sometimes I'll browse and ask him to show me what he likes, and if I like it too, it goes on the wish list, assignment cart or shopping cart.

He doesn't have any toys just for him yet, but we're working on that. We've got a pretty tight budget and he'd like either a Fleshlight or a Tenga Fliphole, and they're a little on the expensive side right now. So, I'm saving up EdenPoints so he can have something of his own to play with
09/11/2010
Contributor: Jenniae09 Jenniae09
He's only been on the site once and said something about not caring about looking. He prefers to be in a store and feel/look at things. So needless to say he has me do everything. He describes something he wants and I narrow it down and then have him take a look. Most of it's usually for me though since I can only see him six days out of the month. Although, when I mentioned the different toys he can get on here he did perk up a little.
09/11/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
Most of the time I pick my toys on here, but sometimes we will pick them out together.
09/11/2010
Contributor: rumordavis rumordavis
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Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
to start we found this site together and made one account, but now i have my own. lol we still look together.
09/14/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
I choose all of our toys, both for my husband and myself. This is only because he is not as interested in looking through the selections, though he definitely does not mind trying them out when I get them!
09/22/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
We pick together a fair bit of the time, but I also like surprising her with toys sort of "Honey, look I bought this new thing to put in your vagina!"
09/22/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I always take his opinion into consideration. I rarely buy toys for just me, most are with the intention of sharing or for partner play. I therefore ask him what he would like, doesn't like, etc.
09/29/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I usually pick out what I want to try, and then we try out the toys together. Tonight my husband wanted to see what this site had, so we spent some time looking together for new things to try. So, how do you pick out the toys you get?
I chose mine for me, if there is a couples toy, we would chose together.
10/01/2010